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....................... ......................... Oregon 14226 posts
4th Jul '13

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ℕightingale 1 child; Mississippi 7011 posts
4th Jul '13

I wouldn't but I don't forgive people and wouldn't forgive something like that.
Did she tell you that your SIL is more popular in the apology? Or was that before?

......................... Oregon 14226 posts
4th Jul '13
Quoting Glo♥:" I wouldn't but I don't forgive people and wouldn't forgive something like that. Did she tell you that your SIL is more popular in the apology? Or was that before?"



That was after I confronted her for saying she would probably go. She said she lived in her popular sister's shadow and I need to suck it up and get over it.



The official apology I got today.

user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
4th Jul '13

She just sounds like a b***h.



Clearly she is playing favorites.

Captain Obvious 2 kids; Havana, Cuba 25634 posts
4th Jul '13

I would have never spoken to her again after that. How can anyone be so insensitive????

ℕightingale 1 child; Mississippi 7011 posts
4th Jul '13
Quoting TheCoopersKnitWitch:" That was after I confronted her for saying she would probably go. She said she lived in her popular sister's shadow and I need to suck it up and get over it. The official apology I got today."


Hmm f**k that lady! Who the f**k apologizes like that? Tell her to stick that apology up her ass.

Not tellin 3 kids; Montana 55982 posts
4th Jul '13

Forgiving someone isn't for them. It is for you. It simply makes you a miserable and bitter person to carry all that hate.

......................... Oregon 14226 posts
4th Jul '13
Quoting Glo♥:" Hmm f**k that lady! Who the f**k apologizes like that? Tell her to stick that apology up her ass."


I didn't accept it, not worded like if I was in my SILs shoes she would have gone.



That's not an apology.

......................... Oregon 14226 posts
4th Jul '13
Quoting Not tellin:" Forgiving someone isn't for them. It is for you. It simply makes you a miserable and bitter person to carry all that hate."



And I'm really trying, I really want to forgive her for it, but it was so hurtful and then to see her hypocrisy I can't forgive her, even though I WANT to.

......................... Oregon 14226 posts
4th Jul '13
Quoting JiLLiAN.:" She just sounds like a b***h. Clearly she is playing favorites."


My SIL and her son(my BIL) are the clear family favorites.



She's said other things to hurt us too, that I can't forgive her for, and I want to.

ℕightingale 1 child; Mississippi 7011 posts
4th Jul '13
Quoting Not tellin:" Forgiving someone isn't for them. It is for you. It simply makes you a miserable and bitter person to carry all that hate."


I get that but in reality could you simply moved on? I couldn't do it but I wouldn't be like I hate that b***h every day. I simply wouldn't have anything to do with her and keep living my life.

user banned 2 kids; Bat Cave, North Carolina 64587 posts
4th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Not tellin:</b>" Forgiving someone isn't for them. It is for you. It simply makes you a miserable and bitter person to carry all that hate."</blockquote>




Agreed.
And OP, I think you can forgive anyone if you want to. You say you want to but can't, but I think you could. You could still be hurt or upset, but it doesn't mean you can't forgive, IMO.

L&J ♥ +1 Due August 29; 2 kids; New Jersey 6106 posts
4th Jul '13

She sounds really nasty and rude. I don't blame you for not forgiving her.



So happy for you that your son was born alive!

......................... Oregon 14226 posts
4th Jul '13
Quoting Glo♥:" I get that but in reality could you simply moved on? I couldn't do it but I wouldn't be like I hate that b***h every day. I simply wouldn't have anything to do with her and keep living my life."



See and I'm still trying. I let her see her grandkids whenever she wants, but to see her going to other family showers for 2nd kids and then going to my SILs, it's when it comes back to bite me in the ass. The things she says to us are so hurtful.



She's said things like, "If you have another baby, your relationship will be ruined" I take that as saying if we have any more kids she's saying we'll get divorced.



Anytime anything goes wrong in her life, she takes it out on my husband and us.



But on the other side of things. She clearly favorites my daughter and treats her like the daughter she never had.

......................... Oregon 14226 posts
4th Jul '13
Quoting The Original Mayhem.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Not tellin:</b>" Forgiving someone isn't for them. It is for ... [snip!] ... you want to but can't, but I think you could. You could still be hurt or upset, but it doesn't mean you can't forgive, IMO."


Well if you think of it in that sense. Maybe it's not just ignoring it.



I can live with her, I don't hate her, but the things she said are so hurtful. And I'm not angry at her every day for it. Only when she goes to peoples shower for 2nd babies and all of that, and that's what hurts me.