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Christan_89 2 kids; Grapevine, Texas 8043 posts
21st Jun '13
Quoting ~The Lunar Flower~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Asher and Haddie's Mommy:</b>" She DID have a problem with ... [snip!] ... to file for divorce right after he left me & i'd have filed for child support. Fuck waiting 2 years for him to do it LOL."


Its actually a good thing that she let him file, because if they ever go to court, they will take that into consideration. I wouldn't have waited 2 years though, courts be damned. Lol.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36616 posts
21st Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Asher and Haddie's Mommy:</b>" Its actually a good thing that she let him file, because if they ever go to court, they will take that into consideration. I wouldn't have waited 2 years though, courts be damned. Lol. "</blockquote>




After the first year id be thinking about filing for abandonment.

Amanda + 1 *TTC 2014* TTC since Dec 2012; 1 child; Jacksonville, North Carolina 2104 posts
21st Jun '13

I think she was wanting him to understand that he needs to build a relationship with him first since he was gone for 2 years before having his GF over all the time divorced or not the guy has been gone since the boy was 2 he has to have father and son time first before adding in another person. and the fact that he let that little disagreement interfer with time with his son is immature if he really wanted to see him he would and since he wasnt bringing her along with them then i dont see why he still cant come and get him they did wrong on both parts but its low to take it out on a innocent kid. as far as he goes dont bring it up if he brings it up tell him that he couldnt make it today but call him later that way its not mean but still true that he wont be there and he wont feel like its his fault.

mom2hailey&leah&aria 3 kids; Florida 1280 posts
21st Jun '13
Quoting Asher and Haddie's Mommy:" She DID have a problem with it... she didn't say anything in GF's presence because she was trying to ... [snip!] ... off that he hurt her son YET AGAIN and let something slip, yes. I'd bet 10,000 dollars I'd probably do it to. We're all human."


Agreed

~The Lunar Flower~ 2 kids; Alabama 6748 posts
21st Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Asher and Haddie's Mommy:</b>" Its actually a good thing that she let him file, because if they ever go to court, they will take that into consideration. I wouldn't have waited 2 years though, courts be damned. Lol. "</blockquote>



I'd have filed for abandonment as well. I can almost guarantee he wants the divorce so he can get remarried!

Christan_89 2 kids; Grapevine, Texas 8043 posts
21st Jun '13
Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Asher and Haddie's Mommy:</b>" Its actually a good thing that ... [snip!] ... years though, courts be damned. Lol. "</blockquote> After the first year id be thinking about filing for abandonment."


Word.

orlons momma 18 kids; Sewell, 1774 posts
21st Jun '13

Just to state facts I didn't call him a profile until the last text I sent him and he hasn't responded to it and I don't plan on saying anything else to him. Yes calling names is immature i agree. At the same time this isn't the first time that I was the bigger person in getting there relationship going again. He was always late on getting him and never on time dropping him off he always had to borrow my car seat. He doesn't even pay child support regularly like he really isn't a good dad at all yo be honest. My son got hurt one time with him and I know kids are kids they play they fall they get hurt but my son told me that his dad wasn't in the room till he started crying when he got hurt. also my son told me that daddy makes his girl friend cry and that they were yelling at each other in front of him and my baby even tried to make out with me once saying that's how u kiss a girl all head bent and mouth open so I could have jumped down his throat about all of that but I didn't I only said u don't have to bring her every time and that it's supposed to be his and our sons time. I feel like he was just waiting to try and blame me for him not being there. When we first started the new arrangement I offered that he take him more often just so he could kinda make up for lost time and he said he didn't have time ok then I went above and beyond plenty of other times in just 3 months to make things easier for them to spend time together. I'm over my marriage and relationship with him I just want the time he spend with our son to be focused on our son and nothing else I really don't think there's anything wrong in me wanting that.

Almyk 1 child; Michigan 455 posts
21st Jun '13
Quoting Asher and Haddie's Mommy:" She DID have a problem with it... she didn't say anything in GF's presence because she was trying to ... [snip!] ... off that he hurt her son YET AGAIN and let something slip, yes. I'd bet 10,000 dollars I'd probably do it to. We're all human."

100% agree with this.

