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a womans body after children. Kimber-lily Due September 27 (girl); 4 kids; Nova Scotia 28962 posts
5th Jul '13

Do you think that having children is an excuse to not being healthy and in shape?



And I don't mean pop out a baby and go straight to the gym.



It just drives me crazy when people are like, "you look good for having two kids".... I am 20 lbs over weight, having children isn't an excuse. I'm pretty lazy for the most part. My youngest is 2 1/2 I shouldnt still be carrying around baby weight especially since I was so fit before.



What do you think?

laurenmik 3 kids; Aurora, Colorado 7222 posts
5th Jul '13

I use it as an excuse for my lose skin and stretch marks, but not my weight.

He Who Must Not Be Named 2 kids; Whiskey Dick Mountain, WA, United States 59290 posts
5th Jul '13

Is it an excuse to be unhealthy? No.



But extra weight or sag does not equal unhealthy. Sometimes pregnancy does change the shape of your body, the way you carry weight, etc.



(ETA: Basically... weight is not the only indicator of "healthy", is what I was trying to say).

~Deer Eyes~ Due June 12; 4 kids; Norfolk, VA, United States 1892 posts
5th Jul '13

I do believe it is harder to be in shape when you have kids because there just isn't enough hours in the day for everything. But it is no excuse to be unhealthy. But do not forget that dropping weight is not easy for everyone and can be discouraging too.

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
5th Jul '13

It's the reason I have this stupid skin pouch but I'm fairly healthy aside from that and within the accepted weight for my height. I think if you're massively overweight, it's not an excuse unless pregnancy fucked your thyroid over.

Vanilla MILFshake. 1 child; Georgia 5424 posts
5th Jul '13
Quoting laurenmik:" I use it as an excuse for my lose skin and stretch marks, but not my weight."


:!:

homes cool 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Indiana 60938 posts
5th Jul '13

An excuse to be unhealthy? Nope. Not at all.



I know some very healthy women who look overweight though. So I think those are two different ball games.

Madi's*Mama Due November 2; 1 child; Holland, Michigan 7391 posts
5th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting The Doctor:</b>" Is it an excuse to be unhealthy? No. But extra weight or sag does not equal unhealthy. Sometimes pregnancy ... [snip!] ... the way you carry weight, etc. (ETA: Basically... weight is not the only indicator of "healthy", is what I was trying to say)."</blockquote>



!!!!!

I mustache you a ? Litchfield, NY, United States 67097 posts
status 5th Jul '13

I think pregnancy does things to a body that can't be undone... easily, if at all.
It's not an excuse to be fat, no. But it changes the shape of your body and that you just have to deal with.
I hate my body til someone is in shock about how many kids I've had...Then I'm like 8) yeahhhh

Crazyhazel89 1 child; Erie, Pennsylvania 3994 posts
5th Jul '13

eh...no not really. I still haven't lost the baby weight and mine is 15 months old...I actually blame the mirena..I think I gained 20 lbs on it. The only thing is that I find it hard to go to the gym because I am so drained after a day or working and then coming home to get the baby fed and ready for bed by that time I am wanting to relax...

ℕightingale 1 child; Mississippi 7052 posts
5th Jul '13

No, it's not an excuse to be unhealthy. I gained so much weight after I had DD my heaviest was 164 I'm only 5'2. It's hard to lose weight so I get it. I finally got my ass in gear after nearly 2 yrs and I'm 136 right now.

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 16765 posts
5th Jul '13

I think being obsessed with being in shape is unhealthy more than being 20 lbs "overweight."



Everyone has a different body shape and I am one of those people who think that not everyone is meant to be a size 0, kids or not.

A, E & W's mommy Due October 21; Bulgaria 15280 posts
5th Jul '13

I think when people say 'you're looking for having X number of kids' it's moreso referencing the fact that in shape and healthy or not, most women's bodies are never quite the same after children, you can be the same weight as before and healthy but still look fluffier or wider etc. I carry my weight differently after each child and I always get back to my pre preg weight and I always eat pretty healthy, I even got to the gym 5 days a week but that doesn't change that being on my 4th baby is changing and has changed my body in some permenant ways.

ElleBelle (32 weeks) Due September 22; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Rio Rancho, NM, United States 21508 posts
status 5th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting The Doctor:</b>" Is it an excuse to be unhealthy? No. But extra weight or sag does not equal unhealthy. Sometimes pregnancy ... [snip!] ... the way you carry weight, etc. (ETA: Basically... weight is not the only indicator of "healthy", is what I was trying to say)."</blockquote>




Right on skinny sista

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
5th Jul '13

I look f**king spectacular for having 4 kids in as many years. 8)