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Emily Dickinson 18 kids; Indiana 57831 posts
24th Jun '13

I believe that parents should have a date night atleast once a month where they can get out and be husband/wife and not just mommy/daddy.



ETA: That, to me, is the bare minimum, though. We all need our away time and unless your child isn't cared for properly, I see no harm in going out and doing things without them.

......... nowhere, NW, United States 25972 posts
24th Jun '13
Quoting ♥ darah ♥:" Should they go out once a week? Once a month? A couple of times a month? Not including school or important ... [snip!] ... important things like work or appointments. I'm talking about going out with friends to play pool, drink, go to a concert, etc."


As much as they want as long as they're taking care of their responsibilities.



I went out 2 times this past weekend. I earned it..lol

Back to Noob Status Ohio 14048 posts
24th Jun '13
Quoting ♥ darah ♥:" Should they go out once a week? Once a month? A couple of times a month? Not including school or important ... [snip!] ... important things like work or appointments. I'm talking about going out with friends to play pool, drink, go to a concert, etc."


I think a couple times of month is a good balance, but as long as the kids are in good hands, who cares?

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 26807 posts
24th Jun '13
Quoting Punk Rock Princess {EBFT}:" I say a few times a year.."


Are you kidding... a few times a year? lol... I'd go nuts if I only went out a few times a year... seriously I would be ripping Lily's hair out... not my own hair out.. LILY'S hair out if I only went out a few times a year... lol




Go out as often as necessary... as long as the kids are taken care of and you aren't neglecting them... even if that's every damn weekend!

Jax 3 kids; Sydney, NS, Australia 2888 posts
24th Jun '13
Quoting FroggysMommy:" Are you kidding... a few times a year? lol... I'd go nuts if I only went out a few times a year... ... [snip!] ... as necessary... as long as the kids are taken care of and you aren't neglecting them... even if that's every damn weekend!"


I myself only go out with friends a few times a year. Actually the last time i went out was before i got pregnant with my now 6 month old :shock:



Think Im due for a night out lol

SavageDarling 3 kids; Webster, Massachusetts 10381 posts
24th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting J&T+3:</b>" I myself only go out with friends a few times a year. Actually the last time i went out was before i got pregnant with my now 6 month old :shock: Think Im due for a night out lol"</blockquote>




I'm the same way, but I KNOW I'm burnt out and need a night out with my friends. The last time inwent out and just let loose and had a great time without my kids was before i got pregnant wih my daughter who is now 2 1/2. she never took a bottle and she is still breastfeeding actually. It'll be a while now before i get a moght out because the baby is only 7 weeks old and leaving two nursing little ones for a night is not a great idea.

justanothamotha Due January 20; 130 kids; Climax, Michigan 5120 posts
25th Jun '13

Generally speaking it depends on too many factors. i do know people that go out too much & people that don't treat themselves ever & probably should.



When I say "too much" I mean people who aren't spending enough time with their kids, don't have the money to spend anyway (as in always borrowing from others) and take advantage of those that provide childcare.... Likewise I know very very devoted parents who have the money they can afford to go out, but never make themselves a priority. And if you have a newborn, then probably, going out shouldn't be a priority (and yes I know people who couldn't wait to go out ASAP & get their drink on).



For us...it varies. Neither of us go out independently often. O may grab coffee with a friend for a few hours or go out to lunch on the weekend, but I generally don't go out for the night without him & vice versa. Once in a while maybe. Usually if we go, we are out together....we are also a bit older compared to the average age on BG it seems, so that might be why too. When we were younger, in our early 20's & had no kids, we both went out all.the.time, together & separately.

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
25th Jun '13

I think it depends. When I was a single mother, I went out Friday - Sunday. Sometimes, Thursday. I worked hard throughout the day the whole week & spent every time available with DD so why not. I would still wake up every morning, even if I was tired as f**k, got ready, and took care of my responsibilities. I think that as long, you don't forget what your important priorities should be, you can go out every day if you'd like.

Rob's Living Dead Girl Royersford, Pennsylvania 3268 posts
status 26th Jun '13
Quoting ♥ darah ♥:" Should they go out once a week? Once a month? A couple of times a month? Not including school or important ... [snip!] ... important things like work or appointments. I'm talking about going out with friends to play pool, drink, go to a concert, etc."

I'm currently not a parent, I'd imagine raising people would be the hardest job out there so far. I say when the parent feels that a break is needed, but truthfully hope these breaks won't be considerably excessive.

Nicola. 2 kids; Huntsville, AL, United States 7171 posts
status 26th Jun '13

Everyone's family and situation is different. There shouldn't be a set amount of times you are allowed a day/night out. I do think it is important that both parents are okay with how much the other is going out. One parent shouldn't get shafted all the time so the other can go out.



As for us, we rarely go "out". For the first 5 months after DS was born, we were in a state with no friends or family. So we didn't go out without him at all. But even since we have been with family, I haven't felt the need to go out. I ask for a break from night time duties or with bath time and such sometimes.
We both are more "homebodies" than most. DS goes to bed early so we have time together a lot. Where we relax and watch movies or play video games.




I have been trying to get my fiance to go out for a night with my brother, since they are best buddies, and have some drinks. He works so hard, he deserves it.

user banned 3 kids; Los Angeles, California 54034 posts
26th Jun '13

Whenever they want as long as everything's taken care of.



A few times a year does not cut it for me, I would be miserable. Mama's gotta have a life, too. Once a month is also not enough for me. I want to at least go out to a nice dinner with my husband or a friend or even alone once or twice a week. Lately it's been once a week and I'm starting to feel like an antisocial hermit.

SuperSecret123 Japan 220 posts
26th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift Ph.D:</b>" Whenever they want as long as everything's taken care of. A few times a year does not cut it for me, ... [snip!] ... a friend or even alone once or twice a week. Lately it's been once a week and I'm starting to feel like an antisocial hermit. "</blockquote>




I'm extremely social, I love going out...I go out every Wednesday night and every other weekend, often times the whole weekend lol.. kids are visiting with their dad so why not :-)