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Looking for guidance ( weight loss). Turd Ferguson Bangkok, Thailand 4583 posts
24th Jun '13

I really need some help.



Last year, I took off right around 40lbs. It was the first time since having my kids that I was back to pre-pregnancy size. Maybe even smaller than that! So much of my frame of mind changed from losing that weight. I felt like a completely new person. My reflux symptoms were almost gone too!



After I lost all the weight I got a great promotion at work. Slowly my work started consuming my free time. That stress-free job I had before allowed for me to come home and knock out a good strong workout, pay more attention to my food intake. and I was getting physical exercise on the job.



My new job is an office job. I eat like shit. I starve myself on accident because I get so wrapped up in my work. Then I eat terrible things when I finally feel like I am going to pass out.



When I get home I am so tired that I mostly make the easiest thing I can. OR worse yet we go out too eat WAY TOO MUCH. It almost disgusts me when I think about . And my heartburn is terrible AGAIN.



I have gained 20lbs since taking this job in November. I am so sad. I need some guidance. I know everyone has their own problems, but I would totally appreciate someone who has mastered this guiding me back to success.



I am to the point where I feel like such a failure that I am on the verge of completely giving up. I am binge eating ( something I didn't do before).



I am not good at cooking.
I feel like I have zero time to do anything proper.
I couldn't even imagine being able to work out again right now, I am so stressed out.
I really just need some support. :(

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
24th Jun '13

Its hard finding a balance. Im a SAHM but I have so many issues getting into a routine. The kids are cranky or we have a playdate or im just simple to lazy to be bothered. Some things I have found that help. Make a meal plan. Crock pot meals are great. Prep food on the weekends. Freeze meals as well. Im not a morning person at all but find my whole day is just better if I can get a workout done in the morning. Is that an option? What about making yourself take a lunch break and doing something on that?

Turd Ferguson Bangkok, Thailand 4583 posts
24th Jun '13
Quoting Jennybananna:" Its hard finding a balance. Im a SAHM but I have so many issues getting into a routine. The kids are ... [snip!] ... a workout done in the morning. Is that an option? What about making yourself take a lunch break and doing something on that?"


I can't take a lunch. If I do I have to work an extra half hour, and I already work 8 hours + 2 hour commute round trip , it cuts too close to getting the kids from daycare.



It's really messed up, but to put a long story short, I hardly ever take a break. I am doing the work of 3 people. I want to stand up for myself ...just right now isn't the time. I am closing on my house Thursday .



Also....I believe I am also overindulging because I suddenly love food. It makes me happy. What went from such an outstanding opportunity at work, become very disappointing quickly. I never used to be one to medicate with food. Now I am doing it all the time. Shitty day at work, well then you deserve icecream. Too tired to cook? Go get restaurant food. It has to stop, I am so ashamed of myself.

I ♥ My EMT 16 kids; Hobart, Indiana 4197 posts
24th Jun '13
Quoting Turd Ferguson:" I really need some help. Last year, I took off right around 40lbs. It was the first time since having ... [snip!] ... I couldn't even imagine being able to work out again right now, I am so stressed out. I really just need some support. :("


I'm in the same boat. Since I started working at the bank (which is slow as hell regarding traffic) I've gained about 50 lbs. I feel like I wrote this. :(

Turd Ferguson Bangkok, Thailand 4583 posts
24th Jun '13

This is a whole different story, so I will make it short and sweet, but my son also has behavioral issues.



He has gotten worse over the years. As he gets older his behavior morphs into new and worsening things.



He is extremely abusive, and I constantly have to battle him to do anything from putting his shoes on, to brushing his teeth.



On average he typically cries and whines from the time he wakes up until the time he goes to bed. He is exhausting, and therapy has not helped us thus far.



As he gets progressively worse, I catch myself eating/treating to cope. And it's almost impossible to cook or clean with him around. If you don't have your eyes on him 100% of the time he will destroy things in rebuttal or cry the entire time.



So even when I do come home with energy to cook a nice meal, I am usually crying by the time I get in the door, and end up making something stupid so I don't have to fight with him about eating.

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
24th Jun '13
Quoting Turd Ferguson:" This is a whole different story, so I will make it short and sweet, but my son also has behavioral issues. ... [snip!] ... crying by the time I get in the door, and end up making something stupid so I don't have to fight with him about eating."

