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Benefits of IGNORING children.. Freespirit 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Michigan 3491 posts
status 14th Jun '13

thoughts/opinions? agree or disagree with this article?



http://www.mothering.com/community/a/the-benefits-of-ignoring-children-sometimes

SherryandMatt Due February 15 (boy); 1 child; 6 angel babies; Arizona 3946 posts
status 14th Jun '13

LOL isnt that like when I'm on BG... :) I kid , I kid:)

Black Cat 1 child; Marvel, PA, United States 3809 posts
14th Jun '13

I agree. I think children need to learn independence. I don't always hover over my son. I never really have. There is a difference between attending to their needs and being a helicopter mom.

Buzz and Almond Joys momm 2 kids; Albuquerque, New Mexico 12593 posts
14th Jun '13

I don't know how this is ignoring children... But I agree 100%

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
14th Jun '13

I practice loving neglect.

user banned 21 kids; North Dakota 3800 posts
14th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sly Saffy:</b>" I practice loving neglect."</blockquote>




Lol!

A & T + 2♡ 2 kids; Kansas 19248 posts
14th Jun '13

I definitely agree with this.

user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
14th Jun '13

i tell my eldest all the time, "this isn't all about you" when we're out at the store, museum, etc.

♀NoBoysAllowed 19 kids; San Diego, California 51862 posts
14th Jun '13

I definitely agree. It's even occurred to me that they may not even want constant attention. If I had someone always hovering, watching my every move, I'd go insane.

Mama Rice 34 kids; North Las Vegas, Nevada 11980 posts
14th Jun '13

I agree with the article. Yes my children are important and a vital part of my life, however they are not my entire life. When I take a bath I close and lock the door (my DH is home so they are not alone) and read my kindle alone.

. , Richmond, VA, United States 74920 posts
14th Jun '13

I think people post these things online with controversial titles to get more views. I was expecting to read about actually ignoring your kids hah. I agree though, kids don't need to be held or touched or stared at 24/7. There's nothing healthy about that. Most people naturally need their own time and space anyways.

Buzz and Almond Joys momm 2 kids; Albuquerque, New Mexico 12593 posts
14th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ¿ ¼ ¿:</b>" I think people post these things online with controversial titles to get more views. I was expecting ... [snip!] ... or touched or stared at 24/7. There's nothing healthy about that. Most people naturally need their own time and space anyways."</blockquote>



This was my thought!

Interrobang!? 6 kids; Ontario 1176 posts
15th Jun '13

I "ignore" my children most of the day :D



My 5, 4 and 3 year olds go out in the yard all day. I seldom stand around and watch them. When we had open but unfenced space in Quebec they were confined to the garden often, but now with 10 fenced acres, they play all over the place and with no mind to me. When we first moved here I tested it and found I could hear them scream from any place on the property, in any room of the house. I figure there's two scenarios to go check on them... 1: no noise, which means either they're in trouble or they're making trouble; 2: that ear-splitting fear scream, rather than the normal all-day-long screams.



I don't run out and save them if they've gotten a scrape. I don't run out and intervene if they're bickering or not sharing nicely. If thye're all out fistfighting (the joy of twins!) I do, but up until that point, I leave them alone. I don't bring them snacks (they can come get it any time), make them wear shoes/coats/hats (if they're that cold, they'll come in and get them), or have a rule-laying session before I let them out.



Yes, they get hurt. They fall out of trees, off the family pony (quiet as a lamb and no higher a fall than your average bed, LOL), they skin their knees. We bought old playground equipment a few years ago (the kind so DANGEROUS that it can't be found in city parks any more -- merry go rounds, metal slides, jungle gym, tetherball) and they get bumps and bruises from that all the time. In the summer their natural state is bruised, barefoot and dirty.



And they love every second of it. They're very resilient, not easily frightened, and have more confidence in themselves and their ability to do things for themselves than most adults I know :)