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Infant seats on top of the cart Mrs. Daniel 1 child; California 547 posts
29th Jun '13

I see it several times every time I'm out shopping. I don't say anything because I don't want to upset parents. But then there's this other part of me that would feel guilty if the baby got hurt. Babies die from the seat falling off the cart every year. Consumer safety reports states that a couple thousand babies are injured from the seat falling off. It is NEVER safe. I guess posting it here is a way to help my conscience. What do you mamas think? Any one have a drama free way of telling parents? I get that people don't know it's dangerous, but I would want someone to tell me if I were doing it.

Flag 1 child; Newmarket, Ontario 1681 posts
29th Jun '13

I did it because I didn't know better. Some carts even have warnings on them, but people ignore them.



If someone had told me, I probably would have thought "Know it all", ignored them, then checked it out when I got home and never done it again.

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
29th Jun '13

I think mind your own business. You do whatever you want with your kid, and stop worrying about everyone else's.

Kimber-lily Due September 27 (girl); 4 kids; Nova Scotia 28962 posts
29th Jun '13

If a stranger came up to me in public and told me I was doing something wrong with my kid I'd just walk away and think "fuck that lady is weird". lol



Honestly I think it's rude to say something to people you don't know, I bet a lot of parents would get offended. I vote for minding your own business.

The Pretender 2 kids; Brazil 1232 posts
29th Jun '13

I wouldn't have realized how unsafe this was until I saw someone posting on here about it some time ago.



I have been thinking about it too, since I have come to find out just how dangerous it is, and I may have come up with an idea...



...is there any way you can make fliers/small poster-boards with statistical data and obvious photos (for people that aren't literate or english speaking), maybe even put some reputable websites as references so people know you're not just making it up, to let the general public know that it's dangerous?



And then go around to the grocery stores in your area and ask if they wouldn't mind them being put up in a visual place?

IOnlyMakeBoys (B.B.M) 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Texas 4754 posts
29th Jun '13

I had no idea it was a problem but then again I never turned my back on my child when his seat was there and always had one hand on it. This was back in 2009 I wonder if that is why the seats no longer have the indent to place them on there now? I was looking for it with my new LO and then decided to go with a convertable seat.

A, E & W's mommy 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Bulgaria 16458 posts
29th Jun '13

I state it to them like I just learned this amazing new fact, that having the clasps hook the back of the toddler seat in the cart actually deteriorates their ability to clasp properly to the car seat base, and then exclaim "I totally used to do this too, I had no idea!" Then they feel more like we're almost learning something together and like I was just as bad as they were.

ℕightingale 1 child; Mississippi 7944 posts
status 29th Jun '13

I don't say anything it clearly says in every shopping card not to do it. If you try to say something they get upset and make a scene so I'd pass.

Mama Van D Due November 3; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Unity, Maine 2454 posts
29th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting IOnlyMakeBoys (B.B.M):</b>" I had no idea it was a problem but then again I never turned my back on my child when his seat was there ... [snip!] ... have the indent to place them on there now? I was looking for it with my new LO and then decided to go with a convertable seat."</blockquote>




Same. I did this with DS when he was little (just clipped it to the seat) and always had a Han on him. I didn't know it was bad... Now I feel like a horrible mom :/

Amber + 2♡ 2 kids; Kansas 19287 posts
status 29th Jun '13

The carseat clicks onto the cart. How is this unsafe? I'm confused.

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
29th Jun '13
Quoting Mama Van D:" <blockquote><b>Quoting IOnlyMakeBoys (B.B.M):</b>" I had no idea it was a problem but ... [snip!] ... little (just clipped it to the seat) and always had a Han on him. I didn't know it was bad... Now I feel like a horrible mom :/"


horrible moms neglect and beat their children, stop being so dramatic.

IOnlyMakeBoys (B.B.M) 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Texas 4754 posts
29th Jun '13
Quoting Mama Van D:" <blockquote><b>Quoting IOnlyMakeBoys (B.B.M):</b>" I had no idea it was a problem but ... [snip!] ... little (just clipped it to the seat) and always had a Han on him. I didn't know it was bad... Now I feel like a horrible mom :/"


I don't feel horrible about it but after reading this I was like wow I could see that happening. Kind of like a note to self moment. I do have to say though where most car seats don't have that indent anymore it made me research car seat options and actually saved me a bunch of money. My sons will go from 5 to 65 pounds :-) and to think about how many car seats I bought for my first and he just kept outgrowing them lol

Mrs. Daniel 1 child; California 547 posts
29th Jun '13

The fliers are a good idea. I wonder if places like Walmart would go for it though. I don't believe in minding your own business when it comes to the safety of a child. But I also don't want conflict for someone taking my input offensively. Dh thought a shirt with a pic and a line through it would be cute, with a caption that sad ask me about my shirt. Idk. I'm working on trying to care less. I tend to care too much in many aspects of life.

Nicola. 2 kids; Huntsville, AL, United States 8136 posts
status 29th Jun '13

I did with DS because I had no clue. Since my car seat manual said that it clipped on the cart, I figured it was okay. If someone told me that, I would honestly be a little irritated. But then I would have researched and found out they were right. And I would have stopped doing it.



I just bite my tongue, though. Its not my place to tell a stranger. If I knew them, though, I would explain it to them.



I do wonder how many moms saw me doing it and though "What an idiot" lol

^.^ Chippermunkk 1 child; Dalzell, South Carolina 37492 posts
29th Jun '13

I don't say anything, but I do inside happy squees when I see people not using the top of the cart