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user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
Jun 16th '13
Quoting ~Ice Princess~:" We do a buddy system in crowded places. Everyone gets a buddy."


:!:
I took all 4 kids on my own to a generally heavily populated zoo on Thursday. I had a stroller for the 2 year old to go in to rest but generally, my 7 year old teams up with the 4 year old and my 5 year old teams up with the 2 year old.

Interrobang!? 6 kids; Ontario 1176 posts
Jun 16th '13
Quoting Sly Saffy:" :!: I took all 4 kids on my own to a generally heavily populated zoo on Thursday. I had a stroller ... [snip!] ... old to go in to rest but generally, my 7 year old teams up with the 4 year old and my 5 year old teams up with the 2 year old."

We do something similar. Right now my baby rides sling with DH or I, and Soph (22mos) holds our hand or walks by our side (she doesn't run). Our 3 year olds hold onto each other, which keeps the more impulsive one from getting off too fast by herself, and our 4 and 5 year olds hold hands for the same reason if Grace is edgy or hyper at the time. If not she's fine on her own but even if we don't ask them to, they still end up holding hands :) It's very cute.

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
Jun 16th '13
Quoting Interrobang!?:" We do something similar. Right now my baby rides sling with DH or I, and Soph (22mos) holds our hand ... [snip!] ... at the time. If not she's fine on her own but even if we don't ask them to, they still end up holding hands :) It's very cute."


They all wore wristbands with my cell number on it and my older 2 were versed in what to do if they got separated from me. They were to find a zoo employee or volunteer to get help. They could tell a stranger they were lost if asked and if they would call for me but they were to NOT leave with the stranger under any circumstance. I would come get them.

user banned 1 child; Portland, Maine 20613 posts
Jun 16th '13
Quoting ~Ice Princess~:" Not really. You teach them from the time they start to walk..."


I have. Whenever we're out in public I try holding hands and keeping her from running off. When she doesn't want to hold hands or use the stroller or ergo, I get the leash.

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
Jun 16th '13
Quoting Thisperyears:" I have. Whenever we're out in public I try holding hands and keeping her from running off. When she doesn't want to hold hands or use the stroller or ergo, I get the leash. "


Lies.
You drag her around all the time.

user banned 1 child; Portland, Maine 20613 posts
Jun 16th '13
Quoting Sly Saffy:" Lies. You drag her around all the time."


Shhh.



Confession: Sometimes I just grab her by the ankles and sling her over my shoulder caveman style. Just because.

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
Jun 16th '13
Quoting Thisperyears:" Shhh. Confession: Sometimes I just grab her by the ankles and sling her over my shoulder caveman style. Just because."


I carry Nora like a football.

draven 5 kids; Florida 724 posts
Jun 16th '13

We have never used one. My kids have always known to stay with us and not run around. I don't care what others do.

Iron Man 6 kids; 1 angel baby; 1700 posts
Jun 17th '13

I like the idea of the buddy system. I'm going to give it a shot, actually!



I'm taking my crew to the zoo today...(It'll be quieter since it's a weekday, or so I'm hoping) It's going to be interesting, because I have two in particular that will probably have no regard for it unless they're put together. Which I refuse to do, because that point all hell would break loose.



@SlySaffy...did you just make the wristbands, or how did you do those? And do you make them hold hands, or do they just have to stick together....? How do you make it work with them?

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
Jun 17th '13
Quoting Iron Man:" I like the idea of the buddy system. I'm going to give it a shot, actually! I'm taking my crew to the ... [snip!] ... you do those? And do you make them hold hands, or do they just have to stick together....? How do you make it work with them?"


The zoo customer service kiosk has them for free but I'm going to get a cell phone for the oldest where she can call me if she gets lost.



And they just have to stay together. They do have to hold hands if we're in a packed place...like in the fish and reptile building, they had to hold hands while in there. Out in the open, they just have to stick together.

Proginoskes II 3 kids; North Carolina 1295 posts
Jun 17th '13
Quoting Sly Saffy:" They all wore wristbands with my cell number on it and my older 2 were versed in what to do if they ... [snip!] ... asked and if they would call for me but they were to NOT leave with the stranger under any circumstance. I would come get them."


The wristband idea is pretty smart! I'd be super worried to take my daughter to a place like a zoo or whatever without her monkey [leash]- she's nonverbal, but very friendly and would probably be a perfect target to be snatched :(.



I wish she was still small enough for me to wear her, but she's nearly 40 lbs so f**k that.

⚓Misty⚓ 4 kids; Keenesburg, Colorado 7276 posts
Jun 18th '13

When my oldest was 2 and I had a newborn I had to use the leash on her a lot. Back then I didn't drive so we walked & used public transportation, plus she was a runner

Minion 3 kids; ., GA, United States 21802 posts
Jun 18th '13

My nearly 6 year old needs one. We don't use it unless we are in a large crowd though.



He has ODD and FAS and if he decides he doesn't want to listen he is not going to listen. And if he gets it in his head he wants to run across the street, he will. I've had my foot stomped and him yanking his hand from mine before. I usually grab him before he gets too far though, thankfully.



He honestly does not understand cars are dangerous. His response is "oh well I'll just punch the car and knock it off the road." And he's dead serious, no matter how many times we tell him cars will kill you.
We've even shown him a video of someone getting run over to hopefully make it sink in, but it didn't even phase him. :?



And if you force him to hold your hand he will use his body weight to try to pull away and start crying that you're hurting him (even though you're not) and he eats louder and louder. :(

mamaluvsher4babies 36 kids; California 4230 posts
Jun 18th '13

I think they are a good idea on the special needs, other then that I think they are degrading! never used one never will!

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
Jun 18th '13

I haven't needed to use one but I can for SURE see the advantage. It all depends on your kids. When I had one and it was my daughter, I thought they were horrible. Teach them to hold your hand, I said.



Then I had my son. He's a runner. He is a screamer. He will dart away in a heartbeat. If I felt I needed one to keep him safe I'd do it in a heartbeat. It's no worse than a stroller. Honestly, it at least gives them some freedom. If you want to think of it as "degrading" then a guess play pens are also because they are basically kennels, and strollers are because they're basically carrying cases for dogs.



I say do what it takes to keep your kids safe so long as it isn't hurting them.