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~*~*~*~ ; 1 child; Biteme, ca, United States 1716 posts
19th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~The Lunar Flower~:</b>" That's beyond wrong. She is just as bad as someone who pokes holes in condoms. She chose to make the ... [snip!] ... in the relationship she should have never married him knowing they wanted different things. I'd divorce the shit out of her"</blockquote>




I completely agree. How can you claim to love someone and do this. I still can't believe she had me thinking she was a decent person for a bit. I will not be naive like that again. She IS disgusting.

~*~*~*~ ; 1 child; Biteme, ca, United States 1716 posts
19th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting kthx.:</b>" I don't think it's wrong if a father doesn't want to take care of their child. Terminate rights and be done. We as women can terminate an unwanted pregnancy, they should be able to do the same."</blockquote>




I wasn't arguing that, I do agree. I can't seem to say what I mean clearly, sorry. I anticipated some people saying it wasn't as bad as being trapped with a kid. For those people, would they then agree it was equally as bad if the law didn't require support for the child, making it so money was no issue in either situation.

Subtle As A Hurricane 2 kids; Texas 4132 posts
19th Jun '13

Anyone who would to either is, frankly, a horrible person to deceive another person like that.

~The Lunar Flower~ 2 kids; Alabama 6748 posts
19th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kallee's Momma!:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ~The Lunar Flower~:</b>" That's beyond wrong. She is just as ... [snip!] ... can't believe she had me thinking she was a decent person for a bit. I will not be naive like that again. She IS disgusting."</blockquote>



I don't agree with him pressuring her for more children if that's not what she wanted but that should have been established between them before they had their 1st. Maybe when it comes out into the open she can get her tubal reversed or at least consider it

~*~*~*~ ; 1 child; Biteme, ca, United States 1716 posts
19th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~The Lunar Flower~:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Kallee's Momma!:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ~The ... [snip!] ... them before they had their 1st. Maybe when it comes out into the open she can get her tubal reversed or at least consider it"</blockquote>




She even said he wasn't pressuring her. She didn't want to 'hurt his feelings or cause an argument' about it. She was pretty go with the flow whenever he brought it up. If I was him and found out, the only thing I would be 'reversing' would be my marital status.

Amber + 2♡ 2 kids; Kansas 19411 posts
19th Jun '13
Quoting kthx.:" I don't think it's wrong if a father doesn't want to take care of their child. Terminate rights and be done. We as women can terminate an unwanted pregnancy, they should be able to do the same."


That's not always fair though. Some men promise to be there for the child then when it's born, they skip out. Plus a lot of men would be doing that if possible.

kthx. Due January 13 (girl); Cleves, Ohio 67228 posts
status 19th Jun '13
Quoting mj's mommy ♥:" That's not always fair though. Some men promise to be there for the child then when it's born, they skip out. Plus a lot of men would be doing that if possible."


I still don't see it as wrong. Better to have an absent father than a shitty one who doesn't want to be there.

Amber + 2♡ 2 kids; Kansas 19411 posts
19th Jun '13
Quoting kthx.:" I still don't see it as wrong. Better to have an absent father than a shitty one who doesn't want to be there."


He should be having to financially help though, IMO.

kthx. Due January 13 (girl); Cleves, Ohio 67228 posts
status 19th Jun '13
Quoting mj's mommy ♥:" He should be having to financially help though, IMO."


I don't think he should be forced to financially help. If he wants to terminate all rights and be done, so be it. The kid is probably better off. Same if a woman wants to do it and give the kid to their dad. But, most don't... and just pay child support and get visitations. If the parent truly doesn't want any part of the kids life... they shouldn't be forced to physically, financially, or emotionally support the kid. Though, I do find it sad when parents do that.

♥MOBAS♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 7198 posts
19th Jun '13
Quoting kthx.:" I don't think he should be forced to financially help. If he wants to terminate all rights and be done, ... [snip!] ... shouldn't be forced to physically, financially, or emotionally support the kid. Though, I do find it sad when parents do that. "


I agree.

Amber + 2♡ 2 kids; Kansas 19411 posts
19th Jun '13
Quoting kthx.:" I don't think he should be forced to financially help. If he wants to terminate all rights and be done, ... [snip!] ... shouldn't be forced to physically, financially, or emotionally support the kid. Though, I do find it sad when parents do that. "


As I respect your opinion, I do not agree and I'm glad it isn't that easy for them to just sign off their kid like that.

JΔ$ Georgia 77651 posts
status 19th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting mj's mommy ♥:</b>" As I respect your opinion, I do not agree and I'm glad it isn't that easy for them to just sign off their kid like that."</blockquote>



Why not? Mothers do it all the time.

Amber + 2♡ 2 kids; Kansas 19411 posts
19th Jun '13
Quoting Jas ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting mj's mommy ♥:</b>" As I respect your opinion, I do not ... [snip!] ... it isn't that easy for them to just sign off their kid like that."</blockquote> Why not? Mothers do it all the time."


And they make the mother pay child support.

~*~*~*~ ; 1 child; Biteme, ca, United States 1716 posts
19th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting mj's mommy ♥:</b>" And they make the mother pay child support."</blockquote>




I am pretty sure she is referencing the mother having an abortion without the fathers knowledge or consent.

JΔ$ Georgia 77651 posts
status 19th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting mj's mommy ♥:</b>" And they make the mother pay child support."</blockquote>



No, that is not always the case. What mother do you know, that gave their kid up for adoption, is making child support payments? I also know a few mothers who gave up rights and custody of their child and they do not make child support payments.