Kids close within age Shelby Chappell Due November 29; 1 child; Alberta 1575 posts13th Jun
So we just found out today we are expecting and it has me thinking a lot how things are going to change for us. My DS is 8.5 months right now so they will be about 18 months apart from each other. Was it a hard adjustment to have a toddler and a newborn? Were you worried about how much attention a newborn needs and if your toddler felt left out? Was it not as bad as some people say and was an easy adjustment? I am not looking forward to having two kids in diapers but we did want children close in age so that when they grew up they could hopefully be really good friends and play together a lot.
MonkCakes 3 kids; Texas 20945 posts13th Jun
My oldest and 2nd are 20 months apart and my 2nd and this baby will be 17 months apart my seat and youngest will be barely 3 yrs apart I wouldn't have it any other way I love it and had no issues with the age so far
Pregnancy Addiction Due August 10; TTC since Mar 2013; 7 kids; Wyoming 10117 postsstatus 13th Jun
My two oldest children are only 13 months apart, I personally found the transition very easy lol.
S & S *20weeks* Due December 29; 16 kids; Larouche, Quebec 1123 posts13th Jun
Quoting Shelby Chappell:" So we just found out today we are expecting and it has me thinking a lot how things are going to change ... [snip!] ... did want children close in age so that when they grew up they could hopefully be really good friends and play together a lot."
I am 18 months older than my little brother. We always gave each other hugs and kisses, rarely fought, and are the best of friends to this very day. The fact that you will have 2 kids raised with the same morals, same parents, in the same house with the same schools and experiences, usually creates a bond of understanding like no other. No one your kid's age will completely understand their background but each other. It's a super special ad unique bond, I give you all of my congradulations!
My mother was very worried about how I would react to have a new baby in the house sleeping in MY old crib while I'm put in another room in another bed, if I would act out and get jealous, if I would hit my brother, if I would feel less loved, etc. My mom eve worried about how she would be able to love another child as much as she loved me? Her heart didn't feel like it had enough room to store that much love, but she proved herself wrong.
However, yes it will be twice the work. It won't be easy; one baby will get up and wake the other baby, or one will sleep when the other wakes up, both may need you at once, etc. It is exhausting, but once they both do their nights and you can get a good 6 hours of sleep in, it'll get better. Also, be sure to still give your oldest plenty of attention so they don't feel left out. Again I am drawing this from my mom's experience.
Good luck! x*x
Tiffany Knickerbocker 19 kids; Indiana 519 posts13th Jun
My oldest two are 14 months apart. What made it hard was when I went somewhere by myself and I had two babies and their stuff to carry. Also the first 3 months were hard with a baby waking up at all hours of the night and then having a toddler up during the day. But now my oldest two are 5 and 6 and I also have a five month old and in all honesty I wish they were all closer in age because it would make doing family activities easier.
LorettaWest TTC since May 2013; 1 child; Auckland, New Zealand 3762 posts14th Jun
Watching as DS is 7.5 months and I've just come off the depo to try conceive number 2 ;)
mommy2two0212 TTC since Dec 2011; 50 kids; Morton, Illinois 83 posts14th Jun
I have no advise but congratulations!! My first two are 10 1/2 years apart. My son will be 11 on Monday and my daughter is 7 months. My DH and I plan on starting to TTC #3 either this month or next because we would like to have them closer together this time. It was not by choice our other 2 are that far apart its just how it happened.
mom2andrew&carter 18 kids; Leesburg, Florida 2159 posts14th Jun
my two are 18 months apart. so you can always message me about anything cause ive been through but your about to go through. i was lucky with my toddler though he loved his baby brother from the beginning and always wanted to be right by him and help me with him. i felt like i was neglecting my toddler though cause my lo was a very needy baby nd had colic really bad. you will have your good days and your bad. i still do to this day and they are 2 and 9 months old now. they are starting to play together now but are also starting to fight now. somedays are just plain hell when other days are the best days.
Shelby Chappell Due November 29; 1 child; Alberta 1575 posts14th Jun
Thank you ladies :) DH and I are really excited. We wanted our family right away and I swear my DH has magic s***m. When I was younger I wasn't as careful as I should have been with my ex's and such but with him it was like BAM. And I don't feel as paniced this time around because we have everything already pretty much. Just need to wait and find out if it is a boy or a girl. If its a girl then we will need clothes but if it's a boy we are set :) Ah I'm sorry I'm still on cloud 9