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Getting fair custody of my daughter/dealing with a pending d Awaiting_a_blessing2013 Due January 22; 1 child; Milton, Florida 2 posts
19th Jun '13

My husband is living 600 miles away with my daughter, in an apartment we lived in together until this past March (that I paid all bills at). I left him because of irreconcilable differences and had no where else to live except home, which is 600 miles away. Before I left, we had a verbal agreement that we would work something out so that Id have our daughter 50% of the time and vice versa. Last week, I rode with my grandfather to go visit my mom in the ICU in the same city my husband and daughter are in. The first thing I did was go visit my daughter, with hopes of taking her back home with me. My MIL is living with my husband and daughter, and she told me he wasnt gonna let me take my daughter anywhere. He wouldnt even let me take her out to eat. Ive never given him a good reason to try to keep her from me, and I would've just taken her but my grandfather would've had a problem since he was driving. Id love to file for divorce and get 50% custody, but I dont have the money. We'll be going back to their city in a couple weeks when my mother gets out of the hospital to take her to an assisted living home closer to us. I'm determined to get my daughter this time, some way. in the hour I spent with her last week, she paid so much attention to only me while I was there, and I only paid attention to her. I could tell she misses me and I can't just let him keep her. I live in Florida, to be specific if anyone wants to share any laws they may know on this. Thanks for reading.

Rebekah Garden x3 Due October 5 (boy); 33 kids; Fall River, Massachusetts 5223 posts
19th Jun '13

Well if you don't have the money (you are truly low income) they charge you very minimal if at all to file! You need to et down and file For Custody immediately

Jenny&Boopy Due June 26; 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 7768 posts
19th Jun '13

Until there is a custody order set up, whichever parent has the child can keep the child indefinitely. I'd suggest trying to find out when your MIL would be there alone with your daughter because if your ex isn't home you can call the police if needed and she'd have to give you your daughter. I'd do that and keep her until you go to court. I'm sorry momma, my ex did the same to me when DS was a baby and I didn't see him for about a month which was awful.

Ttc baby #1 ❤€ TTC since Feb 2013; Louisiana 6 posts
19th Jun '13

My mom and dad split up when I was at a young age 15 16 and they didn't charger her anything because her income was so low

That Mik Girl 2 kids; Jacksonville, Florida 11497 posts
19th Jun '13
Quoting Awaiting_a_blessing2013:" My husband is living 600 miles away with my daughter, in an apartment we lived in together until this ... [snip!] ... him keep her. I live in Florida, to be specific if anyone wants to share any laws they may know on this. Thanks for reading."


im starting the divorce process here in florida and it is relatively cheap actually, as long as it is uncontested. most of the paperwork you can print online. you both will have to take a parenting course for the divorce to be granted tho. and they no longer use the term custody, its called "time sharing".

tonys_mama(army wife) 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Fort Irwin, California 15543 posts
19th Jun '13

You really need to file for custody but until then you. Can take her and there is nothing they can do because right now you both have the same amount of rights to her.

Destinite 1 child; 2 angel babies; Paradise, FL, United States 31782 posts
19th Jun '13

You don't live far from me at all. I'd honestly take her if I were you. I don't know if that is terrible advice, but I am just telling you what I would do if in your situation. I'd file for custody ASAP. You can get some assistance with filing and childcare costs if needed.

Destinite 1 child; 2 angel babies; Paradise, FL, United States 31782 posts
19th Jun '13
Quoting tonys_mama(army wife):" You really need to file for custody but until then you. Can take her and there is nothing they can do because right now you both have the same amount of rights to her."


That's what I thought

That Mik Girl 2 kids; Jacksonville, Florida 11497 posts
19th Jun '13

and now that you are living apart, you can start filing for assistance and such.

Awaiting_a_blessing2013 Due January 22; 1 child; Milton, Florida 2 posts
19th Jun '13

Thanks so much for ur replies. I will be taking her when I go back down there.

LuvMyZBoy Due November 11; 1 child; Colorado 23 posts
19th Jun '13

I would encourage you to gather a support system around you if you don't have one in place already - this most likely will get harder for you and your daughter before it gets easier. It will be a great blessing to have her with you, but it will be far from the end of the story. Get wise counsel and the backing you need to take these steps. It sounds like you have only talked to your MIL, not your daughter's dad about his unwillingness to keep your arrangement - is that right?