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Men weeooo Due March 5; Nebraska 145 posts
23rd Jun '13

So I had a guy who was interested in dating me. We hung out quite a bit, and spent time together, but nothing really came of it. Well, I started to feel as though with this guy things might only stay as friends, that I didn't feel it could progress any further from my perspective, friendship was all I wanted. Well 4 months had passed and I let him know how I felt and that I feel him and I wouldn't be anything more than just good friends. Well he took it rather odd, not that we were even all that close, we hung out every once in a while and messaged on facebook occasionally. He sent me a message via facebook saying that and I quote, " Knowing now that you're no longer interested in dating I no longer have a reason to hang out with you." Now I'm wonder what the **** was I to this guy? He didn't want to hang out with me to be my friend? Enjoy my company? He doesn't want to spend time with me any more because I may not be interested in being anything more than friends? He made me feel like crap :(

Hy'ska 2 kids; Washington 50791 posts
23rd Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting weeooo:</b>" So I had a guy who was interested in dating me. We hung out quite a bit, and spent time together, but ... [snip!] ... spend time with me any more because I may not be interested in being anything more than friends? He made me feel like crap :("</blockquote>




Well he had feel for you that weren't reciprocated. He's allowed to be hurt and it's understandable not wanting to just be friends.

mama2manyyy 33 kids; South Carolina 1823 posts
23rd Jun '13

A lot of people court someone because they want a relationship not friendship and when they see its not progressing into a relationship they move on completely. He obviously liked you enough to want to be with you but he wasn't looking for a friend. There isn't a reason for you to feel like crap.

•○☆Farm●Girl☆○• TTC since Jun 2013; 1 angel baby; Backwoods, VA, United States 1373 posts
status 23rd Jun '13

don't feel that way. if he doesnt want you as a friend you knbow where he wanted to be. just forget him and find someone who wants a friendhip or can be just that.

user banned 21 kids; North Dakota 3800 posts
23rd Jun '13

Men are frigging weird. I have 4 guys I would have dated in a heartbeat but always got the friends vibe from them or the fwb vibe...then after I'd date someone else they'd say "wtf...what was wrong with me??"...uhhhh?

weeooo Due March 5; Nebraska 145 posts
23rd Jun '13

But wouldn't you think it's weird that he sees no point in even being friends now that I don't want to be anything more than that with him? I feel like if you want to be in a relationship with someone, that you have to be their friend first, it almost makes me feel like I was nothing to him.

MamaTay[Kennedi] 1 child; Greenville, Texas 5183 posts
23rd Jun '13

I don't think you did anything wrong. I can understand if that was what he was looking for, and hes hurt... But it doesn't sound like he initiated anything DATING like. Know what I mean? If he kept it casual and friend like then what can he expect? Especially when you weren't sure what his angle was.

weeooo Due March 5; Nebraska 145 posts
23rd Jun '13

When we went out, it was I that drove, even going out of town. Sometimes I even paid. Every single time we did anything it was at my place, hang out, watch a movie, etc. I only felt that we wouldn't be anything more than friends because the guy started to have red flags popping up as far as engaging in a relationship with him. He was 28, lives at home with his parents still, works a part time job making not too much, has little to no motivation to change his current life standings. When I started to get to know him more, more and more of these flags appeared, so I kept as only friendship. The 'dates' didn't really feel like dates, more just hanging out and spending time. Therefore, I felt that anything more than friendship wasn't possible with this guy. I like him as a friend, we get along and have things in common, but nothing more, and then this is how he replies to me, it made me feel worthless.