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Boys with long hair... justanothamotha Due January 20; 130 kids; Climax, Michigan 5120 posts
25th Jun '13

I have a boy with long hair, so people sometimes throw little "gems" my way like this article... http://www.nytimes.com/2010/12/23/fashion/23FAUNTLEROYS.html?_r=0
it's pretty old (2010)
But I'll give you some quotes if you don't want to read it all...



Emilia's mumum +1! 2 kids; Beaverton, Oregon 11023 posts
25th Jun '13

Honestly, I will leave it up to my kids. DD asked for short hair and I fought against it for a long time, when I finally gave in I saw that it totally suites her and she loves it. From now on I will let her decide. I will do the same for my son after he can express himself.




ETA: As long as a kid looks like their hair was brushed sometime in ghe past weekish I don't care how long their hair is.

Nikita Rowsell 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Edmonton, Alberta 1239 posts
25th Jun '13

I choose "gender normal" hair cuts for my kids until they request otherwise. My 3.5 year old son now wants long hair, so I will let him grow it. Mind you he took a pair of scissors to his hair like 2 months ago, lol.



My daughter has never had a hair cut (she's 2) her hair is now past her shoulders, but she lets me put it up in clips and ponytails so that it's not in her face. If and when she chooses, I will take her to have it cut. Although it may break my heart.

White Chocolate Milk 1 child; Chelsea, Alabama 12303 posts
25th Jun '13

I think if they personally express or can express what they want, then let them have at it. DS was a baldy and I've joking said I'm never cutting his hair because it took so long to come in lol. Ultimately, I will let him choose. Kids will develop their own tastes and preferences, and I see no problem with that.

rpgmomma8404 1 child; St Ann, Missouri 7591 posts
25th Jun '13

My son had the most beautiful long curly hair when he was a toddler. I did not want to get it cut but his father, grandmother, and great grandmother (both on his father's side) made a huge freaking deal out of it. Had his hair cut and his hair has never been the same since. :(

justanothamotha Due January 20; 130 kids; Climax, Michigan 5120 posts
25th Jun '13
Quoting Nikita Rowsell:" I choose "gender normal" hair cuts for my kids until they request otherwise. My 3.5 year old son now ... [snip!] ... so that it's not in her face. If and when she chooses, I will take her to have it cut. Although it may break my heart."

I have too. His was cut until he asked me not to & my now 3 yr old gets his cut.

Rochelle Hussey Due September 10; 1 child; St John's, 1147 posts
25th Jun '13

The worst part of these articles is that they deal with the extremes. Psychotic parents who have pinned down a kid and hacked away at their hair, and the ones who have decided that the kid needs to "fit in" with the families. All you ladies are right, don't make a big deal out of it and let them decide when they are old enough to tell you what they want. Boys have long hair, girls have short hair, on this crazy mixed up spinning rock it should not matter.

justanothamotha Due January 20; 130 kids; Climax, Michigan 5120 posts
25th Jun '13
Quoting Rochelle Hussey:" The worst part of these articles is that they deal with the extremes. Psychotic parents who have pinned ... [snip!] ... tell you what they want. Boys have long hair, girls have short hair, on this crazy mixed up spinning rock it should not matter."

The ONE part the article got right is the gender mix up for boys with long hair. No matter how I dress my son the vast majority of people assume he is a girl who is a tomboy. It doesn't even matter when he has worn his Big Brother T-shirt. Last year he ignored it completely & acted like it never happened, this year he is started to get really annoyed with people. recently I took them out for lunch at McDonalds. As we were setting there two older (white haired) ladies started talking to my very flirty 3 yr old. They then referred to my older one as his big sister. So I politely told them it is his big brother. They not only couldn't wrap their brain around it, the one REPEATEDLY said "Oh, I have never seen such long hair on a boy, I was sure SHE was a girl. SHE looks so much like a girl, I would have never guessed. on & on & on". I was trying very hard to understand they are old & dense & finally I said, Ma'am, I understand you are a little thrown off by my son's choice of hair style, but "she" is what you say for a girl & "he" is what you use for boys. He is being very patient, but you are being rude when you refer to him as "she". I could totally see his frustration was building. They then, thankfully, quit talking to us. I am not kidding though, she went on for several minutes. I was about to tell her to stick it. LOL

