so LO is going to be 11 months on the first. this is our first month TTC and i am really excited about it.
My Aunt who is the same age as me found out i was pregnant the week i had my LO, and she's had a lot of problems with it. she is living with her parents who are very judgmental and just mean and the babys dad hasn't been involved from the day she told him she was pregnant. they have probably seen each other 10 times since then and the baby is 2 months old.
This entire time we have been telling her she could move in with us but she hasn't taken us up on the offer because we live 30 minutes away and she would need to find a new job but tonight she confirmed she does want to move in within the next few weeks which is fine because her parents are insane and tell her shes a horrible parent and should be committed and shes abusive and a lazy brat (she isn't, her parents are just mean as stated above)
we have 3 bedrooms upstairs and a half finished basement (finished room but unfinished laundry and bathroom)
if i get pregnant the LOs will share a room if they are the same gender but if not i'd want to put new LO in the 3rd bedroom but i know she would rather be up here than in the basement (although she said she would take the basement before) but when i told her we were TTC she was like "don't then we will have 3 babies in the house"
idk i know having another baby and adult move in is a big change but i don't want to NOT have my second baby because she is living her (SO says he does not want kids more than 2 years apart so i kinda have a time limit)
What would you do?
I wouldn't stop TTC because she's moving in...
I wouldn't let someone else decide when and how much I TTC'd.
Are you offering her to move in temporarily or forever?
If it's a permanent arrangement, you probably want to let her stay in the basement. If it's temporary, then the spare room would do.
Quoting Viqtoria:" Are you offering her to move in temporarily or forever? If it's a permanent arrangement, you probably want to let her stay in the basement. If it's temporary, then the spare room would do."
not forever but it will be at least a year probably more
I wouldn't stop. My sister and her little boy lived with us for quite some time, meaning we had 3 toddlers in the house. They all played together and were really great friends.
Quoting Mum to a Monster:" I wouldn't let someone else decide when and how much I TTC'd."
Quoting yeah, maybe:" not forever but it will be at least a year probably more"
I would still put her in the basement just in case.
I say basement. I would tell her it's your life and your family and if you want to TTC, that's your decision.
Well the good thing about YOU letting HER stay there, is she can leave whenever she likes. So if she doesn't want you to have another baby, then she can leave when you become pregnant. If this is what you and your husband want, then go for it.
I'd still TTC. Your place, your life, your family!
I'd still try. Others cannot dictate when you should TTC. You are doing her a favor by letting her and her child move in. I don't know how it was meant, but I'd be straight up mad if I let someone move into my home and they told me not have another baby because they were there. It's disrespectful, imo. :?
Quoting Levi's momma♥[TTC]:" I'd still try. Others cannot dictate when you should TTC. You are doing her a favor by letting her and ... [snip!] ... if I let someone move into my home and they told me not have another baby because they were there. It's disrespectful, imo. :?"
i don't think she meant it like "you can't have another one" i think she was just trying to point out that 3 in a lot of kids. but oh well. she will deal with it. we discussed it and she agrees with me that her staying in the basement will be best for everyone.