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breast implants user banned
17th Jun '13

Okay, so I know a ton of people out there blame the media & society for how girls feel about themselves, what they want to look like, what they want to wear, etc.



What if you have breast implants? What do you feel that displays to your kids? You want them to feel comfortable in their own skin, meanwhile you paid $$$$ for your b**bs, that serve no purpose other than to make yourself look/feel better?



What if you don't "dress for your age"? I know I have one friend whose mom is in her mid-late 40's, and she just cares sooo much about the name brands and "dressing young" and it is super embarrassing for my friend.



How would you talk to your child about this stuff, if you are the one setting this kind of example to them?




*** I have nothing against plastic surgery, ( in moderation ) FYI. I'd love a b**b job, I'm just so scared of the healing ***

Nathan Young 2 kids; Syracuse, New York 57578 posts
17th Jun '13

I would guess that most people that are very much into their own self-image and doing what they can to fit into society's view of a "perfect person" probably would push the self love along with striving for their "best" whatever that meant to them (they may condone the same physical enhancements for their children to make themselves feel more comfortable, for example).



I think media and society definitely play a part, but a lot of it is also what our parents model for us.



I think if someone is getting breast implants and telling their child to love themselves and their bodies for what they are, their kids may be getting mixed messages and feel confused or feel resentful.

Mama Rice 34 kids; North Las Vegas, Nevada 11980 posts
17th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting The Doctor:</b>" I would guess that most people that are very much into their own self-image and doing what they can to ... [snip!] ... themselves and their bodies for what they are, their kids may be getting mixed messages and feel confused or feel resentful."</blockquote>



My mom had a b**b job and told us to be proud of what we had. I didn't feel there was anything wrong with it.

Nathan Young 2 kids; Syracuse, New York 57578 posts
17th Jun '13
Quoting Mama Rice:" <blockquote><b>Quoting The Doctor:</b>" I would guess that most people that are very ... [snip!] ... My mom had a b**b job and told us to be proud of what we had. I didn't feel there was anything wrong with it."


There's nothing wrong with it.



I just said some kids may feel confused or resentful for a parent telling them one thing, but doing something else, KWIM?



Like... okay, along with the body image thing, if your parent was telling you they were fat when they were very skinny, but telling you to be happy with your body even if you were larger then them? Maybe it wouldn't bother some kids. Some kids it would.



Or... if, for example, a parent had a large nose, and the child inherited that nose. If they got a nose job, but told the child their nose was perfect, I'm sure some kids wouldn't be bothered. Others would.

user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
17th Jun '13
Quoting The Doctor:" There's nothing wrong with it. I just said some kids may feel confused or resentful for a parent telling ... [snip!] ... nose. If they got a nose job, but told the child their nose was perfect, I'm sure some kids wouldn't be bothered. Others would."


Right, like "actions speak louder than words"



So if you go out and "fix" your face and get bigger b**bs and stuff, your kids are going to think you're a hypocrite (as they get older, obviously a toddler isn't gonna understand)

Nathan Young 2 kids; Syracuse, New York 57578 posts
17th Jun '13
Quoting JiLLiAN.:" Right, like "actions speak louder than words" So if you go out and "fix" your face and get bigger ... [snip!] ... and stuff, your kids are going to think you're a hypocrite (as they get older, obviously a toddler isn't gonna understand)"



Yes, exactly. And, again, it's not inherently wrong.



Some kids would react completely differently than others, but some children would definitely feel resentment for something that they viewed as hypocrisy.

Mama Rice 34 kids; North Las Vegas, Nevada 11980 posts
17th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting The Doctor:</b>" Yes, exactly. And, again, it's not inherently wrong. Some kids would react completely differently ... [snip!] ... differently than others, but some children would definitely feel resentment for something that they viewed as hypocrisy."</blockquote>



The only thing I did find hypocritical of my mom (not angry or resentful, just that she is a hypocrite) is that when my sister got implants at 18 she LOST it. She was pissed. She had a terrible recovery and one of hers burst (it was silicone still and it has caused health problems) but she didn't share any of that until my sister got hers.

Nathan Young 2 kids; Syracuse, New York 57578 posts
17th Jun '13
Quoting Mama Rice:" <blockquote><b>Quoting The Doctor:</b>" Yes, exactly. And, again, it's not inherently ... [snip!] ... hers burst (it was silicone still and it has caused health problems) but she didn't share any of that until my sister got hers."


Yeah, that would frustrate me, too.



Eating disorders are pretty prevalent in my family, and it's awful to watch one person put themselves down aloud, and then see the other beating themselves up for being larger, for being hungry, anything. And, I mean, that's where I'm coming from on this debate. Children take a lot from their parents, and that hypocrisy can be very damaging, not that it is in all instances.



I'm pretty sure a child isn't going to be scarred for life if you tell them they're beautiful like they are but put on some makeup, KWIM?

Mama Rice 34 kids; North Las Vegas, Nevada 11980 posts
17th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting The Doctor:</b>" Yeah, that would frustrate me, too. Eating disorders are pretty prevalent in my family, and it's awful ... [snip!] ... sure a child isn't going to be scarred for life if you tell them they're beautiful like they are but put on some makeup, KWIM?"</blockquote>



I am looking into fat transfer to re-inflate my b**bs (started as a full B/small C-DD after my daughter-down to C after-back to overflowing DD with my son- back down to a C) rather than implants.

Nathan Young 2 kids; Syracuse, New York 57578 posts
17th Jun '13
Quoting Mama Rice:" <blockquote><b>Quoting The Doctor:</b>" Yeah, that would frustrate me, too. Eating ... [snip!] ... full B/small C-DD after my daughter-down to C after-back to overflowing DD with my son- back down to a C) rather than implants."


Does that come with less possible health complications than an implant?

Mama Rice 34 kids; North Las Vegas, Nevada 11980 posts
17th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting The Doctor:</b>" Does that come with less possible health complications than an implant?"</blockquote>



I am looking into it. I won't get my b**b job until next year so right now it is just research.

user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
17th Jun '13
Quoting Mama Rice:" <blockquote><b>Quoting The Doctor:</b>" Does that come with less possible health complications ... [snip!] ... implant?"</blockquote> I am looking into it. I won't get my b**b job until next year so right now it is just research."


Does that legitimately work? I know one girl on MTV's True Life wanted to do that, but I don't remember them updating and saying what happened.

Mama Rice 34 kids; North Las Vegas, Nevada 11980 posts
17th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting JiLLiAN.:</b>" Does that legitimately work? I know one girl on MTV's True Life wanted to do that, but I don't remember them updating and saying what happened."</blockquote>



I am just starting to research it. I am not sure.

user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
17th Jun '13
Quoting Mama Rice:" <blockquote><b>Quoting JiLLiAN.:</b>" Does that legitimately work? I know one girl ... [snip!] ... I don't remember them updating and saying what happened."</blockquote> I am just starting to research it. I am not sure."


i'm going to search more about cohesive gel.

624582 Neilton, Washington 9312 posts
17th Jun '13

I don't have implants, but I'd like to get work done after our second child. I had DDs before my son, I'd really like to go back to that. I'm not even sure what size I am anymore, but I'd say I'm roughly a large C.



I haven't really thought of how that would affect my children, then again it has never crossed my mind to announce that I'd be getting my breasts done since I plan to do it when they're still fairly young. And considering that I wear push up bras now I doubt anyone would really be able to tell the difference since I don't plan to go beyond what I look like now (with a bra).