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user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
6th Jul '13
Quoting Gi Millz:" He doesn't discipline her over the phone, I solely discipline. If he hears her acting up when he is ... [snip!] ... once I get my own place it would be easier, but while I'm here still is very hard. very, VERY hard to get her to listen to me"


tell your family to mind their own business. get a reign on it now, it's only going to get worse.
She's probably feeling confused with her dad being gone, and a new place with more people. It's normal for her to act out.

Gi Millz 2 kids; South Carolina 1813 posts
6th Jul '13
Quoting Mama Van D:" So, uhm... Can I ask why he's in prison?"


that isn't exactly relevant to what I'm asking help for. it wasn't anything to do with children or endangerment if that's what your concern is.

Mama Lizzy :] 1 child; Texas 5575 posts
6th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Gi Millz:</b>" That might would help, I appreciate that I'll try... and it's just a funny picture please don't take that seriously, I wasn't able to produce enough milk to breast feed either of my girls"</blockquote>



Ah gotcha...



This site is golden....It really helped me reduce my son's tantrums...he is alot happier all around.
They have alot of diiferent advice for different ages...and situations..



http://www.ahaparenting.com/ages-stages/preschoolers

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
6th Jul '13
Quoting Gi Millz:" that isn't exactly relevant to what I'm asking help for. it wasn't anything to do with children or endangerment if that's what your concern is."


Do you take them to the prison?

Mama Van D 18 kids; Unity, Maine 2454 posts
6th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Gi Millz:</b>" that isn't exactly relevant to what I'm asking help for. it wasn't anything to do with children or endangerment if that's what your concern is."</blockquote>



I didn't have anything specifically in mind, which is why I asked. You don't have to answer if you don't want to obviously, I was just curious.

Gi Millz 2 kids; South Carolina 1813 posts
6th Jul '13
Quoting A❤T=P&W:" tell your family to mind their own business. get a reign on it now, it's only going to get worse. ... [snip!] ... She's probably feeling confused with her dad being gone, and a new place with more people. It's normal for her to act out. "


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Gi Millz 2 kids; South Carolina 1813 posts
6th Jul '13
Quoting Mama Lizzy :]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Gi Millz:</b>" That might would help, I appreciate that I'll ... [snip!] ... They have alot of diiferent advice for different ages...and situations.. http://www.ahaparenting.com/ages-stages/preschoolers"


Thank You so much I appreciate that!

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
6th Jul '13
Quoting Gi Millz:" The only problem with when I speak out to my family, it causes fist fights. I kid you not I've been ... [snip!] ... have to have another place to go first since the house is in my parents name. Sucks man, I just wish she'd stop acting so bad!"


Why the f**k would you stay that, that's a messed up environment. Of course she doesn't listen and is mean. Get a job and get out of there, before CPS takes your kids.

♥♬♡ 2 kids; Pennsylvania 10325 posts
6th Jul '13
Quoting Gi Millz:" The only problem with when I speak out to my family, it causes fist fights. I kid you not I've been ... [snip!] ... have to have another place to go first since the house is in my parents name. Sucks man, I just wish she'd stop acting so bad!"



Wow, you def need to pack your shit and go! no one would ever get away with abusing me in front of my kids nor telling me how to raise them...I am sorry people are being rude, my advice is to get your own place until your man gets home from prison...damn 10 years??!? thats a long time :(

Mama Lizzy :] 1 child; Texas 5575 posts
6th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Gi Millz:</b>" Thank You so much I appreciate that!"</blockquote>




Your welcome :) Hang in there Mama

Gi Millz 2 kids; South Carolina 1813 posts
6th Jul '13
Quoting A❤T=P&W:" Do you take them to the prison?"


Not yet, I see other moms that take their kids and they look happy and the fathers are being dads and stuff, and my SO misses our girls a lot he wants to see them, but they're not even approved for visit yet, and I am scared about how they'll react to seeing their daddy after not seeing him since December and then having to leave 4 hours later...

♥♬♡ 2 kids; Pennsylvania 10325 posts
6th Jul '13
Quoting Gi Millz:" Not yet, I see other moms that take their kids and they look happy and the fathers are being dads and ... [snip!] ... about how they'll react to seeing their daddy after not seeing him since December and then having to leave 4 hours later..."


I use to visit my dad in prison all the time, but I was a bit older, like 8 and he was in for 4 years for armed robbery.

Gi Millz 2 kids; South Carolina 1813 posts
6th Jul '13
Quoting A❤T=P&W:" Why the f**k would you stay that, that's a messed up environment. Of course she doesn't listen and is mean. Get a job and get out of there, before CPS takes your kids."


Of course I'm trying to get a job and get out of here, my grandparents take me twice a week to go job searching because I don't have a car either because I lost it after he went to prison. I got fired from my last job because of everything that's been going on, I've gone to temp agencies and applied for jobs online. I don't know if my previous termination is hurting me or what is going on, I got unemployment but it's no where near enough and housing authority has me on the list as an urgent placement, but no luck yet.

Tara plus 2.5:) Due October 10; 34 kids; Missouri 2770 posts
6th Jul '13

Sounds like you need to move and you do whatever it takes to get out of there. That's not an okay environment for kids. Kids learn and behave the way they do bc of what their surroundings are like. No one needs to be hitting each other, cops shouldn't be called and people shouldnt be telling you how to raise your kids. A few wrong moves when they are younger and BAM they are getting into trouble as preteens or teenagers and you do not want that. Also, since the father is in jail I say counseling may help for her bc shes probably really confused on why shes not seeing her dad and why things arent how they used to be.

Leah+2 2 kids; Texas 5797 posts
6th Jul '13

Not only is she adjusting to a new place, she's adjusting to daddy never being around. That's a lot for an adult let alone a child who can't completely express themselves. You know? And you need to leave your parents house ASAP. Your kids (nor you) deserve to be in that kind of environment. You dad laying a hand on you for any reason is unacceptable, especially in front of your children.



Leave. Then work on the behavior issues as they come. Let her know it's ok to be upset but that she needs to use her words like a big girl and talk to you. My son is 3 as well and we let him express his emotions as long ad he's not hurting himself or someone else. And try to teach him to talk his feelings out instead of screaming or yelling at us.




Good luck!!