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Getting Snipped Born To Be Worn Due February 4; 4 kids; 2 angel babies; Norfolk, Virginia 5541 posts
25th Jun '13

We're done having kids. Like no chance EVER having more. There's 4 kids including my (step) daughter's sister. So we're done. That being said



when it comes to permanent birth control methods, who should be the responsibility party for a surgery?




For me, I carried and birthed the children, he can do an in patient surgery to prevent more. If I delivered by c-section, I may have a different opinion and say I would get my tubes tied during the last birth of our youngest. But I delivered vaginally and don't feel like I should have to go through an invasive surgery if I can avoid it.

[JadeLee] 1 child; Minnesota 12190 posts
25th Jun '13

The procedure for a man is done in office. It is a lot cheaper! No general anesthesia (which if you have C-Sections it wouldnt matter) That is my opinion though.



SO doesn't agree, which sucks.

Severus Snape 2 kids; Tennessee 3550 posts
25th Jun '13
Quoting [JadeLee]:" The procedure for a man is done in office. It is a lot cheaper! No general anesthesia (which if you have C-Sections it wouldnt matter) That is my opinion though. SO doesn't agree, which sucks."


This
And a lot less pain and lower risk for complications so I've heard.

Naturally Alternative 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Lafayette, Louisiana 6146 posts
25th Jun '13
Quoting [JadeLee]:" The procedure for a man is done in office. It is a lot cheaper! No general anesthesia (which if you have C-Sections it wouldnt matter) That is my opinion though. SO doesn't agree, which sucks."


Yup this. We already talked about it... haven't agreed on WHEN it's happening though.

tinana+2 TTC since Nov 2013; 2 kids; Staten Island, NY, United States 29599 posts
25th Jun '13

I will say that I will NEVER have a tubal unless for whatever reason it's medically necessary. If my husband WANTS to have a vasectomy, it's his call. Otherwise, we'll figure out another way.



The complications and side effects of having a tubal are in my opinion not something I want to deal with. While many people have them everyday without incident, I would be the person to have the problems. Me no likey.

loser mom 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Oslo, ,, Norway 10850 posts
status 25th Jun '13

I don't really think it should be a, "I did this, so you have to do that!" type of decision. :? A vasectomy is less invasive, but maybe your husband doesn't want his p***s snipped either.

♥MOBAS♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 7198 posts
status 25th Jun '13

My SO had a vasectomy once we were sure we were done. I carried the babies and had to birth them so it only made sense (to us) that he have the permanent procedure done. His doctor also said that recovery is generally easier than a tubal ligation. SO was back to work 3 days later, he did have to be careful about lifting though.

Born To Be Worn Due February 4; 4 kids; 2 angel babies; Norfolk, Virginia 5541 posts
25th Jun '13

DH is afraid to get snipped cause he says he knows a couple guys on the boat that has had it done and their personalities have changed a lot to depressed and just mopey. And he doesn't want that to happen to him. He suggested this new procedure that is like rubber bands around the tubes and easily reversible IF we ever want more. Which I don't get why he's trying to pitch that since I'm the one if given the chance for one last squish to babywear in a woven wrap, I'd jump for it. He's the one that's dug his heels in the ground about no more. (Which I do know a 5th child probably wouldn't be the best choice for us as a whole family anyways)

tinana+2 TTC since Nov 2013; 2 kids; Staten Island, NY, United States 29599 posts
25th Jun '13
Quoting loser mom {kkk}:" I don't really think it should be a, "I did this, so you have to do that!" type of decision. :? A vasectomy is less invasive, but maybe your husband doesn't want his p***s snipped either."


Agree w/ your theory, but the p***s doesn't get snipped :lol:

loser mom 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Oslo, ,, Norway 10850 posts
status 25th Jun '13
Quoting tinana+2:" Agree with your theory, but the p***s doesn't get snipped :lol:"


well no, I meant the little vas twins. :)

tinana+2 TTC since Nov 2013; 2 kids; Staten Island, NY, United States 29599 posts
25th Jun '13
Quoting loser mom {kkk}:" well no, I meant the little vas twins. :)"


Okay, good... lol :)

ρiηkie ρie 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Kentucky 21902 posts
25th Jun '13

When we're done SO will be getting snipped. I feel like it's a much easier procedure for him than it is for me. Plus even when I'm done, I don't want to feel like I never have the option to change my mind even if that day never comes. It's hard to explain I guess. But we've discussed it and SO agreed to getting snipped because if he had his way we would have stopped having kids after DD but he's always left how many kids we have up to me since I have to carry them and he doesn't.

loser mom 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Oslo, ,, Norway 10850 posts
status 25th Jun '13
Quoting tinana+2:" Okay, good... lol :)"


:D

ρiηkie ρie 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Kentucky 21902 posts
25th Jun '13
Quoting LHD STOLE MY DH!!:" DH is afraid to get snipped cause he says he knows a couple guys on the boat that has had it done and ... [snip!] ... the ground about no more. (Which I do know a 5th child probably wouldn't be the best choice for us as a whole family anyways)"

Tell me more about this rubber band procedure. I was reading about a new clamp procedure they have but it's so new they don't know about reversibility. If SO could have something done that's permanent but successfully reversible I'd be all for it in case the day comes that I DO change my mind.

Born To Be Worn Due February 4; 4 kids; 2 angel babies; Norfolk, Virginia 5541 posts
25th Jun '13
Quoting ρiηkie ρie:" Tell me more about this rubber band procedure. I was reading about a new clamp procedure they have but ... [snip!] ... something done that's permanent but successfully reversible I'd be all for it in case the day comes that I DO change my mind. "


I don't know. He talks to the docs on the ship and he's so brief about it. It might be clamps. He said rubber bands. My worry is the rubber bands snapping, coming undone etc.