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Shreaking toddler Ace of Bace 1 child; New Bern, North Carolina 1657 posts
22nd Jun '13

my son is 19 months old. he can not talk yet...so he is constantly shreaking when he wants something or doesn't get his way. I have no idea what to do with him. it is getting to where are can not go out to eat or other public places. a few times I have tapped him in the mouth...not hard kinda like a pat (I know I will probably regret adding that on here) and it works...but I immediately feel bad because he tears up and looks so sad.
note: it doesn't bother me when I know he wants something...its when he isn't getting what he wants and he wont stop screaming....

hobbit* 3 kids; New Zealand 44783 posts
22nd Jun '13

My daughter was/is exactly the same. She's 2 and a half now and it's gotten better.
My issue was food if she wanted something to eat shed just shreak at the cupboards or fridge and it was a guessing game " do you want this? This? This?" Until I finally got something she wanted. Everything I offered her was a shreak if it was no.
Over time she's picked up words and her speech has improved. She still had meltdowns but its much better than it was.
Only thing I can say is hang in there, and stop the mouth popping, it never occurred to me to do that. If you son is like my daughter the streaking is frustration because she couldn't communicate. It was hard for me to deal with because my son was a fantastic talker so it was all new to me.

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 17043 posts
status 22nd Jun '13

Distraction is always your best bet. I bring a portable DVD player in restaurants and my phone with baby apps in them... They sell cases in the baby toy section on Walmart so if he drops it, it won't break (iPhone only) I would not hit him anymore...especially in the face. The last thing you need is either CPS knocking on your door or a shrieking toddler that ALSO hits.



I also pick places to eat that are loud already (hooters, bar and grill places) and ask to be seated away from the majority. Sometimes you have to just get up from places and step outside for a minute...it's all a part of parenting. :)

user banned 1 child; Germany 12377 posts
22nd Jun '13

Tapping DD on the mouth was the only thing that worked... I mean you can't just cover their mouth and tell 'em to shut up lol. Tapping on the mouth would get her attention and let her know it was bad... and the tears are from you doing something he dislikes, not out of pain lol

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 17043 posts
status 22nd Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rd.:</b>" Tapping DD on the mouth was the only thing that worked... I mean you can't just cover their mouth and ... [snip!] ... get her attention and let her know it was bad... and the tears are from you doing something he dislikes, not out of pain lol"</blockquote>




That's kind of defeating the purpose of having them be quiet though ain't it?

user banned 1 child; Germany 12377 posts
22nd Jun '13
Quoting JessieLeeAnne:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Rd.:</b>" Tapping DD on the mouth was the only thing that worked... ... [snip!] ... not out of pain lol"</blockquote> That's kind of defeating the purpose of having them be quiet though ain't it?"


It never made DD cry or inconsolable. It would get her attention and I'd tell her no etc. and she'd get over it and move on.

Subtle As A Hurricane 2 kids; Texas 4126 posts
22nd Jun '13

Have you thought about teaching him a few words in sign language? I taught DD a few words to help her communicate. She would whine when she wanted something, and I about pulled all my hair out. She was taught more, all done, milk, juice, cheese, yogurt, please, thank you, and a few other simple things. It saved my sanity. I plan on starting earlier with this baby.

Ace of Bace 1 child; New Bern, North Carolina 1657 posts
22nd Jun '13
Quoting Subtle As A Hurricane:" Have you thought about teaching him a few words in sign language? I taught DD a few words to help her ... [snip!] ... yogurt, please, thank you, and a few other simple things. It saved my sanity. I plan on starting earlier with this baby."

I thought about that but my concern is he will never talk if he can do sign language

user banned 1 child; Germany 12377 posts
22nd Jun '13
Quoting Al&Ace:" I thought about that but my concern is he will never talk if he can do sign language"

It just gives him a way to communicate now... when you use the signs, say the word as well... he will start talking unless there's a medical condition preventing it.

Subtle As A Hurricane 2 kids; Texas 4126 posts
22nd Jun '13
Quoting Al&Ace:" I thought about that but my concern is he will never talk if he can do sign language"


You teach the word with the sign. With DD, as soon as she could say the word, we dropped the sign. She would continue to say and sign, though. She's 2.5 and still says and signs some words. She also speaks clearly in full sentences (when she wants to) and talks all the time.