When I was very little, I asked my grandmother who she loved the most, thinking that the answer would be me. Without hesitating, she told me that sheloved grandpa the most. I was surprisedand kept asking her if she loved him more than my mother, more than my aunt, more than me. Always the answer was yes. She was incredibly gentle throughout my line of questioning and explained to me that he was the love of her life. I was too young then to understand the difference between romantic love and familial love, but I always remembered this. I also remember my grandparents sitting nextto each other on the couch, holding hands and singing tunes together absentmindedly well into their 80s. They share something icredible with each other. As for me , i don't know love either more .They are both my Love of life but this question often comes in my mind. I want to know what other mothers think about this topic. Edit Can you please explain what does putting kids first actually mean ?? I mean ,does it mean you love your kids more ?? I don't think it healthy to put anyone over the other . I always put my family first and that includes my husband and kids. So i am lil confused .
My SO would come before the children. And I know I will be the odd one out on this.
I love my husband with all of my entirety. But my children will always come first. Will I let this ruin our relationship? No we still have a healthy functioning relationship and sex life.
There is a different kind of love between them so I understand "loving one more" but I don't see it that way.
My kids would always come first to me, they need me and my husband could be okay without me.
<blockquote><b>Quoting Monsters ⚓ Mom:</b>" I love my husband with all of my entirety. But my children will always come first. Will I let this ruin ... [snip!] ... and sex life. There is a different kind of love between them so I understand "loving one more" but I don't see it that way. "</blockquote>
Quoting Kimber-lily:" My SO would come before the children. And I know I will be the odd one out on this." I don't think so.
i love my SO very much. Words cant describe my love for him. BUT I love my daughter more.
My son will aways come first. I love my SO
<blockquote><b>Quoting Kimber-lily:</b>" My SO would come before the children. And I know I will be the odd one out on this."</blockquote>
I'm with ya.
My kids have a different kind of love from me, but my husband will alwaas be #1
After seeing the reply i really want to add the poll in this topic but unfortunately i can't .
I can't help but think of it in the way that my husband could do something to betray me or something I find so repulsive that I could fall out of love with him. I don't think I will ever stop loving my kids no matter what they do.
Also, I love them in 2 different ways, but if we're taking hanging off a cliff? My kids win.
It's such a different kind of love that it's hard to put a "more" on one or the other. My husband holds my heart, but my children ARE my heart.
In a life or death situation, I would save my children before my husband. I have told him this and expect and hope that he would do the same. I could not live with the guilt if I were saved and my children perished. So if that means I love them more, then I guess that's my answer...
For me, I just can't honestly compare the two. I love them all an immense amount, but the love is incomparable.