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HamHam Squeekerz 2 kids; Columbus, OH, United States 13724 posts
24th Jun '13

I do have ONE subject that if someone generalizes with it... I get ultra defensive. It has to do with my personality disorder. I had to stop reading about it online because there were so many statements that "People with BPD(Borderline Personality Disorder) are awful, selfish people that will manipulate you and eventually make you want to kill yourself"

ρiηkie ρie 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Kentucky 21902 posts
24th Jun '13
Quoting Emotional Squeekerz:" I do have ONE subject that if someone generalizes with it... I get ultra defensive. It has to do with ... [snip!] ... Personality Disorder) are awful, selfish people that will manipulate you and eventually make you want to kill yourself""

As someone who also has BPD, I'm totally with you on this. That crap gets on my nerves sooooo much. I am not a monster and I work really hard to keep my shit in check. I like to think I do a damn good job at it too even if I do struggle sometimes. So when I hear/read comments like that it infuriates me.

HamHam Squeekerz 2 kids; Columbus, OH, United States 13724 posts
24th Jun '13
Quoting ρiηkie ρie:" As someone who also has BPD, I'm totally with you on this. That crap gets on my nerves sooooo much. I ... [snip!] ... think I do a damn good job at it too even if I do struggle sometimes. So when I hear/read comments like that it infuriates me. "


It's awful. I can't believe there are books written that put BPD sufferers in a bad light. And I've seen so many places that you should just leave someone if they have it. :( It hurts my heart. Yes, there are circumstances, like if the person suffering from it doesn't want help, nor do they want to try to help themselves... but still... reading all the negative things makes me wonder if I really am more of an awful person than I think I am. It's depressing

Alice. Due May 17; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Manchester, United Kingdom 1584 posts
24th Jun '13

I've just been to see my doctor about depression and she referred me to a christian counseling service without even checking my religion. I'm an atheist. I feel like she looked at me and thought 'white girl = christian girl'. I'm offended that she thinks that.

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
24th Jun '13

I get irritated but not offended.



It is irritating to have a generalization thrust upon you.

user banned 2 kids; Silly, Belgium 6539 posts
24th Jun '13

I get kind of offended with things regarding my ethnicity. Like "Arabs are terrorists.". It spreads hate and I've been attacked by people who believe it. Same as people who say we're uncivilized because we sometimes eat with our hands and we don't use toilet paper to clean our butts. Like dude we're not savages the way we eat is efficient for our type of food and we wash our asses with water because of the emphasis on cleanliness.

~*Julie Blue Eyes*~ 1 child; Nunya, CA, United States 6102 posts
24th Jun '13

I don't get offended by just about anything. I don't get offended FOR people and I rarely, RARELY, am offended, myself.



****People LIVE to be offended****



What on earth would we do with ourselves with all of that time we spend being offended and pointing fingers at each other?

Back to Noob Status Ohio 14048 posts
24th Jun '13
Quoting Kayla [:)]♥:" Women are b***hes, men are a*****es, most teenagers ARE ignorant. lol No, it doesn't offend me."


Pretty much, lol.



But if someone were to say "all blacks are uneducated, HIV-infested thieves..." those are some fighting words!

Back to Noob Status Ohio 14048 posts
24th Jun '13
Quoting Emotional Squeekerz:" I do have ONE subject that if someone generalizes with it... I get ultra defensive. It has to do with ... [snip!] ... Personality Disorder) are awful, selfish people that will manipulate you and eventually make you want to kill yourself""


I have Borderline Personality Disorder and that offends the hell out of me. I can see why you got defensive.

♥Simply Whitney♥ TTC since Dec 2012; 1 child; Australia 932 posts
24th Jun '13

One that gets said to me a lot is... "No offense Whitney, but Americans.... blah blah blah..." That really gets annoying after a while. I can't even remember all the things they say about Americans but it's a lot. Ha. And it's pretty much just my in laws who say it.

justanothamotha Due January 20; 130 kids; Climax, Michigan 5120 posts
25th Jun '13
Quoting Sly Saffy:" I get irritated but not offended. It is irritating to have a generalization thrust upon you."

This.



Like I see, read & hear people make ignorant ass statements putting women down who breastfeed toddlers...making accusations like it's child sexual abuse, that the kids are being kept dependent, that moms who do that do it for their own issues, etc. I cant' say I am offended at this point (I think I used to be) but it is irritating as hell & I get sick of trying to actually educate people on normal human behavior.

Proginoskes II 3 kids; North Carolina 1295 posts
25th Jun '13
Quoting Sly Saffy:" I get irritated but not offended. It is irritating to have a generalization thrust upon you."


This, irritated is a better word for it, personally. I just roll my eyes and move on.
Like when I see those silly FB things about how I'm going to burn in hell forever because I don't have the same beliefs as someone else. I know that if I shared/posted things about being as atheist on FB, I'd have a ton of well-meaning but overly persistent friends/relatives all over me, telling me that the devil has me or something. -shrug-

Severus Snape Due March 15; 1 child; Tennessee 3511 posts
25th Jun '13

Generalizations don't usually bother me too much but I have a hot buttons just like everyone else. My hot button is TTC related stuff. There was a girl in a past thread who said something to the extent of if you're taking a while to get pregnant then the husband must not be doing something right. That pissed me off.



Maybe the girl you talked to was sensitive about being a teenager? lol

The Time Police 2 kids; Cold Lake, AB, Canada 33400 posts
25th Jun '13
Quoting Back to Noob Status:" Pretty much, lol. But if someone were to say "all blacks are uneducated, HIV-infested thieves..." those are some fighting words!"


:lol:

HamHam Squeekerz 2 kids; Columbus, OH, United States 13724 posts
25th Jun '13
Quoting Severus Snape:" Generalizations don't usually bother me too much but I have a hot buttons just like everyone else. My ... [snip!] ... must not be doing something right. That pissed me off. Maybe the girl you talked to was sensitive about being a teenager? lol"


I think she was. Even after explaining to her that I don't mean 'stupid' when I say 'ignorant,' she was still very defensive.