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user banned Due November 7 (boy); 1 child; Dayton, Ohio 26853 posts
20th Jun '13
Quoting lamr - 02-08-13-21:" Personally, for the amount of disgusting things that must have to see/touch/smell on a daily basis, I don't think a couple nice vaginas would make it worth it for me."


Right. When I think about going to my gyno it's either 1.) Because I have an infection 2.) Because I'm pregnant, and since I refuse most medical things they only see it when I am about to push a baby out 3.) I just had a baby and my vagina is torn and gushing blood or 4.) I am getting a pap and they were scraping my cervix and done.

dream 2 kids; Linz, Ob, Austria 59810 posts
20th Jun '13

I don't think the point was to say to never see a male OB (although the writer does actually say that at the end): I'm sure there are great male OBs out there too who can do their job professionally, etc.



What really got me was the part about them telling you to get MORE pelvic exams then you really need, like those examples he gave. I've heard that if you have a routine pap smear with no abnormalities, then you only need to have that done every 2 years or so. Not every year (or more often) like we are always told.



And what about those women with hysterectomies that don't even need exams any more!

I♥RYLEIGH 49 kids; Windsor, Ontario 10437 posts
20th Jun '13

I've never had a weird vibe from my OB and he is male. I had him for 2/4 of my pregnancies. Awesome man.

Trey&Genesis'momma 4 kids; 4 angel babies; Somewhere, IN, United States 4675 posts
20th Jun '13
Quoting [Doe Eyed Dirty Lurker]:" I've only ever had male gynocologists/obs. There aren't that many women drs around where I'm at, and ... [snip!] ... Honestly I could give a crap less what he's thinking while he's doing my exam, as long as he doesn't DO anything innapropriate."

:!::!: This. I personally have always felt more comfortable dealing with male drs than women but my current OB is a woman. It had crossed my mind with my first child and having to be checked routinely by the male OB bc he was always on call at the hospital when I was in PTL. But like this poster said, as long as they aren't doing anything inappropriate to me, I guess it doesn't really matter to me what they are thinking while doing my exam.



However I had quite two different experiences with the two male drs I dealt with. The first one(who frequently saw me with my son) always did checks and pelvic exams without a nurse in the room. When I saw the second male OB with my last daughter, he always had a nurse in the room and I stupidly questioned it and then was told, "Well it's because they are supposed to have nurses in there to make sure nothing inappropriate goes on" And to also protect the dr of being accused of inappropriate behavior when nothing goes on. Funny how I never questioned the first OB checking me without anyone in the room. :oops:

user banned Due November 7 (boy); 1 child; Dayton, Ohio 26853 posts
20th Jun '13
Quoting dream:" I don't think the point was to say to never see a male OB (although the writer does actually say that ... [snip!] ... (or more often) like we are always told. And what about those women with hysterectomies that don't even need exams any more!"


My insurance covers yearly preventative exams. Historically every 1 year is recommended, especially with the use of hormonal birth control.



My mother still goes to her OB because even though she had a hysterectomy she still gets yeast infections, she can still get bacteria imbalances, and most OB's will also check your rectal situation once women hit a certain age. They also do a breast exam. All of those things are valid for all women at any age.

Trey&Genesis'momma 4 kids; 4 angel babies; Somewhere, IN, United States 4675 posts
20th Jun '13
Quoting dream:" I don't think the point was to say to never see a male OB (although the writer does actually say that ... [snip!] ... (or more often) like we are always told. And what about those women with hysterectomies that don't even need exams any more!"

I mean yeah it would be stupid to have that many exams especially if you no longer need them. But at least that's knowledge we can learn from and know that if our drs try to push more exams on than necessary, we can decline them and know they are probably just being overly perverted. The thing I would be most worried about is for those who actually NEED the exams and being told they don't need them anymore because that is putting the patient in possible danger. But the article itself with saying that male OBs secretely get enjoyment out of doing pelvic exams is kind of a no brainer thing to me. Men are very sexual beings and are only human(even if they are drs and professional)

Severus Snape 2 kids; Tennessee 3550 posts
20th Jun '13

I personally wouldn't want a male OB. For this reason and many others. But not all women OBs are straight so you could have this problem with anyone regardless of gender.

eKnuckles Due February 13; Florida 3472 posts
20th Jun '13

I had a really bad experience with a female OB at 16.... You have to protect yourself from anyone who might possibly be looking down there, regardless of sex.



But yeah it's kind of a no duh that a male is going to like seeing an attractive woman's breasts and vagina (and butt).



I think a bigger issue is how they give women pelvic exams without consent while they are passed out waiting to have surgery. THAT is very disturbing.

Sweet lullaby Dearborn Heights, Michigan 30436 posts
20th Jun '13

When I had Dallas they did a exam every single time I went and from 7 months on it was every other week. Jacob I had the same office but they didn't do it as often, I went to a female at another location she only checked at 38 weeks when I begged her lol

Sweet lullaby Dearborn Heights, Michigan 30436 posts
20th Jun '13

My Dr. as a child checked me at every single vist now that I think about it, Like I was in and out for tonsillitis. he would check below and always made my mom leave.

eKnuckles Due February 13; Florida 3472 posts
20th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sweet lullaby:</b>" My Dr. as a child checked me at every single vist now that I think about it, Like I was in and out for tonsillitis. he would check below and always made my mom leave."</blockquote>




Your doctor would give you pelvic exams as a child?
I remember when i was 11 my friend told me her family doctor always squeezed her butt and said it was to make sure it was healthy.

Sweet lullaby Dearborn Heights, Michigan 30436 posts
20th Jun '13
Quoting eKnuckles:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sweet lullaby:</b>" My Dr. as a child checked me at every single ... [snip!] ... when i was 11 my friend told me her family doctor always squeezed her butt and said it was to make sure it was healthy."


Yes....

Trey&Genesis'momma 4 kids; 4 angel babies; Somewhere, IN, United States 4675 posts
20th Jun '13
Quoting eKnuckles:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sweet lullaby:</b>" My Dr. as a child checked me at every single ... [snip!] ... when i was 11 my friend told me her family doctor always squeezed her butt and said it was to make sure it was healthy."

:shock: How horribly awkward. On the topic at hand, I just remembered that my best friend went to a female gyno when she was 16 for birth control and she was horribly inappropriate with her. She vowed never to go back there again and now she sees a male OB and she loves him. So it really has nothing to do with just men getting sexually aroused with seeing women parts. Women can be the same way. :(

Sweet lullaby Dearborn Heights, Michigan 30436 posts
20th Jun '13
Quoting Trey&Genesis'momma:" :shock: How horribly awkward. On the topic at hand, I just remembered that my best friend went to a female ... [snip!] ... So it really has nothing to do with just men getting sexually aroused with seeing women parts. Women can be the same way. :("


Yeah when I was 16 they where so rough I cried threw it and then she was like well if you can't handle this you can't handle getting pregnant and having a baby I bled so bad after that exam

Trey&Genesis'momma 4 kids; 4 angel babies; Somewhere, IN, United States 4675 posts
20th Jun '13
Quoting Sweet lullaby:" Yeah when I was 16 they where so rough I cried threw it and then she was like well if you can't handle this you can't handle getting pregnant and having a baby I bled so bad after that exam"

Yeah that's how my best friend was too and I know it HAD to be really painful too because she NEVER cries over anything.