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Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
25th Jun '13

Have you expressed how you feel to him? Have you guys tried marriage counseling or are you just about done & ready for separation?

I♥RYLEIGH 49 kids; Windsor, Ontario 10431 posts
25th Jun '13
Quoting Now and Forever:" Have you expressed how you feel to him? Have you guys tried marriage counseling or are you just about done & ready for separation? "


Oh he knows, and he tells me I'm 'running from my problems' and 'ruining our family'.



no. i'm not ruining anything. him being the jackass he is is what's ruining everything.



We aren't married and he doesn't have ANY communication skills.

S ♥ J ♥ L 1 child; 3 angel babies; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 3672 posts
25th Jun '13
Quoting I♥RYLEIGH:" Oh he knows, and he tells me I'm 'running from my problems' and 'ruining our family'. no. i'm not ... [snip!] ... him being the jackass he is is what's ruining everything. We aren't married and he doesn't have ANY communication skills."


maybe you finally leaving will make him grow up? or give him a scare that how he talks to you is NOT okay.

I♥RYLEIGH 49 kids; Windsor, Ontario 10431 posts
25th Jun '13
Quoting S ♥ J ♥ L:" maybe you finally leaving will make him grow up? or give him a scare that how he talks to you is NOT okay. "


Yeah it could scare him. I know it will actually, I left two years ago and he begged for a week for me to come back.



I can't bounce DD back and forth. I need to make a final decision and stick with it.

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
25th Jun '13
Quoting I♥RYLEIGH:" Oh he knows, and he tells me I'm 'running from my problems' and 'ruining our family'. no. i'm not ... [snip!] ... him being the jackass he is is what's ruining everything. We aren't married and he doesn't have ANY communication skills."


If he's telling you you're running from your family, then he probably wants to work things out & doesn't want to break up. I'd try counseling. DH didn't have any communication skills and after six months of counseling we have been better than ever.



If you do decide to go to counseling & see he puts no effort into your relationship then, yes. It's definitely time to go.

S ♥ J ♥ L 1 child; 3 angel babies; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 3672 posts
25th Jun '13
Quoting I♥RYLEIGH:" Yeah it could scare him. I know it will actually, I left two years ago and he begged for a week for ... [snip!] ... he begged for a week for me to come back. I can't bounce DD back and forth. I need to make a final decision and stick with it."


very true, and smart. I did it twice when me and SO first started having problems and it worked. I would leave for a few days to just get away and figure out what I wanted, and he'd show up at my moms begging for us to come home.



We even slept in separate rooms and separate beds for a week or so. you have more will than me, I don't think I would ever actually leave. I don't want to feel like I am giving up and not give Logan two parents together and happy. I know if me and SO ever split it would be WWIII.

I♥RYLEIGH 49 kids; Windsor, Ontario 10431 posts
25th Jun '13
Quoting Now and Forever:" If he's telling you you're running from your family, then he probably wants to work things out & ... [snip!] ... If you do decide to go to counseling & see he puts no effort into your relationship then, yes. It's definitely time to go. "


He just knows how to play mind games.



Would you stay with someone who you've caught (while pregnant) on a dating site?
Would you stay with someone who invited some of your best friends over while you were at work?



Noooo.

S ♥ J ♥ L 1 child; 3 angel babies; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 3672 posts
25th Jun '13
Quoting I♥RYLEIGH:" He just knows how to play mind games. Would you stay with someone who you've caught (while pregnant) ... [snip!] ... on a dating site? Would you stay with someone who invited some of your best friends over while you were at work? Noooo."


f**k that shit. I would have been long gone a while ago. you don't deserve that crap!



me and SO always promised each other the only reason we would leave each other is if one of the other cheated or relapsed. and neither of us have so I think that's why I stay.. everyone keeps telling me it will get better and it's just a rough patch, so I try to stick out. but the more and more arguments we have - the more resentment I have. And then his whole 'I don't want to get married shit' kinda set me over the edge with what our future will hold.



btw: I hope you're not friends with those girls anymore he invited over!!!!! :shock:

orchidlovingmama 2 kids; Santa Rosa, California 1733 posts
25th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting I♥RYLEIGH:</b>" That really did just bring a tear to my eye. Thank you for that little shove you just gave me. I'm ... [snip!] ... to be alone, I don't want to see him with another girl. but I know there aren't many people that will put up with his shit...."</blockquote>




Yeah I understand that feeling if not wanting them to be with someone else. I would just try to think of how he will be treating her like shit and eventually you will get the additude that its better her than me. It sounds bad but for me it helped relieve the jealous feelings. How can you feel envy for someone who is being cheated on and abused? You cant : )

I♥RYLEIGH 49 kids; Windsor, Ontario 10431 posts
25th Jun '13
Quoting S ♥ J ♥ L:" f**k that shit. I would have been long gone a while ago. you don't deserve that crap! me and SO always ... [snip!] ... the edge with what our future will hold. btw: I hope you're not friends with those girls anymore he invited over!!!!! :shock:"


They never actually came over that I know of, they contacted me as soon as he asked.. Well, the ones I found out about. I'm sure there is so much that I don't know about. I tell my friends to not even tell me when they hear about this shit cause I'd just rather not know. it really just makes me sick to my stomach... I hate crying.

I♥RYLEIGH 49 kids; Windsor, Ontario 10431 posts
25th Jun '13
Quoting orchidlovingmama:" <blockquote><b>Quoting I♥RYLEIGH:</b>" That really did just bring a tear to ... [snip!] ... me it helped relieve the jealous feelings. How can you feel envy for someone who is being cheated on and abused? You cant : )"


Good way to look at it! I could never handle break ups very well. now with DD involved, I don't know if it'll make it 1000x easier or harder....

Sara❥ 1 child; Sumter, South Carolina 8621 posts
25th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting I♥RYLEIGH:</b>" It's been going strong for almost 2 years now. Nice, strong hard f**k yous."</blockquote>



That really sucks! You deserve better mama.

S ♥ J ♥ L 1 child; 3 angel babies; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 3672 posts
25th Jun '13
Quoting I♥RYLEIGH:" They never actually came over that I know of, they contacted me as soon as he asked.. Well, the ones ... [snip!] ... me when they hear about this shit cause I'd just rather not know. it really just makes me sick to my stomach... I hate crying."


holy crap. I'm so sorry things are like this for you, he's such a dick and I never would have known. Whatever you decide, I'm sure it will be the best thing for you and Ry. I'm always here to talk!