Cast Your Vote:

    • Keep X as best man and pray he comes good -- Votes: 4
    • Politely tell X that he can't be best man -- Votes: 31
    • De-friend X completely -- Votes: 19
allison erin 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Olympia, Washington 13186 posts
status Jul 5th '13

Allowing him to do the speech could lead to the following:

A.) Causing tension at your wedding.
B.) Creating a poor perception of your husband for his co-workers.
C.) Starting family problems or hurting the people your husband is close with.
D.) All of the above.

If it were me, I'd think of a polite way of asking him not to do the speech. Make him think not doing it is his idea so it doesn't fuel the fire. Too much to risk...

TheNuge 1 child; Pennsylvania 23152 posts
Jul 5th '13

Hmm. First of all, the guy he chose to be his best man sounds like an idiot and should NOT be given a position of honor at your wedding.
Second, I question your fiance's judgment to ask him in the first place. I hope he has learned and matured since that time.