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Go out or stay home? SquirrelyMom Due May 18; 1 child; Burlington, Ontario 885 posts
13th Jun '13

I'm really stressing over whether to go to a wedding that DH and I have been invited to, or stay home with my 5 month old BF baby. My MIL is happy to watch her while we are gone, but whenever we leave her with my MIL even for just an hour or so, my baby ends up crying her eyes out. The wedding is from 4:30pm to 1am, and her usual bedtime is anywhere around 6-7pm. Because she is EBF and I haven't got her used to taking a bottle, I'm worried if she will eat for her grandma, and I'm also really worried about grandma being able to get her to sleep. She is used to nursing to sleep at night. The wedding is a little over 2 weeks away and she will be 5.5 months by then. I already said I'd go, and I would like to, but I can't shake this guilt that my LO will be miserable the whole time we're gone. Should I go or should I stay?

MagicMilk. 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Manchester, United Kingdom 2215 posts
13th Jun '13

Why can't you take her with you? DS was EBF and I went to a wedding with him when he was 5 weeks old.

SquirrelyMom Due May 18; 1 child; Burlington, Ontario 885 posts
13th Jun '13
Quoting Alice.:" Why can't you take her with you? DS was EBF and I went to a wedding with him when he was 5 weeks old."


Well that is a thought, but I imagine a 5 week old may sleep better through something like a wedding better than a 5 month old that is much more aware of its surroundings. She's a pretty light sleeper and wakes at every little sound, she would probably be miserable out with us too and we wouldn't have any fun with a tired fussy baby.

TrixieGirl Due July 4; 1 child; Maryland 1175 posts
13th Jun '13
Quoting Alice.:" Why can't you take her with you? DS was EBF and I went to a wedding with him when he was 5 weeks old."


I would def. ask the bride and groom before taking a young child to a wedding. Can you just keep practicing with the bottle? Maybe spend a little more time with MIL for the next two weeks so that LO gets more comfortable with her and have MIL give bottles while visiting?

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
13th Jun '13
Quoting Snurrie:" I'm really stressing over whether to go to a wedding that DH and I have been invited to, or stay home ... [snip!] ... like to, but I can't shake this guilt that my LO will be miserable the whole time we're gone. Should I go or should I stay? "


Personally, I would not. My son was EBF and refused bottles. I HAD to leave him for a few hours because my daughter needed an MRI, and it was horrid. He screamed the entire time because he was hungry and he refused the bottle and pumped milk.



If your LO were on a bottle some of the time, then I'd say go. No issue at all. The feeding complicated it though. . . I don't think I'd go personally, unless I could take them with me of course.

SquirrelyMom Due May 18; 1 child; Burlington, Ontario 885 posts
13th Jun '13
Quoting TrixieGirl:" I would def. ask the bride and groom before taking a young child to a wedding. Can you just keep practicing ... [snip!] ... more time with MIL for the next two weeks so that LO gets more comfortable with her and have MIL give bottles while visiting?"


Yeah I def want to start doing some pumping and bottle practice, maybe if it goes well i will feel a bit better. At least I can be with her during the earlier part of the day and get her some rest and a few feeds in her. I just keep going back and forth in my mind of feeling like it will be a disaster, or feeling like she will be ok, its just one night, and even if she cries she should eventually tucker out and go to sleep.

*021013* 2 kids; 1 angel baby; xxx, OH, United States 3821 posts
13th Jun '13

I'd just keep practicing w a bottle... I mean she will take the bottle from your MIL if she's hungry enough :) and you'd probably enjoy the time out!!

CerealMakerWife♥ TTC since Apr 2013; 5 kids; Ukraine 36287 posts
13th Jun '13

I would go. You have to take that leap some time and I'm sure you and DH could use some adult time. I would work with the bottle and spend more time with MIL, maybe even spend a night there with the baby to get everyone comfortable with it.

Rebekah Garden x3 Due October 5 (boy); 33 kids; Fall River, Massachusetts 5223 posts
13th Jun '13

I want to say, go have fun. But I am having the same dilemma! My sister is getting married next march. My little one will be 5 months. He will be EBF. And if I allow my older son to be in a kilt for her wedding kids are allowed if not my kids cannot go. And I don't want him to be in a kilt or her wedding. I think he will be too young and too shy! So although I wanna say go and have fun I don't think i will be going to my sisters wedding for the same reason!

LeiLana80 2 kids; Ohio 243 posts
13th Jun '13

**poof**

bloopbloop♥ 1 child; Illinois 13887 posts
13th Jun '13

I took my 3 1/2 month old to a wedding. His bed time is usually 6/7p and although he did fuss at first once I fed him he was fine. Of course I did ask the Bride and Groom. My son doesn't take bottles he hates them