user banned Due February 3; 16 kids; New York 1070 posts
19th Jun '13
Quoting Jennybananna:" So he just up and left you because his mother didnt react favorably to her son knocking up his 16 year old girlfriend. Yet you're sure he can handle being a parent and not walk away from that."


No...he's just mad. I'm gonna stay at his grandmother's for a while. He can handle it. His mom just said some dumb shit & it got him mad. He'll text later & he's probably on the train going to his friend's.

Severus Snape 2 kids; Tennessee 3550 posts
19th Jun '13
Quoting tinana+2:" I forgot, you thought they were going to be happy and excited, right? :lol:"


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Sorry OP but honestly, what did you expect? You're a teenager.

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
19th Jun '13
Quoting Rachel Tyson:" No...he's just mad. I'm gonna stay at his grandmother's for a while. He can handle it. His mom just ... [snip!] ... His mom just said some dumb shit & it got him mad. He'll text later & he's probably on the train going to his friend's."

And what happens when he gets mad after the baby is born? He just walks out comes back when he feels like it? Its time for him to grow up and act mature. Dont make excuses for his behavior because its not acceptable. So what his mom wasnt happy did you really think she was going to be ok with this.

user banned Due February 3; 16 kids; New York 1070 posts
19th Jun '13
Quoting Severus Snape:" :!: Sorry OP but honestly, what did you expect? You're a teenager."

I never expected them to be happy .. I expected them to support us.His mom was saying to get this 'thing' out of me & he needs to move out & how she was planning on buying him a car but now this is f**king up his college plans and she even threatened him..I wanna see him I miss him so bad. :oops:

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
19th Jun '13
Quoting Rachel Tyson:" I never expected them to be happy .. I expected them to support us.His mom was saying to get this 'thing' ... [snip!] ... him a car but now this is f**king up his college plans and she even threatened him..I wanna see him I miss him so bad. :oops:"

She probably needs sometime to calm down and process this. He still had no right to just leave you.

Mann Makin' Mama[BBM] 18 kids; Dalton, Georgia 11563 posts
19th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rachel Tyson:</b>" I never expected them to be happy .. I expected them to support us.His mom was saying to get this 'thing' ... [snip!] ... him a car but now this is f**king up his college plans and she even threatened him..I wanna see him I miss him so bad. :oops:"</blockquote>




I would probably be the exact same thing if my son told me he got his 16 year old girlfriend pregnant.

user banned Due February 3; 16 kids; New York 1070 posts
19th Jun '13
Quoting Jennybananna:" And what happens when he gets mad after the baby is born? He just walks out comes back when he feels ... [snip!] ... his behavior because its not acceptable. So what his mom wasnt happy did you really think she was going to be ok with this."


He won't . He loves the baby.He just needs some time & I understand & he needs some time to get used to things...he'll be back.He'd never leave his child in me & willingly up and leave us unless abducted of some form of fowl play...

♥MOBAS♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 7198 posts
19th Jun '13
Quoting Rachel Tyson:" I never expected them to be happy .. I expected them to support us.His mom was saying to get this 'thing' ... [snip!] ... him a car but now this is f**king up his college plans and she even threatened him..I wanna see him I miss him so bad. :oops:"


This is the time that he should be at your side not running away.

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
19th Jun '13
Quoting Rachel Tyson:" He won't . He loves the baby.He just needs some time & I understand & he needs some time to ... [snip!] ... be back.He'd never leave his child in me & willingly up and leave us unless abducted of some form of fowl play..."

Never say never sweetie. That seems to your biggest issue you cant accept that he could very well leave. I mean he just did and instead of dealing with his anger and trying to take to his mom or even taking you with him he just left you. Thats a sign of immaturity.

Mann Makin' Mama[BBM] 18 kids; Dalton, Georgia 11563 posts
19th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jennybananna:</b>" Never say never sweetie. That seems to your biggest issue you cant accept that he could very well leave. ... [snip!] ... dealing with his anger and trying to take to his mom or even taking you with him he just left you. Thats a sign of immaturity. "</blockquote>




How old is the dad?

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
19th Jun '13
Quoting Mann Makin' Mama[BBM]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jennybananna:</b>" Never say never sweetie. That seems to your ... [snip!] ... his mom or even taking you with him he just left you. Thats a sign of immaturity. "</blockquote> How old is the dad?"


16 or 17

tinana+2 TTC since Nov 2013; 2 kids; Staten Island, NY, United States 29659 posts
19th Jun '13
Quoting Mann Makin' Mama[BBM]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Rachel Tyson:</b>" I never expected them to be happy .. I expected ... [snip!] ... I would probably be the exact same thing if my son told me he got his 16 year old girlfriend pregnant."


For real. I think any normal parent would.

user banned Due February 3; 16 kids; New York 1070 posts
19th Jun '13
Quoting Jennybananna:" Never say never sweetie. That seems to your biggest issue you cant accept that he could very well leave. ... [snip!] ... dealing with his anger and trying to take to his mom or even taking you with him he just left you. Thats a sign of immaturity. "


You don't understand.He's been dealing with this almost all his life.His father was in and out of jail,and his mom was never really their emotionally.That's how I felt with my parents.He didn't take me with him because of his impulse control,he's not thinking of that.And I just wanna make sure he's okay.I feel like something bad happened...because this happened once before but he contacted me right after twelve hours.In NYC they don't have to wait if an adolescent is taking meds for any type of medical problem they can take a missing persons report after 24 hours.He takes Prozac for ADHD and that's VERY similar to bipolar disorder.I think he's in his manic state right now,soon he'll be back to normal and contact me.I'm telling you he will.

Severus Snape 2 kids; Tennessee 3550 posts
19th Jun '13
Quoting Jennybananna:" She probably needs sometime to calm down and process this. He still had no right to just leave you. "


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She's reacting the way I'd react to this situation. She'll probably just need time to process this whole thing. In a few days she might be more supportive. However, he shouldn't have left you, and when you do get in contact with him again I'd tell him so. He's going to be a father so he needs to man up.

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
19th Jun '13
Quoting Rachel Tyson:" You don't understand.He's been dealing with this almost all his life.His father was in and out of jail,and ... [snip!] ... bipolar disorder.I think he's in his manic state right now,soon he'll be back to normal and contact me.I'm telling you he will."


You say he has impulse control issues but know he wont ever do it to you or the baby. Honey seriously come back to earth. He is very capable of doing it to you. Doesnt matter how much he loves your or the baby if he is struggling with mental illness then you really have no idea what he is capable of doing.