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Update from Yesterday's Rant Momma Suzie Q & 2 2 kids; California 4174 posts
19th Jun '13

So when i got home yesterday hubby was already cooking the meat and chicken on the grill... not too impressed bcz that always happens after an argument but i didnt do SHIT yesterday i played with my girls... gave them a shower.. yes we all sat down to eat not much convo there... after that I went to thier romm for a while.. put them to bed.. left the livingroom and kitchen a mess.. didnt iron his uniform.. i put my pjs on went to our room and watch 20min of tv...and the dishes?? YUP pilled up really high.. they have been there 2 days now.



.. laundry everywhere in our laundry room clothes still in baskets to be put away... OH WELL... you dont want to help out you will see how much SHIT i do maybe he can start helping!!! I dont feel bad and i really dont care if he gets mad...!! Maybe he will see how good he has it by doing nothing when he gets home from work!
I know his job is more tiresome he's on his feet all day.. lifting over 40lbs more than my office job but oh well!! I work full time also! Im not a SAHM!! its our resposibility to maintian our family/house.. not just mine.!! END OF UPDATE!! Thanks :)

mommy2thing1&thing2 Due November 11 (girl); 2 kids; Phoenix, Arizona 3064 posts
19th Jun '13

if hes anything like my DH he will just let the mess build up and not care. the more i do the less he cares, but if i say f**k it and stop doing stuff he dosent care any more :/ guys dont care the same way women do

Turtley Mikey Due October 31; 2 kids; California 50611 posts
19th Jun '13
Quoting 2Girls & Blessed:" So when i got home yesterday hubby was already cooking the meat and chicken on the grill... not too impressed ... [snip!] ... full time also! Im not a SAHM!! its our resposibility to maintian our family/house.. not just mine.!! END OF UPDATE!! Thanks :)"


Good for you, girl! Sometimes it takes a slap in the face to get someone to open their damn eyes and realize the reality. I would have done the same thing.

Turtley Mikey Due October 31; 2 kids; California 50611 posts
19th Jun '13
Quoting mommy2thing1&thing2:" if hes anything like my DH he will just let the mess build up and not care. the more i do the less he ... [snip!] ... the less he cares, but if i say f**k it and stop doing stuff he dosent care any more :/ guys dont care the same way women do "



This is the like the third post where I've seen you comment about your husband. He sounds like a royal peach.

mommy2thing1&thing2 Due November 11 (girl); 2 kids; Phoenix, Arizona 3064 posts
19th Jun '13
Quoting Mrs. God of Thunder:" This is the like the third post where I've seen you comment about your husband. He sounds like a royal peach."


oh he is :roll: every time i get mad at him he starts acting better but then back to his old ways.

Momma Suzie Q & 2 2 kids; California 4174 posts
19th Jun '13
Quoting mommy2thing1&thing2:" if hes anything like my DH he will just let the mess build up and not care. the more i do the less he ... [snip!] ... the less he cares, but if i say f**k it and stop doing stuff he dosent care any more :/ guys dont care the same way women do "


well im sure he will start doing it but with anger not because he feels bad or knows its his job to help me... so thats what bothers me... but will see.. thanks

Turtley Mikey Due October 31; 2 kids; California 50611 posts
19th Jun '13
Quoting mommy2thing1&thing2:" oh he is :roll: every time i get mad at him he starts acting better but then back to his old ways. "


I'm sorry, hon. That doesn't sound very happy.

Momma Suzie Q & 2 2 kids; California 4174 posts
19th Jun '13
Quoting Mrs. God of Thunder:" This is the like the third post where I've seen you comment about your husband. He sounds like a royal peach."


Well i dont post much but when im mad or hurt i come here to vent/advise suggestions.... most of the time he is good and he is an awsome DAD but when reality kicks in he thinks im suposed to tend to the kids/ to him/ to the house/ to the dog/ the laundry and im like um NO we both wanted this not just me!

mommy2thing1&thing2 Due November 11 (girl); 2 kids; Phoenix, Arizona 3064 posts
19th Jun '13
Quoting Mrs. God of Thunder:" I'm sorry, hon. That doesn't sound very happy."

im so confused :/ he goes to work every day and works hard to support us, which i appreciate but its the whole he thinks sex is a one way street,he will do something nice and then make sure i know he did it,he acts like raising kids is so easy, he wants me to work but we cant afford childcare. i feel like he wants everything both ways if that makes sense. im just so tired of feeling like i try so hard to make stuff work and he dosent :/

mommabyrd Due August 27; 1 child; 2 angel babies; Niagara Falls, New York 115 posts
19th Jun '13

You sound just like my hubby and I. We don't even have kids yet, it's all me around he house. Sometimes I do say f**k it, just because I work full time too and I'm on my feet for most of the day. In my vows, it did not say I'm your maid, please leave a trail of your shit and let me pickup after you, cook for you, clean your laundry. Guys don't understand, and I don't think they care either.

Turtley Mikey Due October 31; 2 kids; California 50611 posts
19th Jun '13
Quoting mommy2thing1&thing2:" im so confused :/ he goes to work every day and works hard to support us, which i appreciate but its ... [snip!] ... everything both ways if that makes sense. im just so tired of feeling like i try so hard to make stuff work and he dosent :/"



I just meant it doesn't sound like a happy way to live.

mommy2thing1&thing2 Due November 11 (girl); 2 kids; Phoenix, Arizona 3064 posts
19th Jun '13
Quoting Mrs. God of Thunder:" I just meant it doesn't sound like a happy way to live. "


im not happy at all, but i feel stupid wanting to move on and try to be happy like my reasons for being unhappy arnt enough to end a marriage :/