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Teen Pregnancy VS Adults Alexis Danielle Smith Due January 21 (girl); Boston, Massachusetts 131 posts
14th Jun '13

I'm seventeen & my boyfriend & I just found out we are pregnant!!! Yay! But, I feel that because I'm seventeen that adults don't take me seriously, just because I'm a teenager. I feel like everyone is setting me up to fail, just to prove I can't do it. Which I can, my boyfriend is 20 & he's almost done with college & I know we'll be okay.
But, opinions?
Thanks! :D

user banned 2 kids; Moses Lake, Washington 13508 posts
14th Jun '13

I think you're making a big deal about something you're saying is no big deal.

Blythe. 1 child; Indiana 22379 posts
14th Jun '13

if you behave like an adult people will treat you like one.

user banned 2 kids; Bat Cave, North Carolina 64587 posts
14th Jun '13

No one can set you up to fail but yourselves. People may expect you to fail, but that doesn't mean that they're setting you up to.
You said your boyfriend is almost done with college. What about you? What have you accomplished? My biggest suggestion is that you be smart and make sure that you can support yourself and a child in case he isn't always around. Finish school. Save up money. Good luck.

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
14th Jun '13
Quoting Jillynne:" I think you're making a big deal about something you're saying is no big deal."

This. Dont label yourself a teen mother you are just a mother. Act mature and dont draw attention to your age. Just live your life and do the best you can.

user banned 3 kids; Los Angeles, California 54034 posts
14th Jun '13

I don't think anyone's setting you up to fail--they just see your situation from a different perspective. At any rate, I know a few ladies who were moms as teens and are doing quite well. You can do it, work hard and don't be afraid to ask for help.

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14113 posts
14th Jun '13

You want opinions on whether you're going to fail as a mother? There is no way for anyone to know that when you're still pregnant. Being 17 doesn't make a difference.

Drunk Blair Waldorf 2 kids; Alpharetta, Georgia 19208 posts
14th Jun '13

It's HARD. It's not that they're setting you up to fail. They're setting you up for real life. You're 17, so either you have another year of high school left or you just graduated. You said your boyfriend is ALMOST done with college but not yet. He still has to find a job once he graduates. Depending on what his degree is in, that could happen quickly or not at all.



Kids are expensive. Kids are draining physically and emotionally. Can a teen be a parent? Absolutely! Is it harder to support your child without an education? You bet it is.



It's rude of people to tell you that you're going to fail with certainty. That was uncalled for, but you should realize that it's not all going to be sunshine and roses and that the money to support your child has to come from somewhere.

user banned 2 kids; Bat Cave, North Carolina 64587 posts
14th Jun '13
Quoting Drunk Blair Waldorf:" It's HARD. It's not that they're setting you up to fail. They're setting you up for real life. You're ... [snip!] ... realize that it's not all going to be sunshine and roses and that the money to support your child has to come from somewhere."


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GiannasMomma 1 child; Illinois 5716 posts
14th Jun '13

Umm.... Were you trying to get pregnant?

user banned 2 kids; Bat Cave, North Carolina 64587 posts
14th Jun '13
Quoting GiannasMomma:" Umm.... Were you trying to get pregnant?"


That's an irrelevant question.

♥MomToSilas+1♥ Due December 9; 1 child; ., IL, United States 11500 posts
14th Jun '13
Quoting Drunk Blair Waldorf:" It's HARD. It's not that they're setting you up to fail. They're setting you up for real life. You're ... [snip!] ... realize that it's not all going to be sunshine and roses and that the money to support your child has to come from somewhere."


This!



No one can set you up to fail but yourself. So don't allow yourself to fail. Try your hardest and do right for you and your child. Stay in school and get the education you need.
Don't label yourself as a "teen mom"
You are going to be a mother. Just like everyone else.
Just keep in mind that life is hard. And life with kids is even harder.

Back to Noob Status Ohio 14048 posts
14th Jun '13

I know of a couple of former teen moms who had kids at your age (and younger) and ended up becoming really successful. One is an attorney and the other runs a fortune 500 company. The big key to their success was that they went to college (and graduated) and did NOT have a second child, or at least not while they were young. You can do it with one, but once you start having two, three, four kids...it becomes very difficult.

user banned Due November 7 (boy); 1 child; Dayton, Ohio 26853 posts
14th Jun '13
Quoting The Original Mayhem.:" That's an irrelevant question. "


Disagree.
I am sure more people would be questioning her maturity level if she was intentionally trying to start a family without thinking about the real world facts.

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14113 posts
14th Jun '13
Quoting Back to Noob Status:" I know of a couple of former teen moms who had kids at your age (and younger) and ended up becoming really ... [snip!] ... while they were young. You can do it with one, but once you start having two, three, four kids...it becomes very difficult. "


This is true. A lot of teenage mothers have a second right after their first and that's when the ground starts sinking.