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Ugh stupid HungryHippo 2 kids; Missouri 11973 posts
26th Jun '13

Today I had an appointment with a high risk dr
My OB insisted I see this dr ( genetic issues)



So we drove 2 1/2 hours away ONEWAY
Then waited another 1 1/2 hours to see the dr



He walked in and said "the baby has a 50% chance of having NF,if you want to have genetic testing done and speak to a genetic counselor we can set it up for a later date"



I already knew this
My OB KNEW this and sent me that far to hear it from someone else




I'm so frustrated.

Malaia Due October 21; 3 kids; Duncan, Oklahoma 5684 posts
26th Jun '13

I would be to!
sorry you had to do that :(

loser mom 2 kids; 1 angel baby; GoShox!, KS, United States 9199 posts
26th Jun '13

That is frustrating. I'm sorry you wasted your time.

Subtle As A Hurricane 2 kids; Texas 4126 posts
26th Jun '13

I remember you posting about this yesterday. I think you should find a new doctor. It really does seem like he doesn't want to take care of you. I'm sorry you had to go through all that for nothing. :(

HungryHippo 2 kids; Missouri 11973 posts
26th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Subtle As A Hurricane:</b>" I remember you posting about this yesterday. I think you should find a new doctor. It really does seem ... [snip!] ... doctor. It really does seem like he doesn't want to take care of you. I'm sorry you had to go through all that for nothing. :("</blockquote>




Yeah if he doesn't seem enthused to see me tomorrow I'm switching hospitals
I can't believe I had to drive that far for nothing

Subtle As A Hurricane 2 kids; Texas 4126 posts
26th Jun '13
Quoting HungryHippo:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Subtle As A Hurricane:</b>" I remember you posting about this ... [snip!] ... if he doesn't seem enthused to see me tomorrow I'm switching hospitals I can't believe I had to drive that far for nothing"


I'd tell him what a wast of time and gas it was.

HungryHippo 2 kids; Missouri 11973 posts
26th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Subtle As A Hurricane:</b>" I'd tell him what a wast of time and gas it was. "</blockquote>




Oh I'm going to



I mean wouldn't it of been easier to ask if I wanted the tested and then make the damn appointment?

Summerfrost 51 kids; Massachusetts 5686 posts
26th Jun '13

I don't know much about your history with the high risk dr, but there isn't much the high risk dr can do until he knows whether or not your baby has the genetic issue. I don't know if your regular OB could refer you directly to a geneticist or not. Typically the MFM and geneticist work together. Plus if the baby does have whatever NF is, you'd want to be monitored by the MFM dr instead of your regular OB anyway.

Summerfrost 51 kids; Massachusetts 5686 posts
26th Jun '13

I went back and read about your other appointment. I think that your first ob from last pregnancy should have sent you for the testing and all of that stuff too. I'm actually pretty shocked that they didn't. Just because you got lucky last pregnancy, doesn't mean your future children will. I mean 50% is 50%. In fact, I would think that makes it more likely for this pregnancy to have the genetic issues.

HungryHippo 2 kids; Missouri 11973 posts
26th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Summerfrost:</b>" I don't know much about your history with the high risk dr, but there isn't much the high risk dr can ... [snip!] ... Plus if the baby does have whatever NF is, you'd want to be monitored by the MFM dr instead of your regular OB anyway. "</blockquote>



That's why I'm frustrated,because they CANT do anything,my dr knew this. And instead of asking me himself if I want genetic testing he sent me 2 1/2 hours away to have someone else ask me what he could have. It was a waste of a trip,i could have just been referred to a genetic counselor instead of this dr



NF doesn't effect the fetus or the pregnancy(rarely)
So even if the baby did test positive there's nothing they could/would do.

Summerfrost 51 kids; Massachusetts 5686 posts
26th Jun '13
Quoting HungryHippo:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Summerfrost:</b>" I don't know much about your history with ... [snip!] ... doesn't effect the fetus or the pregnancy(rarely) So even if the baby did test positive there's nothing they could/would do."


Ok so my boys are going for genetic testing. There's a 50% chance that they will inherit the mutation. (Colon cancer stuff) If they have the mutation there is a guarentee they'll have colon cancer. There's also a 20% increase risk of getting other types of cancer. Even though it's a smaller risk, next month they're all getting liver U/S because I haven't done the blood work yet for them. It will be done at that first appointment and whichever results are positive, they'll be going for liver U/S every 3 months until they're 5.



Anyway, even if there is a 'rare' chance of it affecting pregnancy, you need to be watched for that. They can do amnios to check the genetics and I know those aren't fun, but sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do.. you know? If it was me, I would stick with the high risk dr and his geneticst. My high risk is always the one who sends me off for the scary tests. My regular OB was pretty useless. He wouldn't even know what to look for, which i guess is why they have high risk dr's in the first place. :)

HungryHippo 2 kids; Missouri 11973 posts
26th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Summerfrost:</b>" I went back and read about your other appointment. I think that your first ob from last pregnancy should ... [snip!] ... will. I mean 50% is 50%. In fact, I would think that makes it more likely for this pregnancy to have the genetic issues. "</blockquote>




It seems that way but I know people with 4-6 kids and only 1 of them have it
I have it but my brother and sister do not



It's hit and miss.



I probably should have been sent with my last pregnancy,but I wasn't.




I know the risks *shrugs*



It was still a waste of a trip imo

Karen L.S. TTC since Aug 2013; 5 kids; Texas 283 posts
26th Jun '13

Sorry you had such a bad experience. You might want to find another OB. I had a high risk OB and she worked with my MFM doctor. She had been the one to refer me to him . They would call each other about testing and what they thought the next step should be. You really need an OB that is proactive and is on top of things. Good luck.

HungryHippo 2 kids; Missouri 11973 posts
26th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Summerfrost:</b>" Ok so my boys are going for genetic testing. There's a 50% chance that they will inherit the mutation. ... [snip!] ... pretty useless. He wouldn't even know what to look for, which i guess is why they have high risk dr's in the first place. :) "</blockquote>




The most NF would do during pregnancy is cause more rumors to form or give me migraines,both caused by the extra hormones.
Won't hurt the baby at all.



I won't get an amino done,if I had something life threatening then I would consider it but this isn't severe.
And I can't drive 2 1/2 hours 1-2 times a month to see a high risk dr. It's not an option

Summerfrost 51 kids; Massachusetts 5686 posts
26th Jun '13
Quoting HungryHippo:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Summerfrost:</b>" I went back and read about your other appointment. ... [snip!] ... should have been sent with my last pregnancy,but I wasn't. I know the risks *shrugs* It was still a waste of a trip imo"


That's your decision. I've actually had this conversation with my SIL a lot lately. :) My DH and his brother both have colon cancer right now, so we're going through the whole colon removal and all of that fun stuff. SIL is refusing to get the blood work done. She has 3 kids.



Think of it like this .. we all have a 50% to have a boy or girl. I had 4 boys in a row. Just because your brother and sister don't have it, doesn't mean that it will be 1 of 3 for you too. It might be 0 of 3 or 2 out of 3. I personally couldn't imagine not knowing and having something bad happen to my baby because I didn't want to know, but I realize that not everyone likes to do that sort of thing. I always liked facts better than possibilities. Possibilities would drive me insane.



Anyway, hoping for the best for your LO and pregnancy. It does sound like if you don't want to get the information your ob and high risk dr are pushing for, you should probably find someone else.