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Pusherman user banned
Jun 26th '13

Push it harder back on me

Kelly&Coralie 1 child; Rochester, NY, United States 56012 posts
Jun 26th '13

Nope. Dowries aren't done here



I think the idea is a bit archaic.

user banned 1 child; Portland, Maine 20613 posts
Jun 26th '13

Dowries aren't really practiced here. I think that the closest that we have to it is the person who proposes marriage gives the proposee a ring.

user banned 21 kids; North Dakota 3800 posts
Jun 26th '13

My cousin paid one for his bride, who was from India (and they got married in India, as well as the U.S.) but no, I can't think of any major religious groups who do it "over here" unless it's been brought from the East.

Crystal 3 kids; Hephzibah, Georgia 15566 posts
Jun 26th '13

We don't do it here.




The only type of Dowry I've ever heard of was from the Bride's Father to the Groom or Groom's Family.

Mama Rice 34 kids; North Las Vegas, Nevada 11980 posts
Jun 26th '13

Nope. Too reminescent of "wives are property" to me.

user banned 21 kids; North Dakota 3800 posts
Jun 26th '13

In the west we save our dowry for the divorce...that's when we get the property, money, and gold. :P

Mama Rice 34 kids; North Las Vegas, Nevada 11980 posts
Jun 26th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting *Mayhem*:</b>" In the west we save our dowry for the divorce...that's when we get the property, money, and gold. :P"</blockquote>



LOL

Faye's Mama 1 child; Springfield, MO, United States 4569 posts
Jun 26th '13

Nope. They aren't practiced here.

Crystal 3 kids; Hephzibah, Georgia 15566 posts
Jun 26th '13
Quoting Mama Rice:" Nope. Too reminescent of "wives are property" to me."

Not really. Typically the property is given to help establish the new Family. But, if something happens and the Marriage ends, the goods/properties return to the Bride/Family.

Mum to a Monster TTC since Jan 2014; 1 child; 5 angel babies; Colorado 11565 posts
Jun 26th '13

My ex is being given a 3/4 million dollar house by his bride's father on their wedding day......does that count? Plus her family is paying for the whole shebang as it is.....

user banned 2 kids; Silly, Belgium 6539 posts
Jun 26th '13

I like the dowry idea. In my culture the groom gives his wife to be a monetary gift as stipulated in their marriage contract. This money is for HER alone and he can't ask her for any of it. In some cases, he buys a house and puts it in her name as sole owner. There is also a divorce payment similar to alimony that a husband has to give if he divorces his wife. Around $10k USD (which is a lot back home).



My dowry was a car, a significant amount of cash and several pieces of 22k gold. I used my cash already :D and the car was totaled.

user banned 21 kids; North Dakota 3800 posts
Jun 26th '13
Quoting Crystal
user banned 21 kids; North Dakota 3800 posts
Jun 26th '13
Quoting Pusherman:" I like the dowry idea. In my culture the groom gives his wife to be a monetary gift as stipulated in ... [snip!] ... was a car, a significant amount of cash and several pieces of 22k gold. I used my cash already :D and the car was totaled."


Is it always given to the wife? Because I was thinking the Indian doctors we had at the hospital also gave dowries and if I remember right it was given to the bride's family as a way of saying "sorry for taking a member of your family that could potentially contribute to the household...here's payment for her".

Crystal 3 kids; Hephzibah, Georgia 15566 posts
Jun 26th '13
Quoting *Mayhem*:" In my cousin's case the dowry was given to her father...I'm not sure how that established the new family but..."

See that's actually a different thing. Dowry is given by the Bride's Family. Bride price is what is paid to the Bride or her Family. These days People tend to view both as Dowry, but they were 2 separate things.