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The Master 2 kids; Perth, Australia 19989 posts
16th Jun '13
Quoting ~Ice Princess~:" Yeah, I can understand using them for SN. I mean, I don't care if someone uses one, but feel like with ... [snip!] ... I've even spanked in public (I don't spank any more because it doesn't work).... Never once had any issue with other people."


I don't know if its just where I live ... Its very much a damned if you do and damned if you don't situation. If you let your kid melt down people glare at you and whisper and make comments ... if you try and discipline them then you get security called on you.

justanothamotha Due January 20; 130 kids; Climax, Michigan 5120 posts
16th Jun '13

I tired it with my 1st. He hated it so we never really sued it. #2 loved it, still does 7 asks to wear it, even though he clearly doesn't need it at this point (he sticks right by me). I think they are awesome if they work well & the child can cope. I think they are cruel when forced on a kid who clearly hates it (like my older one). It is nothing more than a tool. I think it's silly to relate it to a dog leash though. You either train your kid to heel or put a leash on them - so I could compare training a kid to stay with you to dog training, but again, that is silly. Children shouldn't be compared to dogs period. The person comparing a child to a dog is the one who is being degrading toward the child, not the person holding the child harness.

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
16th Jun '13
Quoting ~Ice Princess~:" We do a buddy system in crowded places. Everyone gets a buddy."


:!:
I took all 4 kids on my own to a generally heavily populated zoo on Thursday. I had a stroller for the 2 year old to go in to rest but generally, my 7 year old teams up with the 4 year old and my 5 year old teams up with the 2 year old.

Interrobang!? 6 kids; Ontario 1176 posts
16th Jun '13
Quoting Sly Saffy:" :!: I took all 4 kids on my own to a generally heavily populated zoo on Thursday. I had a stroller ... [snip!] ... old to go in to rest but generally, my 7 year old teams up with the 4 year old and my 5 year old teams up with the 2 year old."

We do something similar. Right now my baby rides sling with DH or I, and Soph (22mos) holds our hand or walks by our side (she doesn't run). Our 3 year olds hold onto each other, which keeps the more impulsive one from getting off too fast by herself, and our 4 and 5 year olds hold hands for the same reason if Grace is edgy or hyper at the time. If not she's fine on her own but even if we don't ask them to, they still end up holding hands :) It's very cute.

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
16th Jun '13
Quoting Interrobang!?:" We do something similar. Right now my baby rides sling with DH or I, and Soph (22mos) holds our hand ... [snip!] ... at the time. If not she's fine on her own but even if we don't ask them to, they still end up holding hands :) It's very cute."


They all wore wristbands with my cell number on it and my older 2 were versed in what to do if they got separated from me. They were to find a zoo employee or volunteer to get help. They could tell a stranger they were lost if asked and if they would call for me but they were to NOT leave with the stranger under any circumstance. I would come get them.

user banned 1 child; Portland, Maine 20613 posts
16th Jun '13
Quoting ~Ice Princess~:" Not really. You teach them from the time they start to walk..."


I have. Whenever we're out in public I try holding hands and keeping her from running off. When she doesn't want to hold hands or use the stroller or ergo, I get the leash.

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
16th Jun '13
Quoting Thisperyears:" I have. Whenever we're out in public I try holding hands and keeping her from running off. When she doesn't want to hold hands or use the stroller or ergo, I get the leash. "


Lies.
You drag her around all the time.

user banned 1 child; Portland, Maine 20613 posts
16th Jun '13
Quoting Sly Saffy:" Lies. You drag her around all the time."


Shhh.



Confession: Sometimes I just grab her by the ankles and sling her over my shoulder caveman style. Just because.

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
16th Jun '13
Quoting Thisperyears:" Shhh. Confession: Sometimes I just grab her by the ankles and sling her over my shoulder caveman style. Just because."


I carry Nora like a football.

draven 5 kids; Florida 724 posts
16th Jun '13

We have never used one. My kids have always known to stay with us and not run around. I don't care what others do.

Iron Man 6 kids; 1 angel baby; 1700 posts
17th Jun '13

I like the idea of the buddy system. I'm going to give it a shot, actually!



I'm taking my crew to the zoo today...(It'll be quieter since it's a weekday, or so I'm hoping) It's going to be interesting, because I have two in particular that will probably have no regard for it unless they're put together. Which I refuse to do, because that point all hell would break loose.



@SlySaffy...did you just make the wristbands, or how did you do those? And do you make them hold hands, or do they just have to stick together....? How do you make it work with them?

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
17th Jun '13
Quoting Iron Man:" I like the idea of the buddy system. I'm going to give it a shot, actually! I'm taking my crew to the ... [snip!] ... you do those? And do you make them hold hands, or do they just have to stick together....? How do you make it work with them?"


The zoo customer service kiosk has them for free but I'm going to get a cell phone for the oldest where she can call me if she gets lost.



And they just have to stay together. They do have to hold hands if we're in a packed place...like in the fish and reptile building, they had to hold hands while in there. Out in the open, they just have to stick together.

Proginoskes II 3 kids; North Carolina 1295 posts
17th Jun '13
Quoting Sly Saffy:" They all wore wristbands with my cell number on it and my older 2 were versed in what to do if they ... [snip!] ... asked and if they would call for me but they were to NOT leave with the stranger under any circumstance. I would come get them."


The wristband idea is pretty smart! I'd be super worried to take my daughter to a place like a zoo or whatever without her monkey [leash]- she's nonverbal, but very friendly and would probably be a perfect target to be snatched :(.



I wish she was still small enough for me to wear her, but she's nearly 40 lbs so f**k that.

M walls 4 kids; Keenesburg, Colorado 7267 posts
18th Jun '13

When my oldest was 2 and I had a newborn I had to use the leash on her a lot. Back then I didn't drive so we walked & used public transportation, plus she was a runner

Minion Due September 30 (girl); 2 kids; ., GA, United States 21158 posts
status 18th Jun '13

My nearly 6 year old needs one. We don't use it unless we are in a large crowd though.



He has ODD and FAS and if he decides he doesn't want to listen he is not going to listen. And if he gets it in his head he wants to run across the street, he will. I've had my foot stomped and him yanking his hand from mine before. I usually grab him before he gets too far though, thankfully.



He honestly does not understand cars are dangerous. His response is "oh well I'll just punch the car and knock it off the road." And he's dead serious, no matter how many times we tell him cars will kill you.
We've even shown him a video of someone getting run over to hopefully make it sink in, but it didn't even phase him. :?



And if you force him to hold your hand he will use his body weight to try to pull away and start crying that you're hurting him (even though you're not) and he eats louder and louder. :(