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izzy+Ethan 2 kids; Edmonton, Alberta 4056 posts
27th Jun '13
Quoting Blythe.:" Cussing in front of your kids doesn't mean that they are going to talk like that. Can you move his game ... [snip!] ... or something? As for the shit he says about paying the bills just flat out tell him thats bullshit and not to say that anymore"


i have told him every single time and he still does it,



i dont want a tv in my room its a distraction and i hate tvs in my room.....i should have to move a tv/game into my room cause he doesn't know how to control his anger

~The Lunar Flower~ 2 kids; Alabama 6748 posts
27th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥ Mrs. S ♥:</b>" I disagree. It is not right for a man to use that he is working and the SAHM mom isn't to get at her. ... [snip!] ... the situation could help it. Sometimes it takes a break for people to realize what they had or to change their behaviors. "</blockquote>



I never said it was ok for him to throw that in her face. I'm a SAHM as well. I recognize it as a full time job but DH didn't until he stayed home with me for 1 day because he had strained his back. He honestly didn't understand why my days are so busy because he only sees DS from 6pm-10pm when we go to sleep. Maybe she could write what she does all day down so he has some form of idea.

izzy+Ethan 2 kids; Edmonton, Alberta 4056 posts
27th Jun '13
Quoting Garfield636:" You deffinatelly should take a break. Make him realize how close he is to losing his family. Stay at your moms house for a few weeks, and see what he does."


see if i stay at my moms my and the kids will be in the living room and my sister lives with her and me and my sister living together will be worse then me and SO living together.



don't get me wrong im not trying to make excuses but it would be best if he went to his parents house

~The Lunar Flower~ 2 kids; Alabama 6748 posts
27th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting izzy+Ethan:</b>" i have told him every single time and he still does it, i dont want a tv in my room its a distraction ... [snip!] ... and i hate tvs in my room.....i should have to move a tv/game into my room cause he doesn't know how to control his anger"</blockquote>



I don't understand why you are so mad about his language & anger if you aren't willing to compromise & put the tv in your room. If you aren't willing to do that to give him space with his game to wind down, how is that fair? I understand you want help with the kids but what's worse: Him using foul language in front of your kids & throwing fits OR having a tv in your room so your children aren't subjected to it?

user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
27th Jun '13
Quoting ~The Lunar Flower~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting izzy+Ethan:</b>" i have told him every single time and he still ... [snip!] ... using foul language in front of your kids & throwing fits OR having a tv in your room so your children aren't subjected to it?"

The whole OP sounded incredibly immature to be upset and wanting a break over something so minor. It's not surprising she doesn't want to compromise.



OP who's name is on the lease? Are you able to pay the bills if he goes and stays at his parents?!

Blythe. 1 child; Indiana 22292 posts
27th Jun '13
Quoting ~The Lunar Flower~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting izzy+Ethan:</b>" i have told him every single time and he still ... [snip!] ... using foul language in front of your kids & throwing fits OR having a tv in your room so your children aren't subjected to it?"


I totally agree, I don't think this is something to end a relationship over at all. And if she does and the kids go see him they still will hear when he plays.

izzy+Ethan 2 kids; Edmonton, Alberta 4056 posts
27th Jun '13
Quoting ~The Lunar Flower~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting izzy+Ethan:</b>" i have told him every single time and he still ... [snip!] ... using foul language in front of your kids & throwing fits OR having a tv in your room so your children aren't subjected to it?"


k i have had the tv in our room so that the kids wont hear his fits of rage...but he just sits in their all day playing stupid video games or watching netflix on the weekends then never helps ....then he stays up all night when he knows he has to be up at 6 am to go to work and the next day he will come home early because hes tired cause HE stayed up all night....i honestly don't get why i should have to put him in a separate room cause he can;t control HIS anger... he even get mad at driving and swear in the car. i understand the kids will learn swearing sometime but i rather them not before their 10

Blythe. 1 child; Indiana 22292 posts
27th Jun '13
Quoting izzy+Ethan:" k i have had the tv in our room so that the kids wont hear his fits of rage...but he just sits in their ... [snip!] ... mad at driving and swear in the car. i understand the kids will learn swearing sometime but i rather them not before their 10"


you are just picking apart everything he does, he probably feels like you talk to him like he is a child. I'm sure you do things that annoy the shit out of him too, relationships are give and take.

izzy+Ethan 2 kids; Edmonton, Alberta 4056 posts
27th Jun '13
Quoting JiLLiAN.:" The whole OP sounded incredibly immature to be upset and wanting a break over something so minor. It's ... [snip!] ... doesn't want to compromise. OP who's name is on the lease? Are you able to pay the bills if he goes and stays at his parents?!"

