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    • I'd do and say the same thing -- Votes: 3
    • I'd NEVER give up on my child! -- Votes: 32
    • Other -- Votes: 10
Mrs.Gray♥ 48 kids; Corinth, Mississippi 1669 posts
17th Jun '13
Quoting Supafly★:" Easier said than done. Not everyone that loses custody of their kids is a horrible mother."


No one is going to take a child from their mother without a pretty damn good reason.

loser mom 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Oslo, ,, Norway 10549 posts
status 17th Jun '13
Quoting Nicola.:" Its hard for me to make a vote without knowing the entire story, really. It says against the adoptive mother. If she has already given away her rights, then she may not have another option."



This is how I feel, too. If the child has been adopted, the birth mother needs to step back and allow the adoptive parents to raise THEIR kid.

Of course, I have no idea what the back story is.

S & S *20weeks* Due December 29 (boy); 16 kids; Larouche, Quebec 1123 posts
17th Jun '13

I sympathize with her pain, I'm not heartless. This girl just has some serious issues and does whatever to get attention. I caught her posting a tumblr photo of a cut up arm saying it was hers, when I found it on google. She's spending her welfare money on tattoos. She's got mental issues, which I wouldn't judge, but she CHOOSES not to see her psychiatrist, chooses only to take her pills when she pleases, and I haven't even HEARD about her having a son til today, no pictures or anything, just a photo of her in the hospital holding him that the adoptive mother tagged her in. Plus she stopped going to drug rehab because she still wanted to get high, and she used her rent money to buy drugs (which is why she is getting evicted). I wish she would get her life together!

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14109 posts
17th Jun '13
Quoting Mrs.Gray♥:" No one is going to take a child from their mother without a pretty damn good reason."


I wish the world worked like that.

penispenispenisVAGINA 4 kids; Idaho 7072 posts
17th Jun '13

This hits very close to home for me but sort of different situations. and all I'm going to say is maybe she has no fight left. Maybe she has exhausted all her efforts to get her child back to no avail.

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
17th Jun '13

I don't think you should be judging her unless you know the whole story. For the most part it seems like she wanted to get visitations right and the court ordered none. She seems very disappointed. What do you expect her to do?

♥♬♡ 2 kids; Pennsylvania 10380 posts
17th Jun '13

They would have to kill me

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14109 posts
17th Jun '13
Quoting S & S *12weeks*:" I sympathize with her pain, I'm not heartless. This girl just has some serious issues and does whatever ... [snip!] ... high, and she used her rent money to buy drugs (which is why she is getting evicted). I wish she would get her life together!"


Maybe it's best for the child if she's not around then if she wouldn't be a stable figure in his life. The whole situation is just very sad.

S & S *20weeks* Due December 29 (boy); 16 kids; Larouche, Quebec 1123 posts
17th Jun '13
Quoting Dovahkiin:" I think I read it wrong. So, her kid was adopted out? And she wanted rights to see him? "


She lost her kid to CPS so he went to a foster home and got adopted

thats me. :) 18 kids; Edmonton, Alberta 3030 posts
17th Jun '13
Quoting Supafly★:" Wow, I feel really horrible for her. She obviously tried and failed to get her child back. She must be heartbroken and you really shouldn't be judging her. "


I think you shouldn't judge her. She is obviously hurt. She just may be saying that in the moment. But...in the end, when her emotions are calmed, she may feel differently about it.

Mama Van D Due November 3; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Unity, Maine 2454 posts
17th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Dovahkiin:</b>" I think I read it wrong. So, her kid was adopted out? And she wanted rights to see him? "</blockquote>




I missed that, too. Wouldn't she have had to sign over her rights for him to be adopted?

Nicola. 2 kids; Huntsville, AL, United States 7193 posts
17th Jun '13
Quoting loser mom:" This is how I feel, too. If the child has been adopted, the birth mother needs to step back and allow the adoptive parents to raise THEIR kid. Of course, I have no idea what the back story is."


Exactly. It sounds like she may have placed him for adoption at birth. If that is the case, she has to back off. Wait until he is old enough to make that decision for himself.



Its sad, but that is the choice that she made.

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 45800 posts
17th Jun '13

I think that if you haven't been in her situation, you have no room to judge.



As someone who has been through an incredibly difficult custody case, I can understand her feeling of hopelessness.

S & S *20weeks* Due December 29 (boy); 16 kids; Larouche, Quebec 1123 posts
17th Jun '13
Quoting thats me. :):" I think you shouldn't judge her. She is obviously hurt. She just may be saying that in the moment. But...in the end, when her emotions are calmed, she may feel differently about it."

I hope she does feel differently about it and gets her life back together, I hate to see someone sinking so low

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14109 posts
17th Jun '13
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" I think that if you haven't been in her situation, you have no room to judge. As someone who has been through an incredibly difficult custody case, I can understand her feeling of hopelessness."


:!: Ditto.