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Make me stop bfing? HanaK 1 child; Tennessee 966 posts
22nd Jun '13

Bd is trying to get dd every weekend....
Prob is dd is ebf she's almost one.
I'm worried if they grant him custody they will make me stop bfing. I don't want to and I'm not ready to stop bfing!



Only thing she eat beside bm is few baby chips and water.
And she never drinks pumped milk only from the breast.
If they say I have to pump 1) Idk how she will drink my milk from bottle bc se always gets it from b**b and 2) I literally have to sit there and pump for 45mins oy once ounce! And that's once oz milk combined from both breast not one oz from each.
I tried telling bd that but he don't understand he thinks I can just pump or she can just get milk idk.
And u know not a lot of people bf so they don't understand!



I'm really worried

Hocus Pocus Due September 27 (boy); Japan 1096 posts
22nd Jun '13

Most states don't do over nights till age 5. I wouldn't worry at least here at her age her would get her three days a week for 2 hrs each day. That's it no over nights etc till age 5. Check Ur states visitation laws

Ronnie RadKat 4 kids; Arizona 22012 posts
status 22nd Jun '13

Usually they don't allow babies to have overnight visits. It's actually not recommended until 2.5-3yrs old.

HanaK 1 child; Tennessee 966 posts
22nd Jun '13

Idk. I live in TN and I know a lot of people who's kids stay overnight w the father? But I mean they're all formula fed I'm the ONLY person I know in my city who's bfing their baby who's almost 1yr old that's why I can't really ask anybody think question nobody bfs here

HanaK 1 child; Tennessee 966 posts
22nd Jun '13

I am literally loosing sleep over this

HanaK 1 child; Tennessee 966 posts
22nd Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kayla [:)]♥:</b>" At such a young age, at most he will get every other weekend. And having her gone for the weekend isn't going to stop you from breastfeeding. :)"</blockquote>



But what will she drink!? I can't pump enough milk and she don't know formula and whole milk. All she know and ever known is breast :-/

HanaK 1 child; Tennessee 966 posts
22nd Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kayla [:)]♥:</b>" She can drink water, it wont harm her. She doesn't need milk if you will still be breastfeeding...m By the time he would get full weekends, every weekends, she would be closer to two."</blockquote>



Oh yeah. If he's getting her for one hour or something yeah that makes sense

Ronnie RadKat 4 kids; Arizona 22012 posts
status 22nd Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting HanaK:</b>" I am literally loosing sleep over this"</blockquote>




Has he seen her regularly since she was born?




Typically with infants and toddlers they do frequent, short visits instead of once a week overnights.




Try contacting la leche league in your area and see if they would be willing to advocate in court for your daughters right/need to continue breastfeeding.

A & T + 2♡ 2 kids; Kansas 19148 posts
status 22nd Jun '13
Quoting 36-24-36OnlyIfshes5-3:" Usually they don't allow babies to have overnight visits. It's actually not recommended until 2.5-3yrs old."


That's not true. When my daughter was 1 they started making her go to her dads every from Wednesday-Friday morning and every other weekend.

snglemama 4 kids; Georgia 11978 posts
22nd Jun '13
Quoting Hocus Pocus:" Most states don't do over nights till age 5. I wouldn't worry at least here at her age her would get ... [snip!] ... would get her three days a week for 2 hrs each day. That's it no over nights etc till age 5. Check Ur states visitation laws"


that's not true at all. It unfortunately depends on the judge. Many believe parenting time with the father is more important than BF.

Ronnie RadKat 4 kids; Arizona 22012 posts
status 22nd Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ☮ Amber:</b>" That's not true. When my daughter was 1 they started making her go to her dads every from Wednesday-Friday morning and every other weekend."</blockquote>



Not recommended by psychologists.

Ronnie RadKat 4 kids; Arizona 22012 posts
status 22nd Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ☮ Amber:</b>" That's not true. When my daughter was 1 they started making her go to her dads every from Wednesday-Friday morning and every other weekend."</blockquote>




Also there are exceptions to the guidelines, such as if the parent was very involved prior, had daily contact, lived with the child and was one of its primary caretakers prior to that point

snglemama 4 kids; Georgia 11978 posts
24th Jun '13
Quoting 36-24-36OnlyIfshes5-3:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ☮ Amber:</b>" That's not true. When my daughter was 1 ... [snip!] ... to her dads every from Wednesday-Friday morning and every other weekend."</blockquote> Not recommended by psychologists."


it's actually pretty heavily debated.... the argument between parenting time and breast feeding benefits.