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Im confused with stressed DH fxmummy7788 Japan 23 posts
24th Jun '13

My Dh has been really stressed these past months with bill debt and family life.
I feel like i should give him space and split up not because i want to but because i hate seeing him like this. And he is alway making comments about people using him and taking the piss and for some reason i always feel like he's aiming it at me. Even tho he says hes not.



What do you guys think? honestly

user banned 21 kids; North Dakota 3800 posts
24th Jun '13

I think you need more communication and to talk about everything. I'm really surprised splitting up is a thought at this point.

Blythe. 1 child; Indiana 22298 posts
24th Jun '13

breaking up just might make things harder, I would stick by his side and give him lots of support. Do you notice other people using him?

Severus Snape 2 kids; Tennessee 3550 posts
24th Jun '13

I personally think a better idea would be get him seen for depression, and maybe get some medicine? Also marriage counseling wouldn't hurt anything either. But splitting up just because things are stressful just sounds like a cop out. No matter what you do, good luck OP

tonys_mama(army wife) 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Fort Irwin, California 15536 posts
24th Jun '13

You need to talk about it. Splitting up is not going to fix anything the problems will still be there when you get back together. You stay together and work through your problems you did say for better or for worse.

The Doctor 2 kids; Whiskey Dick Mountain, WA, United States 59698 posts
24th Jun '13
Quoting *Mayhem*:" I think you need more communication and to talk about everything. I'm really surprised splitting up is a thought at this point."


:!:



And ask if there is something you can do to relieve some stress. Get a part time job (if the bills are for both of you)?



And what about family life is stressing him out? Maybe give him a day of being out and about and having some alone time could help.

Mommy2Twins...And countin Due August 30 (boy); 18 kids; Missouri 27 posts
24th Jun '13

splitting up is never the answer if you love him and want your relationship to work....talk to him about ways that you can help him out and if he truly has a problem with something you are doing he needs to talk to you and not be passive aggressive....but leaving is just the cowards way out imo.....covering up problems or running from them doesn't remove them they are still there when you come back to each other.....Good Luck!

lamr - 02-08-13-21 2 kids; Crazytown, ON, Canada 5989 posts
24th Jun '13

For better or worse, remember?

The Doctor 2 kids; Whiskey Dick Mountain, WA, United States 59698 posts
24th Jun '13
Quoting lamr - 02-08-13-21:" For better or worse, remember?"


Yeah... may seem like you're taking off when things get rough, OP.

fxmummy7788 Japan 23 posts
24th Jun '13

Not so much splitting up just giving him time alone also he talks a lot about going to live in another town while me and the kids stay where we are. ( hence why i think he needs space from us) because it makes no sense to me renting 2 places. im always asking him how can i help and he says i can't im always trying and talking to him.




just don't know how else to play this

Severus Snape 2 kids; Tennessee 3550 posts
24th Jun '13
Quoting fxmummy7788:" Not so much splitting up just giving him time alone also he talks a lot about going to live in another ... [snip!] ... asking him how can i help and he says i can't im always trying and talking to him. just don't know how else to play this "


I can't imagine any healthy relationship with the husband wants to LIVE in another town away from his wife and kids... I still say he's depressed and should talk to a doctor. And again... marriage counselling.

fxmummy7788 Japan 23 posts
24th Jun '13
Quoting Severus Snape:" I can't imagine any healthy relationship with the husband wants to LIVE in another town away from his ... [snip!] ... town away from his wife and kids... I still say he's depressed and should talk to a doctor. And again... marriage counselling."


im for ever telling him that. I will bring it up to him again!

Severus Snape 2 kids; Tennessee 3550 posts
24th Jun '13

Ok good luck OP! Hope your husband gets the support he needs and it all works out ok!

fxmummy7788 Japan 23 posts
24th Jun '13

Thank you :D