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Toddler traumatised by hot food Mamakye_ Due October 19; 1 child; Australia 919 posts
11th Jun '13

I feel like a terrible mum but about 3 weeks ago my now 17month daughter grabbed MY spoon of very hot porridge and shoved a mouthful in her mouth! It upset her but left no physical burns. We gave her water and she calmed down quickly. I was right there but was taking a sip of coffee at the time and it all happened so quickly.
However since then everything in her bowl is "hot!" And it's a struggle to get her to start eating her food. She is obviously traumatised and I am very gentle and understanding. I explain to her that its not hot, but she is scared! I have tried taking small amounts of food to show her it's not hot. I have encouraged her to blow on it if she is concerned. I have even tried to have her use her finger to test it, but all I receive is a worried little face and "it's hot it's hot it's hot".
After about 15mins of this and me leaving her be (I don't want to make dinner even more traumatic!) she will begin to place her spoon near her lips and test it out, eventually eating her food.
She has always been a perfect eater and I worry I've scared her! I can assure you, none of her food is hot, we are extra careful and her food is now being served lukewarm at best.
Does anyone have any experience with this? How long was it before your child regained confidence? Any tips?
Thanks so much!

.Jezebel. 1 child; Sumter, South Carolina 9136 posts
status 11th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mamakye_:</b>" I feel like a terrible mum but about 3 weeks ago my now 17month daughter grabbed MY spoon of very hot ... [snip!] ... Does anyone have any experience with this? How long was it before your child regained confidence? Any tips? Thanks so much!"</blockquote>




I don't have personal experience with this but it sounds like she is working it out on her own. You said she will eat eventually, it's probably just gonna take her a little time to realize not all food is hot. Just give her a little time! :)

Summerfrost 51 kids; Massachusetts 6760 posts
11th Jun '13

Accidents happen. :) It's nothing to feel guilty about. As long as she's trying out the food on her own, there isn't much else you can do. Just wait it out. Toddlers get scared of all sorts of stuff and it's almost always a long process of them getting use to whatever it is again.



Example... I was in the bathroom with the bath filling up and my 2 oldest boys (5 and 3) in the bath. My oldest asked me when i was going to stop filling the tub and I made a bad joke and went 'Oh No! It's going to over flow!' (it was no where close to overflowing). Anyway, that was months ago and since then, neither of them will get in the bath until the water is done filling up the tub. If i'm not directly in the bathroom while it's filling, my 3 year old will scream because he thinks the bathroom's going to flood.



Now that one i did to myself, but that's not the only situation of that type.. you know? Just the most annoying one right now. :)



As long as you don't try to shove the food in her mouth, she'll be fine long term.