DifferentDay Due June 2; 34 kids; Tennessee 3473 posts
21st Jun '13

Maybe I misread this but where did it say he wasn't gonna see the kid ever again? I think it said no show for a week already. If it was me, I wouldn't say anything to the kid. U could be jumping the gun. Maybe wait and see if the kid asks. More like- daddy is busy how about u call him and ask him? Yes, I'd put that ball in the bd court. For the kid's sake, I'd apologize to the bd for bringing up his gf that was ur hurt feelings talking. And I'd try to be more polite and say I just want u to know I'd like it if u didn't bring all these strange women around the son... Spin it like that. And I know ur prolly hurt and pissed but calling the bd a pedophile while wanting him to spend time w his kid was prolly not a smart move. Next time be the bigger person and kill him w kindness. And move past the gfs age. Most states it's legal anyways. Shitty how he did u wrong though but karma will catch up to him.

Christan_89 2 kids; Grapevine, Texas 8043 posts
21st Jun '13
Quoting orlons momma:" Just to state facts I didn't call him a profile until the last text I sent him and he hasn't responded ... [snip!] ... spend with our son to be focused on our son and nothing else I really don't think there's anything wrong in me wanting that. "


There's not.

orlons momma 18 kids; Sewell, 1774 posts
21st Jun '13
Quoting ~The Lunar Flower~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Asher and Haddie's Mommy:</b>" Its actually a good thing that ... [snip!] ... I'd have filed for abandonment as well. I can almost guarantee he wants the divorce so he can get remarried!"


Believe me if my finances allowed me to I would have filed myself. But when my divorce was finalized 6/10/13 I did state in court that the only reason I didn't file was because I couldn't afford to. Plus the courts do have on record that he wasn't there for 2 years. While he was gone he changed all contact info so I could not contact him about our son and I'm pretty sure he will do it again just to make it seem like something it's not. I am going to talk to my case worker for child support and the courts on Monday so that it can be put on file that he's not seeing him again. I know this man and this is the 3rd time he left my son well I was a fool for allowing it to happen again I thought I was doing the right thing but obviously not and we'll 3 strikes he's out I'm not going to let him do it again. If he wants to see him anymore he will have to take me to court cuz I'm not just going to let it slide like nothing happened again.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36616 posts
21st Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Asher and Haddie's Mommy:</b>" There's not. "</blockquote>




This. If he cops out so quickly when you want him to spend one on one time with his son then he is a ship father. Screw him. I would not take any of that either. lol. Im a pitch to deal with when it comes to my son, my ex will tell you that. Lmao there isn't anything wrong with that at all.

~The Lunar Flower~ 2 kids; Alabama 6748 posts
21st Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting orlons momma:</b>" Believe me if my finances allowed me to I would have filed myself. But when my divorce was finalized ... [snip!] ... wants to see him anymore he will have to take me to court cuz I'm not just going to let it slide like nothing happened again. "</blockquote>



You are doing the right thing. Protect your baby & tell your case worker/lawyer everything he's doing & what he subjected your son to over there. He was inappropriate in front of your son.

orlons momma 18 kids; Sewell, 1774 posts
21st Jun '13

I really wasn't a big drama maker at all in my ex and I'd split. In fact I was very quite about it all and let it eat at me for over a year. I am over it completely now to be honest I just wanted what was best for my son and to have both parents be able to openly communicate was what I thought best was. I only had the conversation I had with him because of the things he told me about his current relationship. He made he get an abortion because he didn't want her having his kid that made me very shocked because I knew my ex he was completely against it. In fact when his 16 year old little sister was pregnant with her second kid me n him talked her out of aborting it. Also for the person saying they weren't sure if that meant he wasn't going to continue to see the baby. No he stated that he is going to see him when my son is old enough to find him if my son want to then they can have a relationship. So that makes me know that this isn't just a skip this week issue. I will tell my son his dad is busy and I can have him try to call but I'm sure if my son calls from my phone he will get voicemail. Before when my ex wasn't around my son was obsessed with Spiderman and he would always say I know why my dad is so busy because he's in ny city saving everyone like Spiderman. I never spoke bad about his father to him or in front of him. Not anything about any adult stuff at all I always just told his dad was busy I just think my son is gonna have a smarty pants thing to say like we'll he can't always be busy of course after a while not right away. And I'm sure I'll cross that bridge when I get to it but really that man was looking for a reason to not have the responsibility of a kid I think and he seen a little opening and went for it. Believe me I could have went all crazy on him but I choose not to because it's not worth it especially since a small conversation turn into him dipping out on my kid again

orlons momma 18 kids; Sewell, 1774 posts
21st Jun '13
Quoting ~The Lunar Flower~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting orlons momma:</b>" Believe me if my finances allowed me to ... [snip!] ... case worker/lawyer everything he's doing & what he subjected your son to over there. He was inappropriate in front of your son."


Thanks I am I always keep a good record of everything just to cover myself and to look back on it and make sure that I did and have done what is in the best interest of my son.