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out of control mom.of.2♥ Due November 15 (boy); 2 kids; Carrollton, Georgia 202 posts
18th Jun '13

My three year old has been pulling his pants down and peeing behind doors, the middle of floor anywhere . He is completely potty trained or maybe I should say was. He also tells people no and don't want to listen to anything anyone tells him to do. He has even thrown stuff at people. He throws giant temper tantrums in stores when he don't get what he wants. We have tried spanking, time out, taking stuff away. I don't know what to do anymore. He also hasn't been sleeping good he stays up all hours of the night then gets up early. I was hoping maybe someone has had some of the same issues and could help me out.

Onalee's Mummy Due August 26 (boy); 1 child; Newcastle, Australia 5355 posts
18th Jun '13

Have you tried altering his diet? When we started eating healthier we saw a huge improvement in our 3 year olds behaviour, but she wasn't quite at the same level as you have described

. , Richmond, VA, United States 75043 posts
18th Jun '13
Quoting Onalee's Mummy:" Have you tried altering his diet? When we started eating healthier we saw a huge improvement in our 3 year olds behaviour, but she wasn't quite at the same level as you have described"

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I'd also limit his screen time, t.v. and otherwise, make sure he's playing outside everyday to get his energy out.



Is he getting up after you go to bed? Or does he just never go to bed? If that's the case I'd make sure you have a good bedtime routine, same thing everynight, read to him while he's laying down, play soft music or white noise.



This thread has a lot of good ideas http://forum.baby-gaga.com/about879738.html



And the best website imo is www.ahaparenting.com. That's all I can think of right now, I should probably go to bed lol.

Onalee's Mummy Due August 26 (boy); 1 child; Newcastle, Australia 5355 posts
18th Jun '13

I also found that focusing on all of the issues at once made it worse for my little one. We had to tackle one thing at a time and quite gradual because she would get overwhelmed with the changes and act naughty and it was going in a cycle. Pick one thing to focus on first, I'd probably choose the weeing, and just concentrate on that issue and use positive reinforcement when he is good.



For example with dd when we wanted her to start sleeping on her own I told her if she did in the morning I would have a suprise for her. It might be a sticker or a photo or something like that. We did that for three weeks now she gets one suprise at the end of the week for being good all week and we will eventually stop that. If she is good all week she gets $5 pocket money which she saves fora certain toy. Now instead of having a tantrum in the shop for something she will ask how long till she saves enough money to buy it. She is only three so still does have her moments.



Hope some of these ideas help.



Does he go to daycare at all or has he had any recent changes?

mom.of.2♥ Due November 15 (boy); 2 kids; Carrollton, Georgia 202 posts
18th Jun '13

He just stays up all night then goes to sleep like for instance he fell asleep about 20 minutes ago but I have been trying to get him into bed since 10 its now 3.But the only thing that's changed is I'm pregnant and we put the babys crib up in his room.But no we haven't put him in daycare.

. , Richmond, VA, United States 75043 posts
18th Jun '13
Quoting Jason's Mommy♥:" He just stays up all night then goes to sleep like for instance he fell asleep about 20 minutes ago but ... [snip!] ... the only thing that's changed is I'm pregnant and we put the babys crib up in his room.But no we haven't put him in daycare."

What is your bedtime routine like? Does he watch t.v. during the day? If so I would make sure he isn't watching any an hour or even longer before bed. And I would really limit it during the day in general. That can be a cause of kids not falling asleep easily.

Onalee's Mummy Due August 26 (boy); 1 child; Newcastle, Australia 5355 posts
18th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jason's Mommy♥:</b>" He just stays up all night then goes to sleep like for instance he fell asleep about 20 minutes ago but ... [snip!] ... the only thing that's changed is I'm pregnant and we put the babys crib up in his room.But no we haven't put him in daycare."</blockquote>



Does he have a day nap? Sleep sometimes can promote sleep.



I would also consider talking to a doctor just to make sure the bahaviour is typical for his age

mom.of.2♥ Due November 15 (boy); 2 kids; Carrollton, Georgia 202 posts
18th Jun '13

he's a really active kid he might watch tv 30 minutes out of the day he's usually playing.but if he takes a nap even a short one he doesn't go to bed either.he was going to bed at 10 every night idk what happen first it started with the acting out then the peeing everywhere now its the sleep

. , Richmond, VA, United States 75043 posts
18th Jun '13
Quoting Jason's Mommy♥:" he's a really active kid he might watch tv 30 minutes out of the day he's usually playing.but if he takes ... [snip!] ... to bed at 10 every night idk what happen first it started with the acting out then the peeing everywhere now its the sleep"

I agree with what Onalee's mom said, you might want to make a doctor's appointment and make sure there's not something else going on.

Onalee's Mummy Due August 26 (boy); 1 child; Newcastle, Australia 5355 posts
18th Jun '13

Good luck. I hope everything works out. I'm going to ptank you I would like to know how you go

Onalee's Mummy Due August 26 (boy); 1 child; Newcastle, Australia 5355 posts
18th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Onalee's Mummy:</b>" Good luck. I hope everything works out. I'm going to ptank you I would like to know how you go"</blockquote>




Just realised I already had you parentanked. I think we used to be in the same due date thread

mom.of.2♥ Due November 15 (boy); 2 kids; Carrollton, Georgia 202 posts
18th Jun '13

Alright ill call his doctor first thing in the morning. Yeah i believe we was due around the same time

Castri Oklahoma City, Oklahoma 11 posts
18th Jun '13

I always try to teach discipline my baby with love and affection. You can try the same thing but lot of patience is required. You can also try as suggested by somebody in the discussion to change the diet of your baby,