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CIO or not? Trisha Beck 1 child; Pennsylvania 303 posts
24th Jun '13

I really don't like the CIO method, but do you consider it CIO if you put your baby to sleep but they cry on and off about a min at a time, fuss a lil and at times just sit there, for a span of 40 minutes unroll they fall asleep ? In want site exactly how to ask so I hope this makes sense lol. See lately ever since our son learned how to stand up and crawl around in his crib , he refuses to sleep right away like he used to...so my husband wanted to try putting him in his crib like usual when tired and let him go until he falls asleep...which I in return told him I refuse to let him CIO. so he suggested if he crys straight for 10 minutes we'll get him. Well he didn't cry the while time just about a minute or two them he would look around in his crib, suck on his fingers, fuss a little, cry again for a minute, and like in said before it was a cycle like this for about 45 minutes...so I didn't think it was so bad. But what do you guys think?? Do you still consider that CIO or am I safe from that?

lolajessup Due July 25 (girl); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44057 posts
24th Jun '13

How old? I'm assuming he's over 6 mos. I think that's fine. It's more ferberizing. As long as you're not letting him feel neglecting or if he's in distress over it. He could be teething and just be fussy.

Snow 1 child; Storybrooke, ME, United States 34017 posts
24th Jun '13

How old is he?

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
24th Jun '13

The question is are you both comfortable with it. What does it matter what it's called or not?

Crazy Train 18 kids; Killeen, Texas 1478 posts
24th Jun '13

That's not CIO. With CIO you go into the room every 5,10,15 minutes while the baby is crying, offer comfort then leave.
It doesn't sound like your son was really crying though. More just fussy. You did fine though.

Clk 2 kids; Dexter, Michigan 11925 posts
24th Jun '13

To me it's still doing CIO. He is still crying then he stops waiting for someone tries to comfort himself somehow (sucking fingers), then starts crying again, and so on for 45minutes. That is just my opinion though, others may see it differently.

Kimmy Gibbler 2 kids; Grapevine, Texas 8039 posts
24th Jun '13

I think there is a difference between full-on crying, wanting to be with mommy and not alone in a bed, and fighting sleep and fussing a bit. I'm assuming since he's crawling that he's over 6 months old. I think it's fine.

TrixieGirl Due July 4; 1 child; Maryland 1175 posts
24th Jun '13
Quoting Asher and Haddie's Mommy:" I think there is a difference between full-on crying, wanting to be with mommy and not alone in a bed, ... [snip!] ... a bed, and fighting sleep and fussing a bit. I'm assuming since he's crawling that he's over 6 months old. I think it's fine. "


Yeah, it sounds like he is almost there to the point where he will be getting himself to sleep soon. I wouldnt call this CIO becuase there is no excessive crying which I personally quantify as crying for longer than 5 minutes.

SavageDarling 3 kids; Webster, Massachusetts 10381 posts
24th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Clk:</b>" To me it's still doing CIO. He is still crying then he stops waiting for someone tries to comfort himself ... [snip!] ... fingers), then starts crying again, and so on for 45minutes. That is just my opinion though, others may see it differently."</blockquote>




I agree. He is fussing and looking for ways comfort himself, and you're not responding to him. Whether he's actually crying or not he's still being lefttonfigure it out on his own and "self soothe". He doesn't have to be full on wailing and crying to he essentially "crying it out".

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14109 posts
24th Jun '13

Nah, I wouldn't consider that CIO. Especially if he's old enough to be crawling and pulling up.

SquirrelyMom 1 child; Burlington, Ontario 819 posts
status 24th Jun '13

I feel ya. If he's anything like my daughter, sleeping is a crime. I don't like CIO either but as it was mentioned, if its just fussing and fighting sleep, then its not horrible to let them try and settle on their own a brief while. I don't let her get "upset" and I go to her if she's really fighting it and let her fall asleep in her chair with me in the room but even doing that doesn't stop her from whining and fussing before closing her eyes. Sometimes at night I have to hold her while she cries her eyes out and stretches and wriggles in my arms, but after what seems like forever (more like 10 min) she calms down and falls asleep. Then I have to lay her down without waking her. Now that she's almost 6mos, it seems even more difficult for her to fall asleep. I hope things get better for you and your little guy :)

Trisha Beck 1 child; Pennsylvania 303 posts
24th Jun '13

He is 8 months...and yea that's my main concern part of me feels its fine since he's not crying more them a min or two(although it feels weird for me to even let him cry for that shirt time cause I'm used to running to him the moment he starts crying! I feel so bad hearing him cry out for us!) So I needed some reassurance to make sure this isn't CIO...and for those who believe it still is CIO I know what you mean too because I'm usually fully against letting my baby cry at all because I know all he wants is to be by our side and all I want is to always comfort him...just trying to get him to fall asleep as soon as we lay him down like he always has:)...I'll tell ya though last night he did great!:)