Maybe i seriously have a bad way with words...
it nots just the swearing and anger he doesn't help with DS during the weekends at all he doesn't want to feed him or change him. he just want the good of parenting not bad. I have tried to talk to him about his anger and swearing many many times but he just doesnt care about my opinion...yesterday he asked if her could come home early i told him not cause your not sick you dont have appointments there no reason why you need to come home well he did it anyway. im not trying to control him at all i mean he doesnt even have to ask to come home from work but whats the point in asking if he gonna do what he wants. whats the point of talking to him about whats bugging me if he doesnt listen.

Blythe. 1 child; Indiana 22292 posts
27th Jun '13
Quoting izzy+Ethan:" Maybe i seriously have a bad way with words... it nots just the swearing and anger he doesn't help with ... [snip!] ... point in asking if he gonna do what he wants. whats the point of talking to him about whats bugging me if he doesnt listen. "


When you need help hand him the baby and walk away get in the shower or go shopping or something

♥ Mrs. S ♥ Due September 20; 2 kids; Venezuela 13599 posts
status 27th Jun '13
Quoting izzy+Ethan:" you know what he asked the other day Warning this will light fire!! (keep in mind i have 2 kids 19 ... [snip!] ... day... like being a full-time mom cleaning after him and the kids making meals playing with them is some kind of train ride"


DH and I have been together 5 years this fall. When I was pregnant with my 2nd I ended up leaving and going to stay at my parents for a few nights. I told him I wasn't coming back until there were changes. I was so pissed off about things he said. We talked tons after I cooled down. We ended up going to marriage counseling and it helped so much. Our relationship isn't perfect but we got tools to help us communicate and function better. It took me leaving to kind of wake him up and realize that I wasn't happy and changes needed to be made. For some reason just saying I wasn't happy didn't get through to him like packing up and leaving did.
Relationships take TONS of work. If my DH wouldn't have been willing to change, (me as well) it wouldn't have worked out. It's all about communication and both parities giving 100%.

~The Lunar Flower~ 2 kids; Alabama 6748 posts
27th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting JiLLiAN.:</b>" The whole OP sounded incredibly immature to be upset and wanting a break over something so minor. It's ... [snip!] ... doesn't want to compromise. OP who's name is on the lease? Are you able to pay the bills if he goes and stays at his parents?!"</blockquote>



She doesn't have a job & he pays the bills. I doubt it will go over well when she tells him to go live with his parents so she can stay at the house he's paying for lol. I've dealt with this minor issue as well. It takes commpromise on both sides & maturing. DH & I are 20 & 21 but we'd never split over something so trivial. I'm a proud SAHM & I gladly take care of our son. DH helps when I ask & plays with our son regularly but I don't b***h if he doesn't do everything I want or my way.

izzy+Ethan 2 kids; Edmonton, Alberta 4056 posts
27th Jun '13
Quoting Blythe.:" you are just picking apart everything he does, he probably feels like you talk to him like he is a child. I'm sure you do things that annoy the shit out of him too, relationships are give and take."


yes and he tells me then i try not to do it ..he however makes no effort to change or not swear ...im not picking everything he does ...it is what i cant stand ....swearing i hate it drives me nuts ( yes i do swear sometimes but not in front of the kids) but again ITS NOT JUST THE SWEARING... its the fact that on the weekends he wont help with DS and just goes all the computer all day. just cause it the weekend doesn't mean your job as a parent is on break to ....he doesnt understand parenting it 24/7

♥ Mrs. S ♥ Due September 20; 2 kids; Venezuela 13599 posts
status 27th Jun '13
Quoting ~The Lunar Flower~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ♥ Mrs. S ♥:</b>" I disagree. It is not right for ... [snip!] ... only sees DS from 6pm-10pm when we go to sleep. Maybe she could write what she does all day down so he has some form of idea."


DH can't even handle it when I leave the kids with him for a few hours, lol. He's told me that he doesn't know how I do it. He played this song when I got home:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1VJkFhpE1Pg

izzy+Ethan 2 kids; Edmonton, Alberta 4056 posts
27th Jun '13
Quoting ~The Lunar Flower~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting JiLLiAN.:</b>" The whole OP sounded incredibly immature to be ... [snip!] ... of our son. DH helps when I ask & plays with our son regularly but I don't b***h if he doesn't do everything I want or my way."


first off i would be able to support my self pay for rent ...whether it me government funding for a month or two then student loans... you may think they are minor, he exepts to much from me i have done so much compromising and he has done so little he thinks its my house my rules cause i pays the bills i do not agree with that and i have told him that and he does not care. if SO did help i would not b***h about it. if he said here let me fed DS while you go clean i would be sure thing. but he doesnt her sits on the computer and doesnt offer to help at all why should i have to tell him that he needs to help be a parent? he tells DD to go play when hes on the computer and wants to play with him!