user banned 33 kids; British Columbia 2986 posts
Jul 5th '13

I wouldn't say I am "unhealthy" but I am about 40 pounds overweight.

I can't move my spine(I can't really run, do sit ups, twist ect) which makes working out and losing weight really difficult for me.

coffee-holic 4 kids; Maryland 1586 posts
Jul 5th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting The Doctor:</b>" Is it an excuse to be unhealthy? No. But extra weight or sag does not equal unhealthy. Sometimes pregnancy ... [snip!] ... the way you carry weight, etc. (ETA: Basically... weight is not the only indicator of "healthy", is what I was trying to say)."</blockquote>

This! Plus everyone loses the baby weight at different rates. I have some people tell me I look great for having 3 kids, my youngest under two years & some say I need to gain some that I lost to much. I feel good about where I am with my weight & size so to me that's all that matters.i just say thank you when an comments are made & keep going on with my day.

Op you do look good for having two kids.don't put yourself down, enjoy the compliment!

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 21115 posts
Jul 5th '13

Also, your ab muscles play a sort of "corset" to your midsection. When you are pregnant, especially multiple times, it ruins it so it can be impossible to have that "fit" matter how many sit ups you do.

Vivian [♥] 2 kids; Balls Deep, in, Georgia 13935 posts
Jul 5th '13

Nope, definitely not.
What everyone else said pretty much, I agree with.

I also don't think having kids is an excuse to not exercise either. There are days I don't get a minute to myself but I still find ways to exercise. I've used our elliptical at 1 in the morning before. You should be leading an active lifestyle anyway, and not trying to find a way and time to be active.

smASHface 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Chicago, IL, United States 57363 posts
Jul 5th '13

I'm always told that I look amazing for having 3 kids, 2 being twins. I'm skinny and only weigh 130lbs (I'm 5'9"). The only thing I use them for an excuse is the saggy skin after stretching out to 185lbs like this 36weeks2.jpg
but even still, it's not that bad. I just can't get rid of it at all!

SaraDenise 2 kids; Durant, Oklahoma 827 posts
Jul 5th '13

Idk how to answer your question OP. I think our society as a whole puts too much emphasis on how people look instead of what kind of person they are. A few of the people I consider to have greatly influenced my life might be considered overweight. Does that mean I should respect them less because they don't have a fit, toned body or does it mean that their hug is just a little more cuddly than the average persons?

Yes, we should all take steps to have healthier lifestyles, but as far as judging someone based on their weight, I can't do that.