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a womans body after children. user banned
Jul 5th '13

Do you think that having children is an excuse to not being healthy and in shape?



And I don't mean pop out a baby and go straight to the gym.



It just drives me crazy when people are like, "you look good for having two kids".... I am 20 lbs over weight, having children isn't an excuse. I'm pretty lazy for the most part. My youngest is 2 1/2 I shouldnt still be carrying around baby weight especially since I was so fit before.



What do you think?

laurenmik 3 kids; Aurora, Colorado 7225 posts
Jul 5th '13

I use it as an excuse for my lose skin and stretch marks, but not my weight.

The Doctor 2 kids; Boulder, CO, United States 60754 posts
status Jul 5th '13

Is it an excuse to be unhealthy? No.



But extra weight or sag does not equal unhealthy. Sometimes pregnancy does change the shape of your body, the way you carry weight, etc.



(ETA: Basically... weight is not the only indicator of "healthy", is what I was trying to say).

~Deer Eyes~ Due June 12; 4 kids; Norfolk, VA, United States 1892 posts
Jul 5th '13

I do believe it is harder to be in shape when you have kids because there just isn't enough hours in the day for everything. But it is no excuse to be unhealthy. But do not forget that dropping weight is not easy for everyone and can be discouraging too.

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
Jul 5th '13

It's the reason I have this stupid skin pouch but I'm fairly healthy aside from that and within the accepted weight for my height. I think if you're massively overweight, it's not an excuse unless pregnancy fucked your thyroid over.

Vanilla MILFshake. 1 child; Wonderland, US, United States 5670 posts
Jul 5th '13
Quoting laurenmik:" I use it as an excuse for my lose skin and stretch marks, but not my weight."


:!:

homes cool Due July 25; 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Indiana 63165 posts
Jul 5th '13

An excuse to be unhealthy? Nope. Not at all.



I know some very healthy women who look overweight though. So I think those are two different ball games.

Madi's*Mama Due November 2; 1 child; Holland, Michigan 7391 posts
Jul 5th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting The Doctor:</b>" Is it an excuse to be unhealthy? No. But extra weight or sag does not equal unhealthy. Sometimes pregnancy ... [snip!] ... the way you carry weight, etc. (ETA: Basically... weight is not the only indicator of "healthy", is what I was trying to say)."</blockquote>



!!!!!

Crazyhazel89 1 child; Erie, Pennsylvania 3994 posts
Jul 5th '13

eh...no not really. I still haven't lost the baby weight and mine is 15 months old...I actually blame the mirena..I think I gained 20 lbs on it. The only thing is that I find it hard to go to the gym because I am so drained after a day or working and then coming home to get the baby fed and ready for bed by that time I am wanting to relax...

Bad Things Blacksburg, SC, United States 21224 posts
Jul 5th '13

I think being obsessed with being in shape is unhealthy more than being 20 lbs "overweight."



Everyone has a different body shape and I am one of those people who think that not everyone is meant to be a size 0, kids or not.

A, E & W's mommy 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Bulgaria 18453 posts
Jul 5th '13

I think when people say 'you're looking for having X number of kids' it's moreso referencing the fact that in shape and healthy or not, most women's bodies are never quite the same after children, you can be the same weight as before and healthy but still look fluffier or wider etc. I carry my weight differently after each child and I always get back to my pre preg weight and I always eat pretty healthy, I even got to the gym 5 days a week but that doesn't change that being on my 4th baby is changing and has changed my body in some permenant ways.

Elle&Cole⛄️ Due June 15 (boy); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Rio Rancho, NM, United States 31099 posts
Jul 5th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting The Doctor:</b>" Is it an excuse to be unhealthy? No. But extra weight or sag does not equal unhealthy. Sometimes pregnancy ... [snip!] ... the way you carry weight, etc. (ETA: Basically... weight is not the only indicator of "healthy", is what I was trying to say)."</blockquote>




Right on skinny sista

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
Jul 5th '13

I look f**king spectacular for having 4 kids in as many years. 8)

user banned 33 kids; British Columbia 2986 posts
Jul 5th '13

I wouldn't say I am "unhealthy" but I am about 40 pounds overweight.



I can't move my spine(I can't really run, do sit ups, twist ect) which makes working out and losing weight really difficult for me.

coffee-holic 4 kids; Maryland 1586 posts
Jul 5th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting The Doctor:</b>" Is it an excuse to be unhealthy? No. But extra weight or sag does not equal unhealthy. Sometimes pregnancy ... [snip!] ... the way you carry weight, etc. (ETA: Basically... weight is not the only indicator of "healthy", is what I was trying to say)."</blockquote>




This! Plus everyone loses the baby weight at different rates. I have some people tell me I look great for having 3 kids, my youngest under two years & some say I need to gain some that I lost to much. I feel good about where I am with my weight & size so to me that's all that matters.i just say thank you when an comments are made & keep going on with my day.



Op you do look good for having two kids.don't put yourself down, enjoy the compliment!