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Delivering alone MahmuhMahmuh 3 kids; Wichita, Kansas 6706 posts
23rd Jun '13

Would it bother you? Anyone done it? I have plenty of people who want to be there, baby's father included, but none of them really calm me. Even my own mother makes me crazy most of the time. I just can't help but think the most peaceful birth experience for me might be if no one is there until after we're out of delivery.The only person I feel bad for excluding is his father, but he has been absent up until the last couple of weeks, we have no real relationship, and while I don't want him to miss the birth, I don't want him in the operating room either (I'm more than likely having a repeat c-section). Did you deliver alone intentionally? Do you regret doing so? Glad you did it? TIA

user banned 2 kids; Hamilton, Ontario 19220 posts
23rd Jun '13

Me and SO dont allow anyone there, and honestly, if I had my way Id probably not have him there lol, but I dont want him to miss out on the birth of his kids.




But Im with you, nurses are all I need, get the baby out, get me comfortable for the first time in months, and then everyone can come annoy me :wink:

Hy'ska 2 kids; Washington 50791 posts
23rd Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting MahmuhMahmuh:</b>" Would it bother you? Anyone done it? I have plenty of people who want to be there, baby's father included, ... [snip!] ... more than likely having a repeat c-section). Did you deliver alone intentionally? Do you regret doing so? Glad you did it? TIA"</blockquote>




I labored at home alone and birthed with my mw there a few minutes after she arrived. My then husband was in the house but while i was in labor I found he was texting the woman he had cheated with and wanted nothing to do with him. He could of watched the baby be born but he was too busy on the opposite end of the house texting her.



I liked being alone. I had a beautiful labor and birth. I would definitely do it alone again.

MahmuhMahmuh 3 kids; Wichita, Kansas 6706 posts
23rd Jun '13
Quoting A Beautiful Disaster:" Me and SO dont allow anyone there, and honestly, if I had my way Id probably not have him there lol, ... [snip!] ... are all I need, get the baby out, get me comfortable for the first time in months, and then everyone can come annoy me :wink:"



Yeah I've mentioned this to a few people, their response is usually "I'll be there, whether you want me there or not.." And that is exactly why I'd rather be alone, they mean well, but my friends and family are over-bearing and have littl concern for what I want..

eKnuckles Due February 13; Florida 3473 posts
23rd Jun '13

I did. Just my husband and myself. I knew it would effect my labor if I had people around. Actually for most of my labor even my husband wasn't around (i had a home birth, and a short labor. When I needed him to come home I gave birth 3 hours later).

MahmuhMahmuh 3 kids; Wichita, Kansas 6706 posts
23rd Jun '13
Quoting Hy'ska:" <blockquote><b>Quoting MahmuhMahmuh:</b>" Would it bother you? Anyone done it? I have ... [snip!] ... end of the house texting her. I liked being alone. I had a beautiful labor and birth. I would definitely do it alone again."



That's an awful reason to be alone, but sounds like it turned out okay anyways!

eKnuckles Due February 13; Florida 3473 posts
23rd Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting MahmuhMahmuh:</b>" Yeah I've mentioned this to a few people, their response is usually "I'll be there, whether you ... [snip!] ... why I'd rather be alone, they mean well, but my friends and family are over-bearing and have littl concern for what I want.."</blockquote>




There are a couple ways you get around that. Don't tell anyone you're in labor, and don't let anyone into your room. The nurses will make sure your desires are met in that regard. Either they won't come because they know they won't be allowed in, or they'll go home when they realize they are not getting back to your room.

Ronnie RadKat 4 kids; Arizona 22168 posts
23rd Jun '13
Quoting MahmuhMahmuh:" Yeah I've mentioned this to a few people, their response is usually "I'll be there, whether you ... [snip!] ... why I'd rather be alone, they mean well, but my friends and family are over-bearing and have littl concern for what I want.."


One of my friends tried to tell me the same thing and I told her that if she wanted to be like that I just wouldn't tell her I was having a baby until I was finished. She finally got the point that I wanted to be alone.
My son's father also didn't understand why I only wanted him in the room (his mom wanted to come in) but now that we've talked about my reasons he gets it. I like being alone, if there are people in there chatting and making noise it annoys me and distracts me from my pain management methods. For the majority of my labor he sat on the other side of the room and played on his phone and took over my phone when people wouldn't stop texting me.



My first labor my mom and SO were in the room, my mom is a really anxious person and it rubbed off on me. It was the worst labor experience I've had because I wasn't able to just be calm.

user banned 2 kids; Hamilton, Ontario 19220 posts
23rd Jun '13
Quoting eKnuckles:" <blockquote><b>Quoting MahmuhMahmuh:</b>" Yeah I've mentioned this to a few people, ... [snip!] ... come because they know they won't be allowed in, or they'll go home when they realize they are not getting back to your room."


this is what we did, we went on private status......its like going in as a run away battered wife, but hey, it kept everyone away :)



The nurses did tell me my mother was constantly calling and threatening they would be fired for not telling her I was there :roll:

Hy'ska 2 kids; Washington 50791 posts
23rd Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting MahmuhMahmuh:</b>" That's an awful reason to be alone, but sounds like it turned out okay anyways!"</blockquote>




It was so much easier being alone. No one was bothering me or asking how i was doing. I haaaate when I'm in -labor- and get asked how I'm doing lol

Ronnie RadKat 4 kids; Arizona 22168 posts
23rd Jun '13
Quoting A Beautiful Disaster:" this is what we did, we went on private status......its like going in as a run away battered wife, but ... [snip!] ... nurses did tell me my mother was constantly calling and threatening they would be fired for not telling her I was there :roll:"


Even though I asked them not to let anyone in, my nurses still let people knock on the door (which annoyed me) and they asked if I had changed my mind about letting people in (which also annoyed me). It was my SO's mom and sister, they came to the hospital even though he specifically told them not to. I was in transition and in SO much pain and it just annoyed the hell out of me.

Two Princesses 2 kids; Los Angeles, CA, United States 7205 posts
23rd Jun '13

I've never labored alone, but I chose to have no one come to my D&C in 2011. I'm glad I went alone, even though the nurses seemed to feel sorry for me because they thought I had no one to be there for me. I told them my husband had to work so they wouldn't feel so bad.

MahmuhMahmuh 3 kids; Wichita, Kansas 6706 posts
23rd Jun '13
Quoting eKnuckles:" <blockquote><b>Quoting MahmuhMahmuh:</b>" Yeah I've mentioned this to a few people, ... [snip!] ... come because they know they won't be allowed in, or they'll go home when they realize they are not getting back to your room."



Yeah I'm thinking I will have baby's father take me to the hospital, and maybe just have him wait outside the room. I want to include him as much as possible even if I don't want him in the room while I deliver. And surprisingly, he respects what I want more than most people around me.

MahmuhMahmuh 3 kids; Wichita, Kansas 6706 posts
23rd Jun '13
Quoting eKnuckles:" <blockquote><b>Quoting MahmuhMahmuh:</b>" Yeah I've mentioned this to a few people, ... [snip!] ... come because they know they won't be allowed in, or they'll go home when they realize they are not getting back to your room."



Yeah I'm thinking I will have baby's father take me to the hospital, and maybe just have him wait outside the room. I want to include him as much as possible even if I don't want him in the room while I deliver. And surprisingly, he respects what I want more than most people around me.

Rachel Whalen 1 child; New York 406 posts
23rd Jun '13

I just want me and SO in the delivery room my mom keeps asking if she can come too. I feel bad telling her no but I really just want us two my mom is to dramatic I cant lol