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    • How they are dressed doesn't matter -- Votes: 35
    • How they are dressed can make it worse -- Votes: 12
    • How they are dressed makes a big difference -- Votes: 3
Pedophiles and how your children are dressed Mama Rice 34 kids; North Las Vegas, Nevada 11980 posts
18th Jun '13

Do you think that no matter what you dress your child is that a pedophile is going to lust after them?



A friend and I were having a discussion about it today. The only reason that I think that how a child is dressed does effect how likely a pedophile will lust after them is this, Channing Tatum is yummy and amazing in Magic Mike and I definitely lust after him, however in the Vow or Notebook I still think he is hot but don't lust as much.

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
18th Jun '13

I think for them its more of an innocence thing so IMO I think they might lust after a child wearing a princess or character shirt vs one just wearing like a plain shirt or even a tank top.

[Gryffinwhore♥] 3 kids; Poulsbo, Washington 34043 posts
18th Jun '13

I don't think it makes a difference. A pedophile is sexually attracted to a child because they are a child. That's all.



The idea that you need to cover your children to protect them from pedophiles is akin to saying that women should never show their bodies for fear of being raped.

Mama Rice 34 kids; North Las Vegas, Nevada 11980 posts
18th Jun '13
Quoting Jennybananna:" I think for them its more of an innocence thing so IMO I think they might lust after a child wearing a princess or character shirt vs one just wearing like a plain shirt or even a tank top. "


That makes sense, I don't necessarily mean showing too much skin, maybe it is the pig tails and school uniform. Just in general how they are dressed, whether revealing or just suggestive to them.

ILOVEWINE Due April 24; 2 kids; Sweden 10814 posts
18th Jun '13

If someone is attracted to kids, it's more than just what they are wearing. You cannot compare how you think to a mentally ill person.

Chibs 2 kids; Missouri 12147 posts
18th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting [Gryffinwhore♥]:</b>" I don't think it makes a difference. A pedophile is sexually attracted to a child because they are a ... [snip!] ... children to protect them from pedophiles is akin to saying that women should never show their bodies for fear of being raped. "</blockquote>



This!

Momma Rawks 1 child; Iowa 7176 posts
18th Jun '13

There is a saying that a nun is just as likely to be raped as a stripper.



Sexual predators don't attack victims based on clothing. They do it based upon convenience, timing, vulnerability, circumstances, etc.



A predator who is a pedophile is going to go after a child because they are a child and because they are left with an opportunity to do so, not because the child has been dressed in a provocative manner.

Mama Rice 34 kids; North Las Vegas, Nevada 11980 posts
18th Jun '13
Quoting ILOVEWINE:" If someone is attracted to kids, it's more than just what they are wearing. You cannot compare how you think to a mentally ill person."


I understand that, that is why I asked on here. Neither of us came to a definitive decision one way or the other.

eKnuckles Due February 13; Florida 3472 posts
18th Jun '13

I've said this before on here, and if anyone replies I'll have to wait until tomorrow to see it. My answer is yes and no. Pedophiles are going after children because they are children. However I do believe in respecting a kids privacy such as changing a diaper around creepy people, and just generally not exposing private parts to the world.

P Pickle Pants 98 kids; California 20522 posts
18th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting [Gryffinwhore♥]:</b>" I don't think it makes a difference. A pedophile is sexually attracted to a child because they are a ... [snip!] ... children to protect them from pedophiles is akin to saying that women should never show their bodies for fear of being raped. "</blockquote>



:!: this :!:

P Pickle Pants 98 kids; California 20522 posts
18th Jun '13

Ill teach my kids to not flaunt their body and be modest to a reasonable standard and to be age appropriate.



I think revealing clothing or fetish-like clothing (super innocent, uniforms, costumes) can spark initial interest from a distance, but not likely to spark ACTION except from pedophiles attracted to post-puberty children (ie: willing partners near a legal age of consent or a child a few years younger than a young-adult predator).

❀Sarah❀ 2 kids; Cocking, EU, Europe 123057 posts
18th Jun '13

I dont think it makes a difference. To a pedophile they just like kids.

user banned 1 child; Nunya, CA, United States 6369 posts
19th Jun '13

Pedophiles are going to creep and rapists are going to rape.



However, I think BEVAVIORS, not dress, can leave victims more vulnerable to a predator.

Interrobang!? 6 kids; Ontario 1176 posts
19th Jun '13

No difference.



It's not about the clothes. They could be wearing a burlap sack or a string bikini. A pedophile sees a child.



I'll come back when I'm not exhausted and see if I can find it, but I read an article that interviewed pedophile offenders on what they look for in children. I distinctly remember that NONE of them said clothes or looks, but several mentioned that they looked for kids who weren't confident, who were sheltered and naive, who had family dynamics that made them easy to befriend and isolate (divorce, parents rarely home, often in the care of others, etc), who had low self-esteem and who weren't likely to raise a fuss or tell on them.



That to me indicates that they are NOT looking at the child from a physical perspective at all; they are looking at the child for weakness and opportunity to exploit that weakness.



Raising strong, confident kids who AREN'T afraid of life and the world around them will prevent many more abuse cases than covering them up and hiding them indoors ever will. Ironically, letting go of some of the "safety" measures and fear is probably the best protection you can give them.

justanothamotha Due January 20; 130 kids; Climax, Michigan 5120 posts
19th Jun '13
Quoting Momma Rawks:" There is a saying that a nun is just as likely to be raped as a stripper. Sexual predators don't attack ... [snip!] ... a child and because they are left with an opportunity to do so, not because the child has been dressed in a provocative manner."

This & if they have a particular trigger...like some predators want a petite brunette with shoulder length hair, or something. Same with pedos. I have even heard that some have a thing for tube socks. I don't think you can know what they are triggered by exactly & therefore there is no "safe" way to dress.