Cast Your Vote:
- Keep X as best man and pray he comes good -- Votes: 4
- Politely tell X that he can't be best man -- Votes: 31
- De-friend X completely -- Votes: 19
Allowing him to do the speech could lead to the following:
A.) Causing tension at your wedding.
B.) Creating a poor perception of your husband for his co-workers.
C.) Starting family problems or hurting the people your husband is close with.
D.) All of the above.
If it were me, I'd think of a polite way of asking him not to do the speech. Make him think not doing it is his idea so it doesn't fuel the fire. Too much to risk...
Hmm. First of all, the guy he chose to be his best man sounds like an idiot and should NOT be given a position of honor at your wedding.
Second, I question your fiance's judgment to ask him in the first place. I hope he has learned and matured since that time.