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Rhia Leigh 33 kids; Massachusetts 1312 posts
25th Jun '13

I definitely want to do couples counseling. I told him he needs help dealing with his anger and he disagrees. But I think he agrees to going to counseling together so at least that's a start. He's not on drugs, he just has a lot of anger that he clearly needs to find a way to deal with. Thankfully the glass didn't break out of the windshield its just all cracked on the passenger side, but it doesn't really matter because it could have broken. He says he'll pay to have it fixed anyway as if that solves the problem. I tried explaining that while that's part of it, the much bigger problem is that it happened in the first place. I know I need to put my foot down about this. I grew up watching my stepfather flip out and break my moms shit and I've seen how awful their recent separation has been. My daughter will not grow up that way. I know I played a role in our argument but no one should ever feel justified in doing something like that..

user banned 3 kids; Los Angeles, California 54034 posts
25th Jun '13
Quoting Rhia Leigh:" I definitely want to do couples counseling. I told him he needs help dealing with his anger and he disagrees. ... [snip!] ... grow up that way. I know I played a role in our argument but no one should ever feel justified in doing something like that.."


It's troubling that he doesn't see the problem with his anger. Maybe he DOES but he's just ashamed something. anyway, agreeing to counseling with you is a good first step.

user banned California 8675 posts
25th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rhia Leigh:</b>" I definitely want to do couples counseling. I told him he needs help dealing with his anger and he disagrees. ... [snip!] ... grow up that way. I know I played a role in our argument but no one should ever feel justified in doing something like that.."</blockquote>




What do you do to get him angry? Dont blame yourself for the most part. And you "think"that he will be willing to go together to counseling as if you arent sure if he will. If he cant accept that he has anger problems then I dont see how counseling is going to work. Counseling doesnt make miracles. He needs to admit to himself that he has issues that is affecting your relationship and be more than willing to go not because he is been forced to go. Have you told him that this is not going to continue this way and the he needs to go get help like right away?

Jeronimo 2 kids; California 1436 posts
25th Jun '13

Ya should've shut up.