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Anyone's child gone through surgery? MunchkinWrangler 4 kids; Rīga, Latvia 46816 posts
2nd Jul '13

My daughter has surgery scheduled in a couple weeks.
I feel so guilty for making the decision to go through with this. I don't want her to be upset/in pain.



They basically have to try and separate a couple bones in her foot, and reshape them a bit, then take tissue from her leg and use it as a cushion between the bones in her foot since there isn't anything there to prevent them from rubbing together. Afterwards she will be in a cast for about a month.



I'm just wondering what to expect regarding surgery, pain, pain relief... and most importantly I don't know how to explain to her WHY she has to have this done. I don't want her to think that I am letting the doctors hurt her. She is in pain right now with her condition so we have talked about it "getting fixed" so that it feels better.... but I haven't really gone into detail about what they are going to do. She is 4 years old... should I?? Or should I just leave it at them fixing her foot, and let her ask questions?

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36477 posts
2nd Jul '13

This members daughter just went through something like that... Her daughter just turned 1. http://members.baby-gaga.com/member1096821

HungryHippo 2 kids; Missouri 12139 posts
2nd Jul '13

Tell her that she needs to have surgery to make her foot better
Kids can be pretty understanding,I know I was when I was young regarding surgeries.
She will be given pain medication,it could be Tylenol with codein or something like Vicodin,depending how well she is handling with pain

**Blessed_Insanity** 7 kids; Wyoming 18708 posts
2nd Jul '13

My daughter had surgery but not by choice, The pain was pretty bad for her, it was pretty scary after. She spent 2 weeks in the hospital and then 3 months in a spica cast afterwards. She has to have surgery again, but I have post poned doing it.

MunchkinWrangler 4 kids; Rīga, Latvia 46816 posts
2nd Jul '13
Quoting HungryHippo:" Tell her that she needs to have surgery to make her foot better Kids can be pretty understanding,I know ... [snip!] ... be given pain medication,it could be Tylenol with codein or something like Vicodin,depending how well she is handling with pain"


I have told her that. She doesn't know what surgery is, though... and I don't know how to prepare her for it. She knows she has to have anesthesia and an IV again (she's had it before for her MRI), and she is NOT happy about that part... but I don't think she fully understands what they are doing and the pain she may be in afterwards and I don't want her to be surprised/scared... however, I don't want to scare her beforehand either and cause any unnecessary anxiety.

MunchkinWrangler 4 kids; Rīga, Latvia 46816 posts
2nd Jul '13
Quoting **Blessed Insanity **:" My daughter had surgery but not by choice, The pain was pretty bad for her, it was pretty scary after. ... [snip!] ... in the hospital and then 3 months in a spica cast afterwards. She has to have surgery again, but I have post poned doing it. "


What happened? What was it for?

**Blessed_Insanity** 7 kids; Wyoming 18708 posts
2nd Jul '13
Quoting MunchkinWrangler:" What happened? What was it for?"



She was hit by a car as we were crossing the street, long story short, the girl turned into a lane she was not supposed to and hit both my oldest two daughters and husband. She needed surgery because she had to go into traction because the impact broke her femur, hip, and pelvis.

MunchkinWrangler 4 kids; Rīga, Latvia 46816 posts
2nd Jul '13
Quoting **Blessed Insanity **:" She was hit by a car as we were crossing the street, long story short, the girl turned into a lane ... [snip!] ... and husband. She needed surgery because she had to go into traction because the impact broke her femur, hip, and pelvis. "


HOLY SHIT. O.O
That is so scary. :(
Wow, that must have been rough on her.

HungryHippo 2 kids; Missouri 12139 posts
2nd Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting MunchkinWrangler:</b>" I have told her that. She doesn't know what surgery is, though... and I don't know how to prepare her ... [snip!] ... want her to be surprised/scared... however, I don't want to scare her beforehand either and cause any unnecessary anxiety."</blockquote>




When I was having surgeries as a child they put me to sleep before the IV to illimante any extra stress. I was also given medication before hand to help me relax,like Xanax.
Just let her know that it will be ok,how many incisions she will have,about the cast and tell her that once she heals she will be better and until then she will be taken care of
I know it hard,I haven't been through t with my kid but I've been through it as a child and it is scary and painful but kids are amazing when it comes to pain and injury and usually bounce back really quick




When I was er age I was in a cast from my hips to toes,with a bar In between my legs,had to wear diapers again. And I army crawled through the house for 6 months lol

**Blessed_Insanity** 7 kids; Wyoming 18708 posts
2nd Jul '13
Quoting MunchkinWrangler:" HOLY SHIT. O.O That is so scary. :( Wow, that must have been rough on her."



It was, she was 3 when it happened, but now walks with a limp, that is why we need to rebreak it and set in rods.



This was her a few days after it happened.



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HungryHippo 2 kids; Missouri 12139 posts
2nd Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting **Blessed Insanity **:</b>" She was hit by a car as we were crossing the street, long story short, the girl turned into a lane ... [snip!] ... and husband. She needed surgery because she had to go into traction because the impact broke her femur, hip, and pelvis. "</blockquote>




Poor baby :(
Spica casts suck
I've had 3

MunchkinWrangler 4 kids; Rīga, Latvia 46816 posts
2nd Jul '13
Quoting HungryHippo:" <blockquote><b>Quoting MunchkinWrangler:</b>" I have told her that. She doesn't know ... [snip!] ... my hips to toes,with a bar In between my legs,had to wear diapers again. And I army crawled through the house for 6 months lol"

Good lord. Why? That sounds terrible.



Yeah I suppose I will have to just explain it that way. I'm hoping she will bounce back fast. I juts worry because she was totally fine with them doing her IV. She had no problems with it... but when they took it out and she saw that she was bruised and it had bled she FREAKED out saying that they hurt her and she doesn't want to go back. And that was minor... so I worry when there is a big wound and a cast that she will be entirely freaked out.

MunchkinWrangler 4 kids; Rīga, Latvia 46816 posts
2nd Jul '13
Quoting **Blessed Insanity **:" It was, she was 3 when it happened, but now walks with a limp, that is why we need to rebreak it and set in rods. This was her a few days after it happened. "


Poor baby :(

**Blessed_Insanity** 7 kids; Wyoming 18708 posts
2nd Jul '13
Quoting HungryHippo:" <blockquote><b>Quoting **Blessed Insanity **:</b>" She was hit by a car as we were ... [snip!] ... because the impact broke her femur, hip, and pelvis. "</blockquote> Poor baby :( Spica casts suck I've had 3"


Thats why I have been putting off doing it again, she would have to be put in another one, I personally feel that we should just wait till she is an adult and do it once, instead of multiple times, which they said is an option. OR just put rods in and lengthen the rods as she grows.

HungryHippo 2 kids; Missouri 12139 posts
2nd Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting MunchkinWrangler:</b>" Good lord. Why? That sounds terrible. Yeah I suppose I will have to just explain it that way. I'm hoping ... [snip!] ... want to go back. And that was minor... so I worry when there is a big wound and a cast that she will be entirely freaked out."</blockquote>



I have neurofibromatosis
Basically my entire leg was covered in tumors and the bones were so severely curved they would spontaneously fracture
So after 3 attempts so fix it,by removing my hip bones and putting them in my leg with metal rods they realized it couldn't be fixed so at the age of 7 I made the decision to have it amputated



I still get the tumors,which are bundles of nerves bunched so tightly it causes masses that continue to grow and spread but for the most part I don't have a lot of issues any more.