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Mann Makin' Mama[BBM] 18 kids; Dalton, Georgia 11563 posts
18th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jas ♥:</b>" Between ages 13 and 19. Being 18 doesn't exclude you. They are still a teenager, just an adult under the law."</blockquote>




I agree with this. I was 17 when I got pregnant, 17 when I graduated, and 17 when j have birth. Although I don't and won't classify myself as a "teen mom" I technically am age wise. I got pregnant at 18 (2 days before my 19th birthday) with my youngest and even then I was still technically a "teen mom." I will never call myself that, simply because I am a mother, I take care of my children without anyone's help, work, go to school, ect. I will never refer to myself as a "teen mom" I'm a mother & that's it.



A teen mom IMO is anyone between ages 13-19, adult or not, your age still says "teen" at the end.

JΔS Georgia 73216 posts
18th Jun '13
Quoting Supafly★:" What if they don't depend on their parents? When I had my son at 19, I was already on my own, with DH, finished cosmetology school and supporting myself with DH's help, but not my parents'. "


You. Were. Still. A. Teenager.

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14109 posts
18th Jun '13
Quoting Jas ♥:" You. Were. Still. A. Teenager."


I'm not arguing that. But I'm not putting myself in the same category with a 16 year old mother who is completely dependent on her parents. Unfortunately, that's what most people think when they hear "teen mom."

♥ Maci's Mommy:) Due April 5; 1 child; Dalton, Georgia 827 posts
18th Jun '13

Obviously anyone between ages 13-19 would be a "teen mom" but I don't really like to call anyone a teen mom. You're a mother no matter what your age. I think young mother would be an acceptable term to describe mothers that have children in the teen years/early 20's but it's not necessary. A mother is a mother no matter what age she gave birth and that's all that really matters.

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
18th Jun '13
Quoting ℐαzmчn:" And there are a good amount of 18-19 year olds who still depend on their parents as well."


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Some 19 year olds are still in high school.

JΔS Georgia 73216 posts
18th Jun '13
Quoting Supafly★:" I'm not arguing that. But I'm not putting myself in the same category with a 16 year old mother who ... [snip!] ... old mother who is completely dependent on her parents. Unfortunately, that's what most people think when they hear "teen mom." "


Or you can just put yourself in the "mother" category as all mothers should. Technically speaking, yes you were a teen mom as was I. That doesn't mean you have to let it define you or put yourself "in the same category as a 16 year old mother."



It is what it is.

Minion Due September 30 (girl); 2 kids; ., GA, United States 21249 posts
status 18th Jun '13

Any age with the word "teen" in it makes you a teen mom.

Severus Snape 2 kids; Tennessee 3550 posts
18th Jun '13

A teen mom to me is someone who gets pregnant at or under age 18. Despite the fact that 19 has the word teen in the number to me doesn't make them a teenager IMO. At 19 I has purchased my own home where I was living with my fiance. I had adult responsibilities and lived an adult life style. I did not consider myself a teenager and neither did anyone else. I didn't get pregnant until I was 20, so I was never a teen mom by any definition.



But on that note I also think that being a teenager is a state of mind. I would still call a 19 year old a teenager if they were completely financially dependent and had little to no sense of responsibility etc.



But all mothers should just be mothers. The "teen mom" label has a negative connotation most of the time, and should be avoided if at all possible.

. , Richmond, VA, United States 74555 posts
18th Jun '13
Quoting Sugar Plum♡:" a discussion came up on teen mom's at my aunts house. what do you consider a teen mom? i had my daughter ... [snip!] ... considered a teen mom?? and idk why i put yuck, darn it, it must be those misleading subject titles bhaha :D happy tuesday! "

Teen doesn't mean underage, teen means a teenager. Someone who is 13-19. So yes, someone at 18 or 19 would still be a Mom as a teenager. I wouldn't use the term "teen mom" though, it just sounds dumb imo. I wouldn't say I'm a 20's/30's mom either though.

Ronnie RadKat 4 kids; Arizona 21924 posts
status 18th Jun '13
Quoting Severus Snape:" A teen mom to me is someone who gets pregnant at or under age 18. Despite the fact that 19 has the word ... [snip!] ... just be mothers. The "teen mom" label has a negative connotation most of the time, and should be avoided if at all possible."



I guess my ex is a "teen" by your definition... he is 32, doesn't work, support himself or his children and still lives with his mom. :)



I'd say he's immature and irresponsible, which are common teen attributes but do not apply to all teens and are not necessary limited to those in their teens

Severus Snape 2 kids; Tennessee 3550 posts
18th Jun '13
Quoting 36-24-36OnlyIfshes5-3:" I guess my ex is a "teen" by your definition... he is 32, doesn't work, support himself or his children ... [snip!] ... which are common teen attributes but do not apply to all teens and are not necessary limited to those in their teens "


Meh I'd say he is emotionally a teenager. Not physically, but like I said, to me teenager is state of mind more than an age. Turning 18 or turning 20 doesn't magically make you more mature. Physically, you are not a teen at 20, but emotionally it can happen much sooner than that. The emotional is what counts to me as I think it more accurately describes who people are on the inside vs jus who they are on the outside.

Mama Rice 34 kids; North Las Vegas, Nevada 11980 posts
18th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jas ♥:</b>" I was just going to say this. Turning 18 doesn't mean you can take care of yourself 100% all of a sudden. You cannot turn into an adult overnight."</blockquote>



I kinda did. I left for basic training on my 18th birthday. My parents haven't supported me a day since. But I do agree that generally it doesn't happen that way, it takes a little bit to get on your feet.

Vitameatavegamin 19 kids; League City, Texas 5829 posts
18th Jun '13

I think any age that ends in 'teen' is a teenager. Seems like common sense to me.
I had DD1 when I was 18. I was a mother who was also a teenager. Call me a 'teen mom' if you want. It's technically true. I wouldn't call myself that. I just say "I was still a teenager when I had my first kid". Not "I was a teen mom". *shrug* It's just facts either way you put it. You can also be a mother that's a teenager and be an adult at the same time.

. , Richmond, VA, United States 74555 posts
18th Jun '13
Quoting Lady GooGoo
Back to Noob Status Ohio 14048 posts
18th Jun '13
Quoting Destinite:" 13-19 anything with teen in the name."


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