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user banned Louisville, Ohio 12 posts
2nd Jul '13

Quoting MissMommyJacquie:" No person could ever even come close to my child. I am a strong believer in that your children should ... [snip!] ... I wouldn't want to be with a guy that didn't put his children before me because in my opinion his priorities wouldn't be right." I don't think anyone should play second fiddle in one's family. I put my husband first and i also put my kids first. There should be fine balance as both relationships required nurturing and putting any other over the other only created imbalance in my opinion.

user banned Louisville, Ohio 12 posts
2nd Jul '13

Quoting SaraDenise:" Half of all marriages end in divorce. Your kids are your kids forever, but in all honesty your partner ... [snip!] ... you forever. So yes, your husband is SUPPOSED to stay with you forever, but for half of the married people, that is untrue." If we all enter marriage with "well i can always replace my spouse " then i don't think we should get married at all. Why judge your relationship and marriage with other who choose wrong partners and didn't fight for their marriages ??

SaraDenise 2 kids; Durant, Oklahoma 827 posts
3rd Jul '13
Quoting Twinklelogic:" Quoting SaraDenise:" Half of all marriages end in divorce. Your kids are your kids forever, but in all ... [snip!] ... at all. Why judge your relationship and marriage with other who choose wrong partners and didn't fight for their marriages ??"

Divorce doesn't automatically mean you chose the wrong partner or you didn't fight for your marriage. SMH. That's kind of rude! You can do things to strengthen a marriage, but you can't CONTROL your partner.



YOU can ignore the statistics all you want and pretend you are better than people who get a divorce, but I choose not to.

user banned Louisville, Ohio 12 posts
4th Jul '13
Quoting SaraDenise:" Divorce doesn't automatically mean you chose the wrong partner or you didn't fight for your marriage. ... [snip!] ... YOU can ignore the statistics all you want and pretend you are better than people who get a divorce, but I choose not to."


Well that's up to you i guess .
Whatever works for your family.
cheers

jkwilla Japan 5 posts
4th Jul '13

The answer is simple and you don't even need to ask this question
Women can't and never love men like men love women.
Men in general love and care about their wives as much as they for their kids unlike women who only care about their kids
Men love their kids and wives more than anything but women only love their kids more than anything.
Men in general would die to protect their wives and kids but women would only die for their kids ,they would not even blink an eye if see their husbands dying.
Men love their families ( that includes wives and kids ) but women only love their kids ( they are a family but that don't contains fathers).
At the end of the day
It's BIOLOGY and it works like this...
MEN >>>> WOMEN >>> CHILDREN >>> PUPPIES.
It never works in reverse.
. Therefore a man will always be "alone" in every relationship ....
This reality is one of the HARSHEST for men to accept.
They cannot look to ANYONE but themselves - for anything .

Dovahkiin 1 child; 1 angel baby; Kentucky 16776 posts
4th Jul '13
Quoting jkwilla:" The answer is simple and you don't even need to ask this question Women can't and never love men like ... [snip!] ... .... This reality is one of the HARSHEST for men to accept. They cannot look to ANYONE but themselves - for anything ."


What the hell kind of cracker jack crack are you smoking.

RMRE+J Mama 5 kids; Delaware 62 posts
5th Jul '13

Kids come first. I wouldn't say at this point I love them more, I can't really measure either love in a way that one would be comparable to the other. But I definitely have more of an investment in my children. We both do. I wouldn't have had children with a man I believed would not put his children before me either.



We make time for each other. We enjoy each other. We're a great team and have a great relationship. But we could both go on without the other. We both have lives, social supports, educations and abilities of our own. I suppose it comes down to need vs. want. I want him in my life very much, but I don't need it. If our relationship were to end or something were to happen to him, I would be very sad, but I'd be able to pick myself up and move on. If something happened to one of our children, I doubt I'd be suicidal or anything but I'd be living a shell of a life for a long, long time.

rickwilla Japan 2 posts
5th Jul '13

The answer is simple and you don't even need to ask this question Women can't and never love men like men love women. Men in general love and care about their wives asmuch as they for their kids unlike women who only care about their kids Men love their kids and wives more than anything but women only love their kids more than anything. Men in general would die to protect their wives and kids but women would only die for their kids ,they would not even blink an eye if see their husbands dying. Men love their families ( that includes wives and kids ) but women only love their kids ( they are a family but that don't contains fathers). At the end of the day It's BIOLOGY and it works like this... MEN >>>> WOMEN >>> CHILDREN >>> PUPPIES. It never works in reverse. Women , children do not return the same amount of love UP the hierarchy. It only works going Downward. It's the way it is. Its the way it alwayshas been and it's the way it always will be. NO man can expect to receive what he gives...and no man gets to expect a woman to bring to the tableas much as HE brings to the table. Therefore a man will always be "alone" in every relationship .... This reality is one of the HARSHEST for men to accept. They cannot look to ANYONE but themselves - for anything . Hell will freeze over before a woman is prepared to die to save a male life - or before she even CARES. When a man dies, the first thought through his woman's mind: "OMG, what am >> I << going to do, now. Who will take care of ME. Who will support ME." It's all about HER and HER kids. So why bother getting married ???

The Master 2 kids; Perth, Australia 19989 posts
5th Jul '13
Quoting rickwilla:" The answer is simple and you don't even need to ask this question Women can't and never love men like ... [snip!] ... to do, now. Who will take care of ME. Who will support ME." It's all about HER and HER kids. So why bother getting married ???"


seriously are you from Saudi Arabia or something?

♥♬♡ 2 kids; Pennsylvania 10380 posts
5th Jul '13

My kids, for those of you whos saying husband first, why? he can care for himself kids can't?

Destinite 1 child; 2 angel babies; Paradise, FL, United States 31339 posts
5th Jul '13

I love my husband very, very much, as well as my son. I think the love for my son is unconditional. There is NOTHING my son can do that would ever make me love him less or not support him. Clearly, most marriages have conditions attached that could be the demise of the marriage and love.