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nothing to see Due August 21; 2 kids; Japan 602 posts
14th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting hobbit*:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting nothing to see:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Onalee's ... [snip!] ... being around other children and not just adults all the time. How old is your oldest child? Would he look after your youngest?"</blockquote>

oldest is 3. I am also looking after dh s niece who s two (we re in the process of having full custody of her) but she does go to her grandma on week end and sometimes during the week if her grandma ask for her

so no, to answer your question my oldest is just a "toddler" himself

TrixieGirl Due July 4; 1 child; Maryland 1175 posts
14th Jun '13

I think your husband needs to put himself in your shoes. YOu are pregant and caring for two young children. That is exhausting. Asking for a couple of hours a week to have to your self to clean (not even "me" time) is not asking for much. Especially since the care is at no cost to you and your older child attends the same day care. I think he needs to give this a chance in order to support you. I bet LO would really enjoy all of the intereaction with new faces and kids. 2 hours a day is nothing and you deserve it. If he really isnt willing to agree to it, I would suggest asking him to set aside 4 hours a week that he can watch the kids so you can have the time you need. Even though I am a full time working mom, I understand the concept that for SAHM's that it can be frustrating that SO gets a break during the day at work with adults while Mom does not get as much time away which you just need from time to time for sanity sake really!

tinana+2 TTC since Nov 2013; 2 kids; Armpit, of, Ireland 29526 posts
14th Jun '13
Quoting Teenage Girl:" <blockquote><b>Quoting nothing to see:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Teenage ... [snip!] ... I'm siding with your DH here. That would be really nice but a huge waste of money IMO and he doesn't feel comfortable with it."

:!: I couldn't just go against his wishes for something regarding the kids like that. Nobody here gets the final say, we talk it over and if he has valid points or if I have valid points, we come to an agreement some other way.

In our case, I just did mini play dates for our oldest when I was pregnant with my youngest (they are 22 mos apart.)