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Telling everyone Live the life you love Due June 10; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Texas 172 posts
1st Jul '13

I miscarried on Saturday. I go back to work on Tuesday and I'm completely dreading it. I work in a restaurant so it was pretty much around that I had been pregnant. No one knows what happened over the weekend because I was scheduled off on Sun & Mon and called in Saturday night and just told the manager I was in the hospital and I couldn't make it.



I just don't know how I'm going to tell everyone one after the other after they ask how I'm doing or how the baby is doing. Theres a girl I work with behind the counter every Tuesday night and she was sort of protective of me and would always do my heavy lifting.



I just can't imagine wanting to break down and cry at every reaction. All the "I'm here if you need me " or "let me know if you need anything"s and pity looks. I just dont want to deal with all this... Any suggestions on what to say or how to say it?



Also, what am I supposed to say to my 4 year old? I am just so lost right now...

Mommy2Kay 1 child; Florida 4211 posts
1st Jul '13

I'm so sorry for you lost. I would tell someone your're close with and ask that person to tell the others and ask them to not bring it up unless you do because you aren't ready to talk about it.

Severus Snape Due March 15; 1 child; Tennessee 3511 posts
1st Jul '13
Quoting Mommy2Kay:" I'm so sorry for you lost. I would tell someone your're close with and ask that person to tell the others and ask them to not bring it up unless you do because you aren't ready to talk about it."


:!: This



I'm sorry for your loss :(

BastiansMommy 1 child; Shelton, Washington 2428 posts
1st Jul '13

I'm sorry for your loss Momma :(
I hope you find someone you can lean on and talk to

Skinny Cow 114 kids; Switzerland 4364 posts
1st Jul '13

I'm sorry for your loss. the same thing happened to me last year :( everyone at my work knew. it helped by someone else telling people. it was hard having to be the one that said I last it. so just like the other suggestion s ask someone close to you too tell the others maybe. I know am sorry you are going through this. :( I didn't want anyone pitty either and it was painful and still brings back memories thinking about it. take great care of yourself mama. :(

Live the life you love Due June 10; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Texas 172 posts
1st Jul '13

Thanks ladies :( its just really hard knowing that everyone knew and scared I'm gonna have like 3 or 4 people coming up to me throughout the night asking about how everything is going.



Ugh this blows...

slayera 4 kids; 3 angel babies; nowhere, ca, United States 705 posts
1st Jul '13
Quoting Mommy2Kay:" I'm so sorry for you lost. I would tell someone your're close with and ask that person to tell the others and ask them to not bring it up unless you do because you aren't ready to talk about it."


good idea. so sorry for your loss.

Amelia [26 wks Boy!] Due July 20; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 14364 posts
1st Jul '13

I know it sounds tacky but Facebook has really helped me with this. I hate so much having to tell people and putting it on blast I can just get it over and done with.