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SillyBek Due June 23 (boy); 17 kids; Utah 307 posts
23rd Jun '13

I'm due Monday and I told my mom the other day she isn't allowed in the delivery room. She assumed she would be there and I didn't want to be mean but I knew I'd regret it if I didn't speak up, she and my dad adopted me at the age of seven then decided they didn't want to deal with me and put me in foster care at 15 years old. I wasn't a horrible child but they were well off strict and religious and expected to have the perfect little family. I ruined that image for them I guess. They came back into my life four months ago and want to be involved in my kids life's. that's all fine and dandy but she always has to have control of every situation and I'm not about to let her try and control what's going on while I'm in labor. Your comfort is priority! If anyone is going to make you uncomfortable or stress you out don't feel bad for not having them there! What's best for you and baby is most important! And if people aren't going to respect your wishes of being alone then don't tell them your in the hospital until your ready for visitors

Ronnie RadKat 4 kids; Arizona 21903 posts
23rd Jun '13
Quoting SillyBek:" I'm due Monday and I told my mom the other day she isn't allowed in the delivery room. She assumed she ... [snip!] ... aren't going to respect your wishes of being alone then don't tell them your in the hospital until your ready for visitors"


That's so shitty! Not you, your adoptive parents. My MIL recently adopted siblings that are 11 and 12, this is their THIRD adoption.

MahmuhMahmuh 3 kids; Wichita, Kansas 6706 posts
23rd Jun '13
Quoting 36-24-36OnlyIfshes5-3:" That's so shitty! Not you, your adoptive parents. My MIL recently adopted siblings that are 11 and 12, this is their THIRD adoption. "



That sickens me. I adopted my oldest child, and could never even imagine thinking about "giving her back".. How are those kids supposed to believe in a "forever family" if even adoption isn't long term?

Ronnie RadKat 4 kids; Arizona 21903 posts
23rd Jun '13
Quoting MahmuhMahmuh:" That sickens me. I adopted my oldest child, and could never even imagine thinking about "giving ... [snip!] ... about "giving her back".. How are those kids supposed to believe in a "forever family" if even adoption isn't long term?"


Exactly. It's just like with a biological child, things don't always go how you think they would but you don't just say "Oh you're not what I ordered so I'm sending you back now". I think that is just horrendous.

SillyBek Due June 23 (boy); 17 kids; Utah 307 posts
23rd Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting MahmuhMahmuh:</b>" That sickens me. I adopted my oldest child, and could never even imagine thinking about "giving ... [snip!] ... about "giving her back".. How are those kids supposed to believe in a "forever family" if even adoption isn't long term?"</blockquote>



Right?! I have kept my distance since being in contact with them again. I will have my SO and someone else I consider my mom with me when I deliver. This person took me in at 15 and played the role of mom. She stuck by my side even through a drug addiction and some major problems connecting in relationships after going through what I did with my adoptive parents. I'm lucky to have her, to me she is mom

SillyBek Due June 23 (boy); 17 kids; Utah 307 posts
23rd Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting MahmuhMahmuh:</b>" That sickens me. I adopted my oldest child, and could never even imagine thinking about "giving ... [snip!] ... about "giving her back".. How are those kids supposed to believe in a "forever family" if even adoption isn't long term?"</blockquote>



Your child is lucky to have you! It doesn't always work out that way sadly. Family is supposed to be forever and it's sad when that is taken from a child. I do think its made me a better mother to my 5 year old and I will continue to use it to make me a better mother to this baby to!