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I didnt tell him..... Thorian's Mommy 1 child; Westbrook, ME, United States 8415 posts
6th Jul '13

I didnt tell him Happy Fathers Day this year. :( I was to upset with him at the time. I wish I could go back and tell you and give you one last hug. :'(
Its the only thing I have ever regreted in my life.

Motherofatoddler 1 child; Kansas City, Kansas 2223 posts
status 6th Jul '13

It is ok. Im sure he knows/knew. Let it go. sorry for your loss.

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44071 posts
6th Jul '13

*hugs* :( he knows sweetie. Focus on good memories.

Leah+2 2 kids; Texas 5797 posts
6th Jul '13

I'm sorry for your loss :(




The last thing I said to my dad was "I'll send your birthday card when I get a stamp" and then when I didn't get my card from him (a couple after his) and I didn't hear from him on my birthday, I knew something was wrong. I held onto the card in hopes I was wrong and would hear from him. And after a couple weeks of nothing I asked his sister to check on him since they only lived like 10 miles apart, she told me no because she was sure he was fine and just on a binge. I got a call from the sheriff a few days later and according to the coroner he died the day before my birthday.




I buried him with his birthday card from that year. I'm sure your dad knew you loved him, but I also know nothing anyone says will remove that guilt from you. Hugs mama.

Rebekah Garden x3 Due October 5 (boy); 33 kids; Fall River, Massachusetts 5223 posts
6th Jul '13

:( i am so sorry for your loss. it's definitely a tough thing when people pass. I was with my dad literally a few hours before he died. It was a relief though I was 17 and he was in critical condition. He had lung cancer and he had given up fighting. I miss him everyday.



My DH just lost his dad (dec 17 2012) he was fine as everyone thought. I said to DH on Sunday, honey please call your dad. Well he hates when I tell him to do things so he didn't. The next morning he got a call that his dad was dead. He finally started going to counseling and it has helped him tremendously!



There will always be "what ifs" when someone passes. I suggest writing everything you wanted him to know down in a letter and bury him with it.

Thorian's Mommy 1 child; Westbrook, ME, United States 8415 posts
6th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Leah+1.5:</b>" I'm sorry for your loss :( The last thing I said to my dad was "I'll send your birthday card when I ... [snip!] ... year. I'm sure your dad knew you loved him, but I also know nothing anyone says will remove that guilt from you. Hugs mama."</blockquote>



Thanks hun. I think its finally getting me tonight. He passed late Thursday night. Ive been trying to stay strong for my mom. Shes finally getting some sleep and now that everything is quite my emotions are just all over the place.

Leah+2 2 kids; Texas 5797 posts
6th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Thorian's Mommy:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Leah+1.5:</b>" I'm sorry for your loss :( The last thing I ... [snip!] ... strong for my mom. Shes finally getting some sleep and now that everything is quite my emotions are just all over the place."</blockquote>




It effects everyone differently. I cried for like a few weeks straight. And even now 7 years later sometimes I find myself crying. So while time heals it never goes away honestly. And all of the emotions you're going to feel are normal. I had anger and depression and a ton of others all at the same time. I'm here if you need me, it gets easier but never completely goes away.