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JΔS Georgia 70894 posts
17th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting BαtMαɳ:</b>" I'm totally guilty of doing this with BD :oops: Thank goodness I had friends who weren't afraid to slap me with a reality check."</blockquote>



Well I wish she had friends like you have lol. She completely ruined M's Father's Day.

penispenispenisVAGINA 4 kids; Idaho 6992 posts
17th Jun '13
Quoting *Booger Biscuit's Mom*:" Checked with my lawyer (since he's BEHIND on child support payments anyways) and he said there is no ... [snip!] ... from my ex that even if I did get married he would not let my daughter change her last name. This day is full of great news."


f**k him and the horse he rode in on. You need to do you and your daughter and forget the rest. Worry about your daughters happiness and your lives. That's the only thing that matters. You don't need a man for true happiness. Worry about your daughter but never close your eyes to any possibilities

user banned 2 kids; Moses Lake, Washington 13508 posts
17th Jun '13
Quoting *Booger Biscuit's Mom*:" Checked with my lawyer (since he's BEHIND on child support payments anyways) and he said there is no ... [snip!] ... from my ex that even if I did get married he would not let my daughter change her last name. This day is full of great news."


So? I imagine for him that would feel like disowning her or something. I take this as a sign that he loves his daughter and wants to keep up a relationship with her.

Just Ames 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Montego Bay, Jamaica 114793 posts
17th Jun '13
Quoting *Booger Biscuit's Mom*:" Checked with my lawyer (since he's BEHIND on child support payments anyways) and he said there is no ... [snip!] ... from my ex that even if I did get married he would not let my daughter change her last name. This day is full of great news."

dang girl. One day at a time :? You're single right now. Not rubbing it in but just pointing out that you are freaking yourself out worse than need be. Take that step when you get there.

Just Ames 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Montego Bay, Jamaica 114793 posts
17th Jun '13
Quoting Jas ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting BαtMαɳ:</b>" I'm totally guilty of doing this ... [snip!] ... a reality check."</blockquote> Well I wish she had friends like you have lol. She completely ruined M's Father's Day."


:(

You and me + 4 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 4121 posts
status 17th Jun '13
Quoting *Booger Biscuit's Mom*:" Checked with my lawyer (since he's BEHIND on child support payments anyways) and he said there is no ... [snip!] ... from my ex that even if I did get married he would not let my daughter change her last name. This day is full of great news."


Ummm why would you try to stop him from being remarried? Also if he is in the childs life why would you try to change the childs last name? She is his as well....

JΔS Georgia 70894 posts
17th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Just Ames:</b>" :("</blockquote>




Oh Amy. I'll tell you about it in the ptot. She's a trip.

BαtMαɳ Secret Bat Cave, CA, United States 53709 posts
status 17th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting *Booger Biscuit's Mom*:</b>" Checked with my lawyer (since he's BEHIND on child support payments anyways) and he said there is no ... [snip!] ... from my ex that even if I did get married he would not let my daughter change her last name. This day is full of great news."</blockquote>



Why the f**k would you want to change her last name anyways? That's her dad regardless of how shitty of a human being he is.

BαtMαɳ Secret Bat Cave, CA, United States 53709 posts
status 17th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jas ♥:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting BαtMαɳ:</b>" I'm totally guilty of doing this ... [snip!] ... a reality check."</blockquote> Well I wish she had friends like you have lol. She completely ruined M's Father's Day."</blockquote>




Damn. I'm sorry to hear that :(

☮[The Mrs.] FJB Due December 4; 3 kids; North Carolina 14335 posts
17th Jun '13
Quoting *Booger Biscuit's Mom*:" Checked with my lawyer (since he's BEHIND on child support payments anyways) and he said there is no ... [snip!] ... from my ex that even if I did get married he would not let my daughter change her last name. This day is full of great news."


Okay. I need you to breath.....



Why the hell would you change her last just because you got married. He doesn't poof and disappear just because you get married. Regardless of the situation between you two you need to learn to parent together.



Don't be THAT BM.

JΔS Georgia 70894 posts
17th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ☮[The Mrs.]:</b>" Okay. I need you to breath..... Why the hell would you change her last just because you got married. ... [snip!] ... because you get married. Regardless of the situation between you two you need to learn to parent together. Don't be THAT BM."</blockquote>



!
PLEASE DON'T.



Because you will just look bitter and silly.

☮[The Mrs.] FJB Due December 4; 3 kids; North Carolina 14335 posts
17th Jun '13

Also if you start acting batshit crazy you're going to drive a wedge between him and your daughter believe it or not. I would not want to have to go through a crazy person to see my child.

*Booger Biscuit's Mom* 33 kids; Temecula, California 7301 posts
17th Jun '13

I have her 85% of the time. He is an ALCOHOLIC. I have been fighting for full custody since we started the divorce process. He is supposed to be taking parenting classes- he hasn't, and he is supposed to be free of alcohol at least 24 hours before he sees her- he hasn't. He will have 2 new children to carry on his name. I took care of her when she was sick, I got her the speech therapy she needed. I pay for daycare when he is supposed to be paying half. If I eventually want to get remarried it will be because the man I pick will be a better father to her, that is why. She knows who my dad is (her poppie) more than her father. He is a good influence in her life, no her father.

☮[The Mrs.] FJB Due December 4; 3 kids; North Carolina 14335 posts
17th Jun '13
Quoting *Booger Biscuit's Mom*:" I have her 85% of the time. He is an ALCOHOLIC. I have been fighting for full custody since we started ... [snip!] ... her, that is why. She knows who my dad is (her poppie) more than her father. He is a good influence in her life, no her father."


So all this voids the fact that he is her dad?



You let his come enter your vagina and swim up in you. Now you have to deal with him for AT LEAST the next 15 years. Embrace it, accept it. It doesn't matter if he has 33402938409238490 to carry his name she is still his.

Just Ames 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Montego Bay, Jamaica 114793 posts
17th Jun '13
Quoting *Booger Biscuit's Mom*:" I have her 85% of the time. He is an ALCOHOLIC. I have been fighting for full custody since we started ... [snip!] ... her, that is why. She knows who my dad is (her poppie) more than her father. He is a good influence in her life, no her father."

Your daughter should be the one to make that choice, not you :? I realize you're putting forth so much but......that is your kid. You do not earn a special title for doing what a parent is supposed to do. Why the pissing match?
And now he's an alcoholic? In the OP it sounds like you were fretting over this story book life he was walking into. Oh how things change.