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- Mine is the one I grew -- Votes: 14
- Mine is the one I raised this far -- Votes: 17
Suppose you had a 3 month old baby and just found out that it wasen't biologically yours because they were switched at birth, would you want the baby who grew inside you, or the one you have been caring for?
My answer: I'd absolutely want the one I knew. My kid is the one I experienced love for and cared for on the outside, not the one that grew on the inside, who I never knew personally, or touched...
But it's all a matter of time, and I don't know where that line in time would be...if they told me while I was still in the hospital, on day 3, would I want to switch? What if it's only been two weeks? If I had to pick a line, I'd say maybe, 2 weeks might be the point at which I'd be too in love to want to switch.. There's no way to really know unless I was in the situation... Actually, maybe as little as one week....It's tough because you feel that love connection right away, and the first few days are so essential to bonding that it would be hard to find that out, you'd be confused...upset...not know how to feel...
But my daughter is 3 months and my mom mentioned it the other day as a joke, but I seriously thought about it, and there is NO WAY I'd give her up if I found out she grew inside someone else. She would be mine because I've been her mom this far. And the other child who grew in me would be the other mothers.
I guess you'd always wonder.....
And.. whose choice is it anyways? Could you legally keep the kid you've been raising, or could the bio parents legally get the baby back if they wanted? Could it be fought in court?
I know this has happened in the past...very touchy subject...makes me sad to think about it...
If i found out our 9mo wasnt ours biologically theres no way i'd want to switch babies... i love him beyond words.
I'd like to have an open relationship with the other family if possible.. but it'd break my heart to switch children.. urghh, even thinking about it makes me feel sick.
That would be a hard choice. I picked the one I raised because I've already bonded with that child but on the other hand I would still want the one I grew
If I found out my youngest wasn't mine I'd be relieved and think, "well that makes a lot of sense"... lol jk.
I would probably want my biological child, no matter how long I had the other one for.
Can I have both of them?
Seriously though. I don't think it's something I could decide unless I was put in that kind of situation and even then it would be a very emotional time and would be very hard to decide.
I would like to think I would want the child that is biologically mine. The child would have SO's and my DNA and I wouldn't be able to move on knowing that my child is out there with some other family, Not knowing if he/she was being treated OK etc.
On the other hand, I would of cared for this child that is not mine biologically mine but I would of already grown to love them. Seen them smile, seen their beautiful eyes etc.
Like I said before, I'm pretty sure I wouldn't be able to make a decision like that even if I was put in that situation.
I think deep down I would want the child I birthed, but I'd put those feelings away until they didn't exist anymore lol
I think the mistake would have to be noticed in the first week for me to trade back the babies lol
Legally the baby you grew is your and vis versa. I think only after they are old enough to remember does it make a difference legally. So if the parents wanted their bio kid back you wouldn't have much choice that young. And to me it would really depend on the age of the baby. At 3 months I would switch back and become good friend and involved as much as possible with the other family. At 6 months to a year I would try and talk the other parents in to keeping the babies we had and staying close. 2 and up this is my kid stay the hell away from me crazy people lol. But I know all my kids are mine. They had very distinguishing features that there is no way anyone could mix them up and me not know. DD had super long black hair when she was born. The only baby to be born with hair the whole time we were there (or at least that much hair). Ds1 had long hair and he was huge. They called him the big baby with the hair in the nursery :roll: plus he had a ton of birth marks. Ds2 had no hair BUT he had dimples and a cleft chin. So yeah I know I got the right kids lol.
legally the biological parents have the right to claim their child if a switch like that were to happen. regardless of the childs age. its sad but unfortunately it does happen.
as far as what i would do? simply thinking about it i would want my own child back. but in actuality im not sure what i would do.
I can't understand how anyone would want the biological one back. Makes no sense to me. Haven't seen them or held them... wouldn't your kid be the one you tuck in at night, play with, feed, make smile, have a deep love for? How can finding out they weren't born from you turn off the love switch, as if it were never even real? Thinking about that makes me so sad. What makes you a childs mommy is caring for them and raising them and loving them and being there for them, not just by giving birth to them... and my 2 and a half year old, oh my goodness..... he tells me every day "you're my guy!" and his hugs, and our special games we play...that would be my kid no matter who he grew inside...:(
Quoting Mandy Schlatterer:" I can't understand how anyone would want the biological one back. Makes no sense to me. Haven't seen ... [snip!] ... every day "you're my guy!" and his hugs, and our special games we play...that would be my kid no matter who he grew inside...:("
Well that is the way you see it. A lot of people develop strong bonds with their kids while they are pregnant. And unless they had to rush the baby away after birth you would have held them at least once if not more before the switch happened. I mean some people just see it different.
Quoting Mandy Schlatterer:" Suppose you had a 3 month old baby and just found out that it wasen't biologically yours because they ... [snip!] ... Could it be fought in court? I know this has happened in the past...very touchy subject...makes me sad to think about it..."
I'd want the one I'd been raising. If someone told me tomorrow "Lily isnt yours, she was switched, I'd want the one I'd been raising." Now.... if someone told me when she was say... a day old? I'd want the old that was in my stomach. Past that... I'd want the one that I had been holding... the one I'd been nursing. The one I'd been nursing.
Lily is MINE. After all this time, she is MINE. Blood or not, that kid is MINE, and blood or no blood could change that. She nursed off me, and past a couple days... ya know... past a couple hours... nothing could change that.
Quoting Ecstasy:" If i found out our 9mo wasnt ours biologically theres no way i'd want to switch babies... i love him ... [snip!] ... the other family if possible.. but it'd break my heart to switch children.. urghh, even thinking about it makes me feel sick. "
Exactly this. I would defo want some kind of relationship with my biological child but the child I took home would be the child I kept as my own.
I'd want my bio child.