Rochelle Hussey Due September 10; 1 child; St John's, 1147 posts
25th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting justanothamotha:</b>" The ONE part the article got right is the gender mix up for boys with long hair. No matter how I dress ... [snip!] ... quit talking to us. I am not kidding though, she went on for several minutes. I was about to tell her to stick it. LOL"</blockquote>



Yes tat part is correct, people can be snide and judgmental. There is a little girl in my sons class who has short hair, and the same is true. Other parents are always tittering to each other "oh look at that little boy in pink" or "that little boy has his ears pearced" poor kids.

* Kat * 2 kids; Okinawa, Japan 373 posts
25th Jun '13

My 8 year old has had long hair on and off his whole life. He grew it out the longest between kinder and 1st grade. It was past his little shoulders. We moved to another base and the kids here weren't used to it and picked on him something fierce. He would come home so upset because they would call him 'gay', 'girlie', etc. He finally asked me if we could go get it cut. He went from this:
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He was miserable. He said he didn't feel like himself. The first part of 2nd grade he finally told me that he didn't care how much he was picked on. HE wanted his hair back. So we started letting it grow. He is just a happier boy with long hair. He LOVES it. He said that he would never let anyone else decide how he was going to be. We've made it to this:
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And I think hes happy with that length. The change in him as his hair got longer was noticeable. That's what HE is comfortable with, in himself, and thats how we will keep it, until he decides otherwise.

justanothamotha Due January 20; 130 kids; Climax, Michigan 5120 posts
25th Jun '13
Quoting * Kat *:" My 8 year old has had long hair on and off his whole life. He grew it out the longest between kinder ... [snip!] ... was noticeable. That's what HE is comfortable with, in himself, and thats how we will keep it, until he decides otherwise."

So far we've never had trouble with kids. They often initially mistake him as a girl too, but they seem to grasp he is just a boy with long hair & be fine with it. Boys older than him (say 10 yrs & up) generally remark how cool it is & that makes him feel good too, so the few times a kid has said anything to him, he tells them it's cool to have long hair. It does help that he has some older boy cousins that he looks up to, that love it.

[[Breezy]] 1 child; Savannah, Georgia 12734 posts
25th Jun '13
Quoting * Kat *:" My 8 year old has had long hair on and off his whole life. He grew it out the longest between kinder ... [snip!] ... was noticeable. That's what HE is comfortable with, in himself, and thats how we will keep it, until he decides otherwise."


That is SO sad. :( Poor kid. How can kids that young be so mean..ugh.

[[Breezy]] 1 child; Savannah, Georgia 12734 posts
25th Jun '13

My son is only 20 months and has a lot of hair but I cut it once every 2 months or so because it's too hot! And I know having hair all around my face annoys me so I like to think shorter hair makes him more comfortable..I'd never NOT cut his hair to uphold an "image," just as I don't style it to uphold an image either. I figure they're just kids...and I don't really care too much about aesthetics anyways. It's just hair.

Vitameatavegamin 19 kids; League City, Texas 5828 posts
25th Jun '13

I think that's just silly.

I would prefer to let DS's hair grow out long, actually, just because I think it's cute because his hair is so wavy and thick, it would look good. But being in Houston, I can't bring myself to make him have all that hot hair on his head in this heat ad humidity when I know he'd be much more comfortable with short hair. If we lived up North, I think he's have hair to his shoulders.
But of course, when he is old enough to have a preference, I will let him decide what he wants to do with his hair(within reason... lol. No mullets, ew! sorry son! :lol:)

Momlette~29weeks Due December 25; 2 kids; Ohio 25470 posts
25th Jun '13

My son had long hair. It wasn't for any silly reason and we wouldn't have kept it long if he didn't want it long. He has thick hair and a double crown so it just got really out of hand so we cut it :( He also gets very very hot. We got tired of people telling us how beautiful our daughter was lol