So I had a guy who was interested in dating me. We hung out quite a bit, and spent time together, but nothing really came of it. Well, I started to feel as though with this guy things might only stay as friends, that I didn't feel it could progress any further from my perspective, friendship was all I wanted. Well 4 months had passed and I let him know how I felt and that I feel him and I wouldn't be anything more than just good friends. Well he took it rather odd, not that we were even all that close, we hung out every once in a while and messaged on facebook occasionally. He sent me a message via facebook saying that and I quote, " Knowing now that you're no longer interested in dating I no longer have a reason to hang out with you." Now I'm wonder what the **** was I to this guy? He didn't want to hang out with me to be my friend? Enjoy my company? He doesn't want to spend time with me any more because I may not be interested in being anything more than friends? He made me feel like crap :(
<blockquote><b>Quoting weeooo:</b>" So I had a guy who was interested in dating me. We hung out quite a bit, and spent time together, but ... [snip!] ... spend time with me any more because I may not be interested in being anything more than friends? He made me feel like crap :("</blockquote>
Well he had feel for you that weren't reciprocated. He's allowed to be hurt and it's understandable not wanting to just be friends.
A lot of people court someone because they want a relationship not friendship and when they see its not progressing into a relationship they move on completely. He obviously liked you enough to want to be with you but he wasn't looking for a friend. There isn't a reason for you to feel like crap.
don't feel that way. if he doesnt want you as a friend you knbow where he wanted to be. just forget him and find someone who wants a friendhip or can be just that.
Men are frigging weird. I have 4 guys I would have dated in a heartbeat but always got the friends vibe from them or the fwb vibe...then after I'd date someone else they'd say "wtf...what was wrong with me??"...uhhhh?
But wouldn't you think it's weird that he sees no point in even being friends now that I don't want to be anything more than that with him? I feel like if you want to be in a relationship with someone, that you have to be their friend first, it almost makes me feel like I was nothing to him.
I don't think you did anything wrong. I can understand if that was what he was looking for, and hes hurt... But it doesn't sound like he initiated anything DATING like. Know what I mean? If he kept it casual and friend like then what can he expect? Especially when you weren't sure what his angle was.
When we went out, it was I that drove, even going out of town. Sometimes I even paid. Every single time we did anything it was at my place, hang out, watch a movie, etc. I only felt that we wouldn't be anything more than friends because the guy started to have red flags popping up as far as engaging in a relationship with him. He was 28, lives at home with his parents still, works a part time job making not too much, has little to no motivation to change his current life standings. When I started to get to know him more, more and more of these flags appeared, so I kept as only friendship. The 'dates' didn't really feel like dates, more just hanging out and spending time. Therefore, I felt that anything more than friendship wasn't possible with this guy. I like him as a friend, we get along and have things in common, but nothing more, and then this is how he replies to me, it made me feel worthless.