*hugs* I cant imagine having to deal with all that and its so easy to find comfort in food. Ive been doing it for my whole life. As much as it sucks sometimes you just have to force yourself into something better. Try things until you find something that works for you. Can you meet with a nurtionist to discuss meal plans or things that are easy to make but still healthy. Start slow make healthier choices when eating out. Burger but no bun, grilled chicken instead of fried or breaded. Veggies instead of fries or potato. Cut back on soda if you drink it.

BigG{30+} 2 kids; Gainesville, Virginia 12012 posts
24th Jun '13

Oh honey, that is so hard. I know handling Alton is a full time job, but yo do have to make time for you. However you can, get a workout in, even if it's running around your house. Make time to make a meal plan for the week and stick to it. I'm here for you, even if I can't offer good advice. I need more help on losing weight myself.

Turd Ferguson Bangkok, Thailand 4583 posts
24th Jun '13

I don't know if I am just being way ridiculous but I am legitimately crying real tears right now.



40 stupid pounds and my outlook on life was different. EVERYBODY had something to say about my weight loss. It made me feel good. I looked good.



Now, I know people can tell I am putting it back on. It makes jump out of my skin. It makes me defensive, like I want to tell them this is just a hiccup. I don't want them to remember me like this.



:(

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
24th Jun '13
Quoting Turd Ferguson:" I don't know if I am just being way ridiculous but I am legitimately crying real tears right now. 40 ... [snip!] ... skin. It makes me defensive, like I want to tell them this is just a hiccup. I don't want them to remember me like this. :("

Its hard I was 216ish when I got pregnant with my first at my heaviest I was 299 and im 281 now. I am pre-op for gastric bypass and it makes me feel like shit that I couldnt just do it on my own. I hate how I look and I hate what it has done to my mood. Ive never been so depressed in my life. Its embarrassing to look at photos of myself and im disgusted by myself and how out of control its become. Its hard but you can do it.

I ♥ My EMT 16 kids; Hobart, Indiana 4197 posts
24th Jun '13
Quoting Turd Ferguson:" I don't know if I am just being way ridiculous but I am legitimately crying real tears right now. 40 ... [snip!] ... skin. It makes me defensive, like I want to tell them this is just a hiccup. I don't want them to remember me like this. :("


Why don't we make a point to go workout together? Even if it's just once a week. I have a membership I haven't used in over a year (but I'm still paying for) to Charter Fitness. It's more than I'm working out now.

Turd Ferguson Bangkok, Thailand 4583 posts
24th Jun '13
Quoting Sammi C.:" Why don't we make a point to go workout together? Even if it's just once a week. I have a membership ... [snip!] ... a membership I haven't used in over a year (but I'm still paying for) to Charter Fitness. It's more than I'm working out now."


I would love to work out! Right now it's impossible. Until we move into the house, I am still pretty much support-less at home. I am hoping when we move in together I will have more time to devote to me again.



I still have hope that this job will get better. If it doesn't I am going to have to find something else to do at work. It's consuming me at work, and still at home too. I am so wiped out. :(

I ♥ My EMT 16 kids; Hobart, Indiana 4197 posts
24th Jun '13
Quoting Turd Ferguson:" I would love to work out! Right now it's impossible. Until we move into the house, I am still pretty ... [snip!] ... am going to have to find something else to do at work. It's consuming me at work, and still at home too. I am so wiped out. :("


You sound like you desperately need some YOU time. How would Alton handle a trip to Deep River?

I ♥ My EMT 16 kids; Hobart, Indiana 4197 posts
24th Jun '13

Also, if you're up for it I have a totally awesome idea. (To be fair, I only think it's awesome because I came up with it. :D )

akmaldo 1 child; Georgia 2778 posts
24th Jun '13

:cry: I am so sorry you are feeling like this mama! If you need ANYTHING fitness or healthy eating please message me. I am a fitness coach and would love to help!!

*Mrs. Starks* 3 kids; Marysville, MI, United States 2368 posts
24th Jun '13

I am 4'11 and weighed 175 pounds. I asked my doctor if there was anything safe I could take to help me lose weight. She prescribed me Adipex, and after 2 weeks I had already lost 7 pounds without working out. It's worth a shot!