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.Christin. 1 child; Florida 1351 posts
17th Jun '13

With my experience people like that never change BUT you can either decide to put up with it or try to talk to him about it. I know you said it is a constant disagreement you guys have so maybe try writing how you feel in a letter and give it to him when you're not going to be around him for awhile that way he has time to think about it and this way you guys won't have a chance to argue about it. If he doesn't want to give you some freedom and you don't want to deal with it anymore then tell him you need time apart, that you need to reevaluate your relationship maybe that will make him change or maybe that will shed some light on the situation for you. Good luck OP!

Monsters² Mom 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Dahlgren, VA, United States 4993 posts
status 17th Jun '13

Honestly he sounds guilty as fuck. I love both of you and I've said it from the beginning, he is too much like dad. He is insecure and he is being a big fucking dick. YOU DON'T DESERVE TO BE TREATED THIS WAY!! NOBODY HAS THE RIGHT TO TELL YOU WHAT YOU CAN AND CAN'T DO!!



If I were you I would take the boys and leave for a few days.

Butterfly Guns 2 kids; Upland, CA, United States 6012 posts
17th Jun '13

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Monsters² Mom 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Dahlgren, VA, United States 4993 posts
status 17th Jun '13

Manipulation is the beginning form of abuse. It starts out with him doing something wrong, you call him out on it, but he'll do something (like clean/cook/ect) to make you feel guilty about his wrongdoings. Eventually this type of master manipulation turns into you apologizing for what he's doing because you feel like you're the one making him act that way. Its almost classic stockholm syndrome.



I suggest if you're willing to work on this seek a professional marriage counselor.

Butterfly Guns 2 kids; Upland, CA, United States 6012 posts
17th Jun '13

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Monsters² Mom 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Dahlgren, VA, United States 4993 posts
status 17th Jun '13
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Vitameatavegamin 19 kids; League City, Texas 5829 posts
17th Jun '13

He sounds like my DH's clone. SERIOUSLY. Everything you just said is EXACTLY what my DH does/says. And I feel the same way as you. I finally gave up the argument about going out with my friends to a bar. Instead we agreed that just he and I will go out and do something every weekend as a date night, and we've been doing it for 3 weeks now. Although I do miss my friend, it's not worth my marriage. And he won't let me take the 2 kids we share to my family's houses without him... he truly thinks I'm going to leave him and keep his kids from him.

proud mommy of 3 lil mons 3 kids; Minnesota 97 posts
17th Jun '13

My ex fiance was the same way, the only place I could go was to Work and class, when I would get home he would take my cell phone until the next day. I couldn't hang out with friends I was still able to see my family but only when he wanted me to, if ppl he dnt like text me when I was able to have my phone on me he would break my phone if I would answer them back I went through a lot of phone with him. He would hit me if I asked him if I asked to go somewhere with a friend or if I had pissed if that man has so many anger probs.

Butterfly Guns 2 kids; Upland, CA, United States 6012 posts
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Monsters² Mom 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Dahlgren, VA, United States 4993 posts
status 17th Jun '13
Quoting Bri
Vitameatavegamin 19 kids; League City, Texas 5829 posts
17th Jun '13
Quoting Bri